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Oralist: Si Shuang

Born: 1980

Age: 27 years old

Occupation: Teaching assistant

Nationplace: Shanghainese

Only Child Certificate: Obtained

I met Si Shuang because a single man I interviewed before invited me to a party. In fact, it was a blind date arrangement, and it was also the most powerful and serious negotiation-like blind date I have ever seen.

The meeting will be held at the coffee shop on the 88th floor of Jinwei Building in Pudong, Shanghai. A cup of coffee there costs 88 yuan. My friend has a small career and is somewhat wealthy, but he has been busy these years. I started my business in my 30s and am still alone. This grand blind date was arranged so grandly, it seems that I have fallen in love with this Shanghai girl I have never met before.

But he soon realized the challenges he had to go through if he wanted to marry a Shanghai girl.

That night, the heroine Si Shuang and her family arrived an hour and a half late. After receiving a call from their friends that their family was visiting Jinwei Building, they stood at the elevator door and waited eagerly to get off the elevator. There were about seven or eight people, old and young, but Si Shuang, the heroine of the blind date, was missing. My friend was a little anxious and asked an older woman with a shrewd look. He was told that the girl was in the dressing room and would come up later.

After everyone was seated and the 88-yuan coffee was filled with smoke, the girl walked out of the elevator accompanied by her mother.

The girl's skin is very good, shining like fine porcelain, her eyebrows are delicate, and she is fashionably dressed. She is a typical Shanghai Xiaojiabiyu.

My friend’s eyes lit up a little when he saw it, and he was obviously very satisfied. With a wave, the waiter brought a bunch of fruit plates and ice cream. Before my friend could say anything, the introducer started to introduce, I said this It seems like all the girls’ families are out on the blind date, and it seems that’s true. Dad, mom, grandpa, grandma, aunts, uncles, aunts, everyone in their family who has time probably all come.

Looking at their appearance, they didn’t look like a family with particularly good financial conditions. Sure enough, the first words Si Shuang’s mother said were: “Mr. Huang, didn’t you buy your two houses with loans? "The first thing Si Shuang's father said was, "Do you have a Shanghai household registration?" The first thing Si Shuang's aunt said was, "Mr. Huang, your family will have to hire a nanny in the future. Ala, this niece has everything. I don’t know how to do it.”

I attended this blind date meeting as a friend of Mr. Huang, but I saw that the woman’s family did not leave the word “money” in the two rounds of conversation, so I was short of requests. Mr. Huang provided proof of deposit. I was a little unhappy and interjected: "The girl is quite beautiful. Can she cook?"

I didn't expect this sentence to make Mr. Huang who was very anxious and exhausted. After taking a breath, Si Shuang's mother was very displeased: "What are you talking about? Can you cook? You can go and find out. Now some of our only daughters will learn to cook. We It’s too late for my baby. Are you willing to let your daughter cook? Besides, my daughter went to a prestigious school and is the best in every subject. Our primary school is ×× primary school, the best school in Shanghai. , I went to XX middle school, the best middle school in Shanghai, and the university is also the best university in Shanghai. Moreover, because I am so outstanding, I was retained as a teaching assistant. Will such an outstanding daughter cook for you? I'm so confused." I was a little surprised to see Si Shuang's mother reacting so strongly to this issue. Mr. Huang was also embarrassed. In order to find a way out, I had to say, "Well, she doesn't have fever. "Fan, how will the young couple live together in the future? After all, life is real."

"Huh," Si Shuang's mother rolled her eyes at me, "What kind of era are we in now? Those who want a wife." The concept of living a life serving men is outdated. A wife is married to be loved, not to be used. If such an excellent girl marries you, we are not willing to let her cook. Wouldn't we let her do this for you? What's wrong with cooking? They can go to restaurants and I can cook for them. Besides, they can hire a nanny. My daughter won't marry a man who can't afford a nanny.

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Anyway, if I interfered, the blind date would have ended unhappily. I felt a little sorry for my friend Mr. Huang, and I told him that I was working on the first-generation only-child marriage. I wanted to ask him to forgive me, but he smiled bitterly and waved his hand, "It's not your problem, it's my problem. Not only do I have loans for both houses, but I don't want to hire a nanny at home in the future. I want to marry a wife with Yes, this is not to their liking, so it doesn’t matter if this marriage fails. ”

Just when Mr. Huang was about to give up, the introducer sent word again, saying that the girl proposed that as long as Mr. Huang could guarantee to pay off the house in one lump sum before getting married, they were still willing to date for a period of time. , because Mr. Huang is indeed good-looking, and he is only 6 years older than the girl. The girl herself is quite willing.

