1 Senior high school parents' experience in educating their children

People should be educated in three aspects in their life, namely, family education, school education and social education. As the earliest and most influential basic form of education in life, family education plays a very important role in the growth of the younger generation, which is irreplaceable by school education.

With the advent of the era of knowledge economy, the fission effect of science and technology and the competition of market economy, the speed of knowledge renewal is accelerating, and our family education is facing great challenges. The vast majority of parents have no direct connection with education for professional and work reasons. The education of children is mostly based on feelings and experience, and the methods of educating children are improper. Children are generally grumpy, domineering, lack of independent opinions and weak willpower. How to solve this situation? The author thinks that the following methods should be taken to make children grow up healthily and happily:

First, eliminate the fear caused by parents to their children.

The junior high school stage is the stage when children "cross the hurdle". Due to various reasons, their academic performance has declined, and their parents are anxious and impetuous. There is opposition between children and parents. At this time, parents should calm down and learn to wait patiently for their children's growth. Some experts said: "Children have a stronger desire to avoid failure than to strive for success. In order to prevent the smallest possible failure, I would rather reduce my efforts. " This is one of the important reasons why parents' fear makes their children lose their initiative. I hope parents don't "try" or even suffer when they see their children's poor grades, so as not to lose confidence in their children. Parents should ask their children about their learning from the process, which is more scientific and effective than asking the results.

Second, build children's self-confidence

The inventor Edison had a strong thirst for knowledge when he was a child, and he liked to trace back to the source. He asked the teacher why "2+2 equals 4", so he caused a big disaster. He has only been in school for three months and was ordered to drop out. His mother was very sad and determined to educate her son personally, build up self-confidence, teach him liberal arts and chemistry, and cultivate his habit of loving learning and science. Edison's thirst for knowledge was further stimulated. The germ of "genius" grew unconsciously and eventually became a world-famous inventor. It can be seen that success comes from self-confidence, the establishment of self-confidence and the common sense of people around you. Fathers don't appreciate their children. Where does the child's self-confidence come from? Edison's mother didn't appreciate her son, so there wouldn't be today's inventor Edison. Parents should use a magnifying glass to discover their children's bright spots and help them build confidence in overcoming difficulties. When children need help, parents should master a certain degree of help, never go beyond it, and leave room. For example, if a child asks how to write a word, some parents will report it casually, which is the most labor-saving, but it is unacceptable. When children ask how to write a word, it is better to encourage them to "can't you look it up in the dictionary?" Check it first, and then tell your father (mother). With such guidance, children will be happy to look up the dictionary. This not only saves parents a lot of time, but also cultivates children's ability to acquire knowledge by themselves. And this ability is very important in a person's life. Only by letting children jump and succeed through their own efforts can children feel the joy of success and build their self-confidence.

Third, grow up with your children and be their bosom friends.

With the progress of society and the rapid development of science and technology, people have to learn more and more new things. As parents, we should always embody the spirit of seeking knowledge and making progress and set an example for our children. "Mom and Dad are also learning and making progress!" Let children understand that learning new knowledge and continuous progress are accompanied by life. Secondly, through communication with children, we should try our best to shorten the distance from their hearts, listen to their unintentional words, truly understand our children and educate them to grow up healthily.

When educating children, don't use insulting language such as "worthless" and "stupid", and don't sneer at children in an ironic tone, which will obliterate their self-confidence, cause great psychological pressure on them and hinder their growth and progress.

"Let the children be productive" is the eternal demand of parents. There are many ways to educate children. Children's personal situation, family environment and parents' quality are all important factors. Family education should effectively cooperate with school education to achieve the goal of educating students well and let children grow up happily and healthily.

In the process of children's growth, the factor of love is very important. However, when love loses its rationality or limit, love for children becomes extreme love, which often leads to obstacles in children's physical and mental development and distortion of mind, which has a negative impact on children's future life development.

The extreme performance of loving children is:

1, think that as long as children's material needs are met infinitely, they love children. In fact, this is an ignorant love. Children's need for love is not only material, but more importantly spiritual. In life, some parents only pay attention to supplementing their children with various nutrients, but ignore the cultivation of their good moral behavior habits and social adaptability. Some parents buy many books or computers for their children, but they don't correctly guide their children to read or use computers. They don't understand that spiritual encouragement, praise, affirmation and necessary psychological support for their children are all love. However, this kind of spiritual love is more important for their growth.

2. Parents overprotect their children and do a lot of things for their children, which virtually deprives them of the opportunity to develop their own abilities and reduces their self-reliance and self-confidence. This kind of love limits children's self-development and has a negative impact on their independent social life in the future.

