When I came to school as a freshman, I was full of complaints, because I thought it would be no problem to go to a school like He Gong University with my strength. Why did I plant in such an ordinary school? But one thing is, I must be happier in college than in high school. Because I have changed four classes in high school for three years, I can imagine where there will be friends to make me close. Forget it. The past is hard to remember. In short, I made up my mind in high school to have a wonderful and happy life than my classmates. This is an opportunity to change me, because no one here knows me, they didn't know me before, and I can show myself to my heart's content. So what can I do to change myself? I want to communicate more with others, know more about them and know more about the real me. Therefore, when I meet every classmate, every teacher and everyone I meet, I will take the initiative to say hello to him, pay attention to initiative, not passive, and greet everyone I meet with a smile. Finally, I found that the more indifferent people are, the hotter their hearts are, and everyone is fine. Three years later, I figured it out. How many people in this world are reckless and heinous bad people? The answer is not many people. Almost all people are kind, but we lack communication, so we have prejudice and prejudice. Did you find someone around me saying that I felt very uncomfortable the first time I met him (most people don't express it, but they think so psychologically) and so on? ! Is that person what he thinks, so they can't continue to associate, can't be friends, can't! Because the estrangement between two people happened before communication, which prevented the possibility of becoming friends. If you learn to be honest with each other, then you will find that the world is still beautiful. I didn't say that as long as you are honest with each other, everyone will reciprocate. But as long as you treat others sincerely, most people will treat you as a friend. Remember: what you pay will be rewarded. This sentence seems simple, but it is the universal value of human society. Some people often get the wrong idea, always thinking about returning it first, or not planning to return it at all. You should learn this gradually in your life. Let me give you a simple example, such as the sanitary problem in the dormitory. Some people would rather do aerobic exercise for two hours than spend three minutes cleaning the dormitory. Why? Because he always thinks that others can't share the fruits of his labor, everyone lives in the same room. Why do they enjoy a clean dormitory when I clean it? But why don't you think I clean for myself and not for others, because I will live here for four years. On the other hand, if you think so about everything, I don't think you are an isolated person.
You may say, this is too difficult for me as a girl. Seems to be back to the fantasy era of Mao Zedong's * * * productism. Personally, I feel disgusting. We didn't talk about productism. We just consider the problem from the perspective of human nature. People care about themselves first, then others. If you do what others think, you care about them first, and then you care about yourself. In fact, you don't suffer. You can't ask too much of others, let others pay for you and let others revolve around you. Can you try to lower your expectations of others and let yourself pay more? Learn to get along with classmates in the dormitory. We live in the same dormitory, bow our heads, tolerate our own shortcomings (your question is not very clear, I can't comment on you). If you have a problem with yourself and demand higher standards, who will?
If you are an ordinary girl, I think the above is enough. I know that girls have a strong vanity. Are you too vain? Why do people leave you? You may understand, but you didn't say it. So I'm not allowed to comment here. I can also give you some questions that only college students have. After reading it, you will find that you all have these problems, but I think I should find the one that deserves your consideration and attention.
All right! Let's go on to say that if you can't keep a clear head or struggle to pay this question first, then you can also become an excellent self. Why do I say that? Have you found that people who study well in the class are very popular, and those who are capable are very popular with their classmates? As long as you make yourself excellent, you can have a good relationship, which is very popular. Even if you have a little temper, others will tolerate or not show it because you are in a state of being needed. For example, I play computer very well, and many students come to ask me what operating system to install! Software cracking and so on, they all want me, so if I am needed, others will isolate me? You may be too ordinary, or you may be too vain and isolated by your classmates.
Here I offer you a better way to combine the two: to be a class cadre. For example, when I came to school, I was confused. I found that no one on the seventh floor where I live is a student of our major. They all live on the fifth floor, because I reported too late, and the teacher arranged for me to live in other professional dormitories. This time, I panicked. It's definitely not possible to change dormitories now. I can only wait until next year, which means I'm in danger of being isolated. I can't be isolated by my classmates. I thought of a way, that is, to be a class cadre, so that I can get along well with my classmates, because when I am a class cadre, you are the bridge between my classmates and teachers, which means I need you. When a person is in a state of being needed, he is welcome. Therefore, through my efforts, I successfully became a cadre in my class, which made me feel more or less isolated. Because I have given something to them, they need me in many activities, so I have won many honors and friends.
Finally, I hope you can cheer up and stop obsessing about these problems. Everyone is complicated, and everyone has their own way of life. You shouldn't impose your attitude towards life on others. Everyone is a free individual. What you can do is not to interfere with others, not to hurt others, and few bastards come to hurt you when they are full. The deeper you care about these problems, the more painful you will be. If you can't do the above two ways, then you will be immersed in what you like, such as reading. I don't know much about you, so,,, you can write down the details and send them to my email: Woscofiled@ 163.com with the first letter w capitalized.