Maybe it was love at first sight, and Mr. Huang actually agreed. Their conditions, just when I was happy that my friend Mr. Huang, who had been single for many years and finally had the hope of starting a family, Mr. Huang, who had been passionately in love with the 26-year-old girl Si Shuang for more than three months, called me a long-distance call from Shanghai: " Generation gap, generation gap, it is completely impossible for us to communicate normally between two generations. I really like her, but I really don’t dare to make the decision to marry her. Recently, her mother urged me to buy her a three-carat diamond ring to get engaged. A three-carat diamond ring costs more than 500,000 yuan for a famous brand. They really thought they had found a rich man. I am just a small boss who is working hard. After I bought the house, I was already frugal and rarely even played golf. The quality of my life had deteriorated so quickly in order to marry a wife, and I was about to collapse. ”

Although my friend is full of complaints, I can tell that he really loves that girl and is already preparing to get married to her.

I can hear what my friend said. , If I don’t buy this diamond ring, the girl is not even active in dating. Mr. Huang, who thinks he has paid a lot, can’t bear it. One day, he suddenly told me that he would take the girl to Beijing for a few days to relax and see Beijing. I was a little surprised. He smiled bitterly on the phone and said, "When we meet, you can have a good chat with this girl for me and help me judge whether she likes me as a person or my money. I I'm a little confused now. ”

Because I met the girl Si Shuang once in Shanghai, we seemed to be very familiar with each other when we met in Beijing. I offered to treat them to dinner. I could see that the girl was very happy. After the meal, We went to Houhai to find a secluded place to drink tea. My friend left early with the excuse that he wanted to meet his business partners in Beijing. I knew that this was giving me time and space to "investigate" this girl.

Me and I. Si Shuang slowly talked about clothes and cosmetics. The gentleness of Shanghai girls is indeed very comfortable, but her unabashed desire is indeed stressful.

I asked her, this time. If she bought the diamond ring, she could probably set the engagement date with Mr. Huang. Unexpectedly, she smiled slightly. It was just a gift and it didn't mean anything. She still couldn't be sure whether Mr. Huang was a reliable man. How could she do it so easily? What about marriage?

I was shocked: “More than 500,000 yuan, just a gift? What on earth was this girl thinking? ”

Under my guidance, Si Shuang slowly talked about herself:

My family background is not good. My parents both came back from the Corps. I grew up with my grandparents. My parents got married very late, so after they had me, they pampered me like a baby and didn’t let me do anything. Especially my mother. She said that girls only need to be delicate and beautiful. , just read the book well, you don’t need to be able to do many things.

So, except for reading, I thought there was nothing I could do by myself. I am like this, and after entering college, the girls in my dormitory are almost like this. When we are together, we never compete with each other about who can do housework. The most common thing is who can't do it the most, and who is the laziest. None of them knew how to fold the quilt. Anyone who folded the quilt or tidied their own bed would be scolded by other girls. Once I checked the dormitory right after I folded the quilt. As a result, we were rated as the worst dormitory. We were in the same dormitory. All the girls scolded me and punished me by treating them to ice cream. During the four years of college, I took all my clothes and socks home and threw them to my mother. My mother would bring them to school for me on Mondays. Girls in the city spend money to go out and wash clothes. A shirt costs 5 yuan, and underwear and socks cost 3 yuan. Anyway, there are many small laundries around the school that serve college students.

My mother often says that although our family’s financial situation is average, I am their only daughter. She will never say anything to make me worse than other children. In my memory, my mother loves me the most. Bought me a gift. I got countless gifts growing up. Once, she used one month’s salary to buy me a pure gold necklace. My dad was very unhappy and said it was too extravagant for me to wear such a thing when I was only a teenager. Because of this, our family had no vegetables to eat for half a month, but my mother is such a person. She never lets me suffer in the slightest.

When I was a sophomore in college, my mother started asking people to introduce me to boyfriends. My mother said that the environment in our family was poor, and the only way to change was to marry a rich man. My uncle and aunt also said that since I was the first girl in our family to reach the age of marriage, I must marry a rich man to set an example for their children.

I felt a little disapproving of it at first. Later, when I saw that their expectations were so high, I also felt that I couldn’t marry someone with no money. I think my mother was right, I had to rely on myself. How many years of work will it take to buy a house? Should I marry a man with more money so that I can live a good life soon? Now that I have money, won’t my parents not have to work so hard? Only then did I understand what my mother meant when she said, "If you want to change our family's destiny, I have to marry a rich man."

I used to have a boyfriend who was from Singapore. He was two years older than me and we were schoolmates. I still liked him quite a lot. He was quite generous and gave me a lot of gifts. But then I Mom heard that his parents were teachers in Singapore and the family didn’t have much money, so they insisted that I break up with him. Later he went to the United States. I was very sorry about this, but there was nothing I could do. I knew my mother You are so determined for my own good.