3, the requirements for children are too harsh, often criticized, and even corporal punishment of children. Some parents really love their children, but they mistakenly think that "a dutiful son is born under the stick" and "a soldier who defeats others without fighting". Whenever the child's performance is different from the parents' imagination, the problem is solved by beating and cursing, which often causes irreparable trauma to the child's physical and mental development. This kind of love does not bring joy to children, but pain. This kind of ambitious love often forms opposite emotions or emotions-hate, hate for parents, others, society and even oneself. Parents should fully affirm their children's advantages and cultivate their self-confidence, instead of criticizing, accusing or punishing them when they find problems, so that their children can get better development.

I remember a foreign scientist said, "Parents are children's first school". Indeed, parents' education is accompanied by children's growth, and whether education is proper or not will directly affect children's future. Therefore, family education is particularly important and an essential subject. "I wish my children success" is the wish of parents. * * * Every parent wants to train their children to be useful talents for the country and society in the future, so we as parents need to make efforts in this regard.

About "How to educate children well?" It has always been a topic of discussion among parents. On the one hand, it is the concern of society and schools, and there are various ways to educate children. The educational methods for each child are not uniform and should vary from person to person. Among them, there is a lot of learning. Educating children should take corresponding measures according to their personality characteristics, hobbies and behavior habits, so as to achieve good results.

To educate children, we should start from five aspects: morality, intelligence, physique, beauty and goodness, which is quality education. First, parents should educate their children to be good children with good moral character from an early age. They can give some examples or guide their children to tell themselves to be like characters in life by watching TV and cartoons.

Second, parents should pay more attention to their children's academic performance at ordinary times, so that he can feel the concern of adults for his study, so that he will feel bored. In addition, parents and children should set a goal and have clear rewards and punishments. To achieve this goal, parents should abide by the "contract" and give corresponding rewards. If they don't meet the standard, parents should not blame and beat their children, which should be encouraged. Parents should teach their children to develop the good habit of "asking questions without shame", think independently, be good at analyzing difficult problems and other good reading habits, and teach them to master things flexibly instead of memorizing them. The learning method of "reading by rote" is not feasible, and it takes a lot of time, but the effect is average. For example, some children copied new words and wrote a row, but after a while he still couldn't write them. This method is too "dead"

Third, "health is wealth". Parents should teach their children to take part in physical exercise, get up early and go to bed early, play basketball and run at ordinary times, which is good for their health.

Fourth, parents should educate their children to cultivate good children with good hearts from an early age, do more good deeds, be polite to others, and teach them how to treat others.

In addition, parents' words and deeds have a great influence on their children and should be paid attention to by parents. They should speak appropriately and do things seriously, set up a good image for their children, tell them some principles of being a man, arrange things for their children at home at ordinary times, do their own things well, and finish what they did that day, so as to make a timetable for their children and let them develop good living habits.

In short, there are many ways to educate children, which requires us as parents to be caring, careful, careful and patient. I believe that as long as our parents can do this, coupled with the concern of the school and society, our children will certainly become useful talents for the country and society in the future.

2 Senior high school parents' experience in educating their children

"Planting trees for ten years, educating people for a hundred years". Education is an eternal topic, which has existed indefinitely since the birth of human civilization. In today's highly developed human civilization, it is still an issue that we cannot avoid and attach great importance to.

"Life is like a dream, and life is short." To sum up, parents have only two tasks to complete in their life. One is to achieve self-realization in society and achieve career success. The second is to educate their descendants and complete the important part of self-continuation ... Every parent has a long way to go, from the time of living with their children, their position in their hearts, how to be a person, and how to educate their children by example.

The growth of children should be three-dimensional, multi-directional and versatile, and the education of children is also three-dimensional and all-round education. It is a pity to rely solely on school education and ignore family education.

Family education is not only a highly comprehensive art, but also an extremely complicated process. It not only requires parents to have some knowledge and insight, but also requires parents to know how to communicate with their children better, arouse their enthusiasm, let their children get a good education in knowledge, making friends, being a man and self-cultivation, and urge them to give full play to their potential.

Educating children is a very complicated matter and a great undertaking. It is the greatest wish of parents all over the world to "look forward to your son becoming a dragon and your daughter becoming a phoenix". From a small perspective, this wish can make a person proud and glorious. In a big way, it may create a nation's pride and even become a representative of civilization and progress. Unfortunately, as far as some parents are concerned, it is difficult to realize their desire to make their children successful. The following are my personal views on educating children.

First, love children, respect children and be their bosom friends.

In life, we should respect children, treat them equally, establish a relationship of mutual trust and form close friends with them. Only in this way can we win their trust. Parents should love their children, maybe you will say that this truth is simple enough. What parents don't love their children? But some parents' love can't be accepted and recognized by children, so I often give my naughty son a kind hug, a shallow smile, a persuasive persuasion and a small gift, which will naturally make children feel the love given by their parents and enhance their trust in their parents. Therefore, our parents should use love to cultivate their children's good behavior habits.

