"If I am infertile, can you and your family accept a daughter-in-law like me?" "Your mother and I fell into the water at the same time, and we can only save one. Who do you save first?"...

Once upon a time, how many women regarded relationship expert Ayawawa's "Five Questions Before Marriage" as a bible and used them to test their boyfriends. If the score is high, they cheer for joy and believe that their boyfriend is the person they can spend the rest of their lives with; if the score is low, they feel frustrated and even doubt their boyfriend's sincerity towards them. But today, some people sneer at this and propose a new "Five Questions Before Marriage". Compared with the old ones, can the new "Five Questions" really reveal the password for a harmonious relationship between husband and wife?

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My boyfriend scored low on the "Five Questions Before Marriage" but is still a good husband after marriage

Chen Dan: "If I don't have the ability to have children" "Can you and your family accept a daughter-in-law like me?"

Jiang Lin: "Why do you ask this suddenly? If you are infertile, I can accept it and I will convince my parents to accept it."

Chen Dan: "Then if I meet a rapist, do you want me to defend my chastity to the death, or do you want me to obey so as not to be hurt more?"

Jiang Lin: "Needless to say, Of course I won’t get hurt any more!”

Chen Dan: “Do you have my name on your property certificate?”

Jiang Lin: “My parents bought the house. And it has been paid in full, so I won’t write your name.”

Chen Dan: “Your mother and I fell into the water at the same time. We can only save one. Who do you save first?”

Jiang Lin: "Which one has a higher chance of survival, save which one."

Chen Dan: "If I have a dystocia, and even if I am saved, I will completely lose my fertility. At this time, your parents If you want to protect your child, do you choose to protect the adult or the child?"

Jiang Lin: "Protect the adult."

When Chen Dan and her boyfriend Jiang Lin discussed marriage, they always paid attention to emotional experts. Chen Dan from Ayawawa saw this "Five Questions Before Marriage" theory several years ago. Each of the five questions is worth 100 points. Jiang Lin's answers to two questions were unsatisfactory and he could only score 60 points. This made her wonder, was Jiang Lin really that Mr. Right?

In fact, Chen Dan had expected Jiang Lin's answer about the real estate certificate and which one to save. He has always been a relatively rational person. It does not seem surprising to have such an answer, but Chen Dan said it from his mouth. Dan felt a little uncomfortable again. As Ayawawa said, these five questions do not reflect the problem itself, but reflect the man's EQ, IQ and whether he loves you, whether he is willing to coax you, and whether he is willing to put your feelings above his own. .

Chen Dan felt that Jiang Lin didn’t love her that much, and gradually she had no expectations for the wedding.

Jiang Lin also noticed that Chen Dan was not interested in the wedding. She put off taking wedding photos again and again, used various excuses not to go to the wedding venue, and was too lazy to choose any invitations and souvenirs. She was far different from the bride-to-be who was so excited about planning all the details of the wedding. But being so stupid, he never thought that it was because of those problems!

Even though Chen Dan is unwilling to do so, Chen Dan is not an impulsive and reckless person. What's more, if his parents know that he will not marry their promising future son-in-law due to several problems, they will have to make a big fuss with her. Not available. That's all, although he didn't get full marks, he at least passed, right? How many people can get full marks?

After marriage, Chen Dan discovered that her thoughts before marriage were completely wrong. Although her name was not added to the wedding house, her parents-in-law did not live with them either. Jiang Lin bought her a car and gave her the financial power of the family. When he occasionally had conflicts with his mother-in-law, Jiang Lin always stood firmly on her side. Jiang Lin still didn't know how to say nice things, but he was unambiguous in his actions. Chen Dan feels that her marriage is very happy and does not have the so-called sadness of being married to a "low-scoring man".

Later, Chen Dan realized that the black-and-white answers to questions like "Five Questions Before Marriage" cannot guarantee a happy marriage.

Even if someone gets full marks, who can guarantee that he will not change in the future?

The new "Five Questions" troubled him endlessly, but they became a protective shield for his marriage

Facing the new "Five Questions", Zhang Yijin was very distressed. He secretly checked Ayawawa's "Premarital Questions" online. "Five Questions", instead of avoiding it like other men, he thought in his heart: Why not let me answer this? Just answer yes or no to this!

It turned out that Zhang Yijin proposed to his girlfriend Su Su, but Su Su did not agree immediately. Instead, she sent him five questions on WeChat and told him: "If we think about the five questions If they all agree, let’s get married.”

Zhang Yijin felt overwhelmed by these five questions:

How much sex should we have?

To have children or not? When was she born? How many children? How to raise? How to divide labor?

How is our money distributed? Do we have a division of labor in the family?

How should we view, treat, support, help, and help our own parents and relatives? Where are the boundaries?

What are the red flags for marriage? How should we deal with this signal?

Zhang Yijin feels that after answering all these questions, you can write a short paper, which is simply more difficult than writing a year-end work summary. For a moment, he felt that Su Su was a little pretentious. These problems could be understood and solved after marriage. Looking at the couples around him, which one was not crossing the river by feeling the stones?

But Su Su did it again. He also wanted to marry her. He spent three nights and actually wrote a 3,000-word article and sent it to Su Su, and Su Su received it. After that, she sent back her thoughts in red letters and said, "If you can accept my thoughts, then let's get married."

Zhang Yijin saw that Su Su was only interested in having children. There is a discrepancy with oneself. He wanted to have two children as soon as he got married, but Susu wanted to have another child three years after marriage, and only one. Zhang Yijin felt that women suffered when having children. He could understand that Su Su didn't want to have more children, so he should respect her opinion.

After confirming that both parties had consistent answers to the five questions, Zhang Yijin and Su Su received the certificates. After marriage, the piano and the harp played in harmony. Because there were clear definitions before marriage in terms of housework, money, and relatives of both parties, the two only had small quarrels and no major conflicts.

On the other hand, the young couples around me get married in ignorance, and after marriage they can also have big quarrels over issues such as who takes out the garbage. Zhang Yijin feels that Su Su’s “Five Questions to Ask Before Marriage” is really great!

Netizens’ opinions gt; gt;

Netizens have something to say about the old and new “Five Questions”:

Ayawawa’s “Five Questions Before Marriage” are It was proposed in 2011, and the new "Five Questions" were proposed by emotional blogger Lydia Mumu this year. There are many supporters and opponents. Let's take a look at male netizens and female netizens