Later, my aunt introduced me to a Chinese-American who was 12 years older than me and relatively wealthy. He said that he could take me to settle in the United States and that I could be a full-time wife and also have a family. He promised to buy a house for my parents in Shanghai. We both had an eye on the house. When we were about to get engaged, he told me that he wanted three children, two daughters and a son. The girl made an agreement not to have any children. I don’t like children, and I don’t want to take care of them myself. That would be terrible. I told my mother about this, and my mother said that you can promise him that you will only have one child, whether it is a daughter or a son, and you can only give him one child. If he agrees, you will get engaged. If you don't agree, you will pretend that you have not talked to him.

As a result, he firmly disagreed with my idea of ??having only one child. He said, I can afford it, so why can’t I have more?

Actually, I don’t have the same language as him, but because I wanted to go abroad and he would buy a house for our family, I wanted to associate with him, so of course we couldn’t agree on this matter. It means to cut it off.

Later, my mother spent 6,000 yuan to register me as a member of a high-end dating club. It is said that the people who registered with them were all elites and successful people, because I was young and pretty. Beautiful, the people at the club were very enthusiastic towards me and always said they would introduce the best and richest people to me. But more than a year has passed and I have met hundreds of so-called successful people. There is no one that can continue to develop. Basically, there is nothing more to do after drinking coffee or eating a meal. I am also very puzzled. Once, I accidentally met a man who had met me before in a coffee shop. I just greeted him politely, but he came up and said, "Miss Si, it's a pleasure to meet you. I still have an impression of you." That's great. Can you think about it again?"

His words made me stunned for a long time. "What should I consider?" "Consider dating me for a while." I never said you couldn't. You were dating, "That's not right. The people at the club said that you are not interested in me and do not agree to date me."

I was surprised by what this man said, and I went to the club angrily The people there understood what was going on, and one of them quietly told me that for a young and beautiful girl like me, the club usually wouldn’t let me find a date easily, so they put my file The longer the photos stay on the computer, the more money they make, because many people ask to meet me because they saw my information and photos. However, if they want to meet me, they have to pay money, and... The price is very high. Generally, only VIP members can arrange to meet me, and that is a level that requires paying 8,000 to 10,000 yuan.

After meeting, many men were very satisfied with me and asked to date me. At this time, the club would tell him, "This girl doesn't like you and doesn't want to date you. Let's introduce you to someone else."

Generally, men have very strong self-esteem. I heard from people in the club that they would not date the girl again if they were not attracted to her. In this way, I became a member of this high-end dating club without knowing it. Although I was very angry, I couldn't do anything about them. The most I could do was stop meeting the men they arranged, but my money was wasted.

Later, I heard that most dating clubs do this. Moreover, some clubs are very preferential to young girls, allowing you to join at a low price, and then continue to arrange for men to meet you. Invisibly, you become their cash cow, but they don't care whether you can find a suitable partner for them. Moreover, in order for you to make money for them, they will try their best to get you to make money for them no matter which person you like. The ground has been torn apart for you, either because you are not good, or because the man is terrible. Therefore, you often come here because you want to solve your marriage problems, but if you encounter such a black-hearted dating club, you will never even think about it in your life. When you meet the right person, it's actually just a scam.

In order to get revenge on the dating club that used me as a shill, I agreed to date the man who met me in the cafe and asked me to continue dating for a period of time. .

When I first met him, I remember that the business card he gave me was the chairman of an investment company. Moreover, he drove a Mercedes-Benz and lived in the Pearl River Apartments, which is the most expensive apartment in Shanghai. One of the houses, I think his financial strength should be good.

But after dating for a while, I found that he was very stingy and rarely gave me gifts. Moreover, he often took me to eat fast food, saying that he was short of time. I felt that he was just trying to save money. One time, we went shopping and I saw a Dior bag, which only cost more than 2,000 yuan. I asked him to buy it for me, but he was shocked when he heard it, "What! A hand-sized bag costs more than 2,000 yuan." , How much does it cost to buy a piece of cowhide?”

Although he bought me the bag at my insistence that day, I could tell that he was a little unhappy, and later we had dinner together. When I was there, he suddenly said to me, "I want to marry a wife, not a concubine."

I was also very unhappy and said back to him rudely, "Are you really rich or are you pretending to be rich? , I felt so distressed just buying a bag. My friend also bought an LV bag worth more than 10,000 yuan, which is nothing.”

He was really angry that day and walked away. He said to me, "You know how much you earn in a month. It's more than 2,000 yuan. A bag that's not as big as your palm uses up your monthly salary. Do you think this is normal? My money is all my hard work." I won’t squander what I earned hard like you.”