Second, the premise of good communication between parents and children is listening.

Parents should put down their lofty posture, learn to communicate with their children on an equal footing, and calm down and listen to everything their children have to say. Even if you are busy and tired at this time, you should listen attentively and ask your child from time to time: "Is there anything interesting in school?" Are you satisfied with your performance in class? Did your smiling face increase again today? Whenever I ask my son this question, he is always excited to report everything to me. When he expresses his views on things, I will respect his opinions, discuss with him and give him enough confidence and self-confidence. I think it is very important to cultivate children's character. Listening is an art as well as a kind of learning.

3. Encourage children to dare to meet challenges

Today's era is an era of fierce competition, so it is necessary to cultivate children's sense of competition from an early age and dare to meet challenges. In study, I often encourage my son to say: You are amazing, you are smart, and you can answer such a difficult knowledge correctly. My mother admires you. He was very happy to hear this, which also aroused his enthusiasm for learning. When he was in trouble, I kept cheering him up. At this time, I will work hard with my child and infect him with practical actions, which has also been achieved.

Fourth, educate children to face setbacks correctly.

People will inevitably encounter setbacks in their lives. Suffering is a great wealth of life. Misfortune and frustration can make people sink, and can also cast a strong will and achieve a full life. Suffering is a good teacher in life. He can teach children to treat all problems with gratitude and positive attitude and bravely participate in social competition.

Fifth, cultivate children's adaptability.

In practice, the ability to control, transform and realize the integration of subjectivity and objectivity according to the ever-changing objective situation has been the basic ability of survival since ancient times. In today's era of rapid changes and fierce competition in human society, people need stronger adaptability. Whoever has strong adaptability will survive, develop better and succeed.

Sixth, accompany children to study.

Parents and children can get happiness and satisfaction from reading together, feel love and warmth, and sometimes even become interested in the book itself.

7. Praise is the best way to shape a good character.

The deepest desire of human nature is to gain the appreciation of others, and children are no exception. Parents' praise will arouse children's inner sense of self-worth and dignity, and urge them to further strengthen good behavior until they develop a good character.

Eight, the impulsive behavior of parents will make children rebellious.

Parents should realize that rebellion is a way for adolescent children to vent their emotions. Parents should calmly deal with it, don't always talk to their children, and gradually eliminate their rebellious psychology.

Nine, learn tolerance and patience.

Tolerance is a beautiful scenery. People who can tolerate and tolerate the shortcomings and mistakes of others are indeed noble people. Such people are beautiful scenery in the world. Tolerance is an ability. Half are angels and half are demons. It is not easy to tolerate people who hurt themselves. Our heart is like a container. When there is more and more love, hatred will be squeezed out. We just need to keep filling them with love.

Ten, when something happens, allow children to defend themselves.

Defense is also a right. Some parents like obedient children, and children will do as their parents say. Once the child is found to have done something wrong, he will scold and beat the child. Not allowing children to defend themselves will not only convince them, but also encourage a kind of resistance and lay a bad root for lying and shirking responsibility. The child's defense itself is a process of orderly use of language, and it is also a process of communication between parents. If parents can consciously find some questions to argue with their children, children's thinking ability and oral ability can be well trained.

XI。 Avoid taking children's grades too seriously.

As parents, don't stare at children's grades all day, be a barometer of children's grades. Children are in high spirits when they get high marks, but they are disheartened when they get low marks. It will make children feel nervous, scared and unwilling to study all day. Parents should pay attention to the cultivation of children's morality, creativity and learning ability, so that children can support themselves even if they don't go to college in the future.

Twelve, there are no children with poor education, only parents who don't understand education.

Parents always love to educate their children into kites, let them fly high, and the end of the rope will not leave their hands. However, children are willing to be a bird, eager to fly, and the home is warm, which will always be the first stop for children to practice flying, not the flying sky, nor can they be locked in Xiaotian all their lives. Parents' hands are not used to tie their children's hands and feet, but to hone their wings.

Thirteen, good at discovering and cultivating children's interests.

"Interest is the best teacher." Only by starting from interest can children learn happily. There is a strange phenomenon in society now, that is, most children have to learn a lot of knowledge at a very young age, and many parents have not considered how their children learn. It seems that the more they learn, the closer they get to success, whether their children want to learn or not. As a result, they wasted money, experience and innocent happy time. Therefore, I hope that parents can grasp their children's interest points from their daily life and study, guide them, and then let their interest heat up and make them burn, so as to achieve more results.

A famous educator put it well: "The fate of a country is in the hands of parents rather than rulers." The education and cultivation of children is a very complicated science. Let our parents cooperate with teachers and schools to cultivate more and better talents.