I do not deny that I am an out-and-out “money earner”. Since I started working, my salary of more than 2,000 yuan per month has been It was all used up in a few days, and I had to ask my mother for it. But if I had money, why would I ask you? Isn’t it just for women to spend money when men make money? When I went home and told my mother about this, my mother stopped and said, "Why would such a stingy man marry his daughter to him? Why didn't he just buy a bag? I haven't called him yet." Buying us a house, such a man is unreliable. ”

My mother said that whether a man is good to women mainly depends on whether he is willing to spend money on her. Only if he is really willing to spend money on you. Men with money are the ones to consider. I quite agree with what my mother said. Although that man later sent me flowers and apologized to me, I ignored him. Such a stingy man is not in my sight. middle.

Later, I met my current boyfriend, Mr. Huang, who is not bad and very capable. This time my mother asked him to buy me a diamond ring just to test his financial strength. , Besides, he has two houses. If he buys them both, it will be pretty good for us to live in one house and give one to my parents in the future.

But what makes me upset is that he always says that I am too willful, too squeamish, and too immature. He says that there is a generation gap between me and communication difficulties. Isn’t he six years older than me? My mother said that it’s better for a man to grow up and know how to love me, but he only works and socializes all day long, and he can’t even guarantee time to spend with me. When he came to Beijing this time, I told him that I wanted to break up with him. He "forced" him to come, saying that I am willful. My mother only has a precious daughter. If I am not willful, no one will be willful. My mother said that men like squeamish girls. What's wrong with me being a little squeamish? But he doesn't like it. at this point.

I admit that I am immature. I went to a famous school and stayed on campus after graduation. I have very little contact with reality, but why should I be so mature? I'll just be my little girl, talk about fashion and gossip every day, and be happy, okay? But he said I was shallow. He wondered how I got my college diploma. I got it through all the exams. My head teacher praised me since I was a child, saying that I was the best kid at taking exams and that I never had to worry about my parents or teachers.

My mother told me that girls only need to be beautiful and slim, and they don’t need to know too much. But he didn’t say that. He said that in addition to being beautiful and slim, girls should also be considerate. People are considerate and know how to take care of others. I know he said this because there was one thing that made him very angry. That's because once, he went to Hong Kong for a business trip, and I had to go with him. As a result, after arriving in Hong Kong, I shopped from morning to night every day and bought five brand-name handbags in one breath, while he had a fever in the hotel room. It was 40 degrees, I didn’t even know. Later, someone from the hotel called an ambulance for him. After I returned to the hotel, he was gone, and I didn’t see the message he left for me at the service desk. I continued to go shopping the next day, and it wasn’t until my credit card was maxed out that I thought of asking him for help. He told me that I was in the hospital for an infusion. This incident made him very sad, and he decided that I was a particularly ignorant girl. However, my mother didn’t tell me how to take care of others. My mother has taken care of me since I was a child. Moreover, my mother also said that the man I marry in the future must know how to take care of me and love me. Do I still need to go there? Take care of men?

If it weren’t for the fact that he owns two houses, I would have wanted to brag to him. This kind of man has too many demands. You said I should have good looks and a good figure. I went to a prestigious school all the way, and I am already perfect. I am one of the best in our alley. There are many people chasing me, which means my mother thinks that others are quite honest. This time I bought the diamond ring, and this matter is settled. If If he doesn’t want to buy it for me, he shouldn’t want to continue with me. We are indeed two generations. People of our generation don’t like empty words. If you have feelings and intentions, you should take some practical actions. You have to be willing to invest. Otherwise, don't waste time with each other. My youth is precious and I don't want to waste it with such a man.

Coincidentally, as soon as Si Shuang finished speaking, his friend Mr. Huang appeared at the door of the teahouse. I thought Si Shuang would be a little embarrassed, but he greeted his boyfriend calmly, as if he had just She was not the girl who took that "poisonous oath".

The atmosphere was not right, and I wanted to leave in a hurry, but my friend didn’t even stay with me. I was in a dilemma for the next few days, wondering what I should say when my friend asked me for an answer.

As the saying goes, it is better to demolish a temple than break up a marriage. I really don’t want to get involved in other people’s marriage matters, not to mention that Shanghai girl Si Shuang is really scary. In my opinion, that is She belongs to the list of those who must not marry, but I don't want this matter to be related to me, because emotional matters are often obvious to onlookers and confusing to the authorities, and no one can tell clearly.

About three days later, a friend from Shanghai sent me an email, which read: "Have you ever met a girl who quarreled with you for three days just for a diamond? I met and was scared, a girl born in the 1980s."