1, learn to listen to children's voices.
Some children tell their parents that they have been bullied, but parents don't listen to their children's grievances. Instead, he said in a reproachful tone, "won't you tell the teacher?" When children hear this, they will feel that their parents don't care about their feelings, and they will be bullied in the future, and naturally they will not dare to tell their parents again.
Therefore, when a child is bullied, parents need to communicate with the child patiently and understand the whole story, so as to judge the seriousness of the matter. Moreover, in the process of communication, we must be patient and care about our children, because when it comes to being bullied, their emotions may be unstable. Keep listening, and parents can clearly know the story from their children.
In fact, many times, listening can win more than blaming? Children's trust and dependence. Because of listening, parents can understand what their children think in the end, and they can communicate and guide their children concretely and accurately. What he is willing to say and unwilling to say will eventually be fully expressed because you are willing to listen.
2, learn to * * * love, let the child feel that you understand his feelings.
Imagine how you feel when you are wronged and your family still doesn't understand you. Do you feel wronged and don't want to tell your family what you are talking about? Adults are still like this, let alone children.
Many parents don't pay much attention to their children's confidence, thinking about what troubles they can have at a young age and how big they are. But they forget that those seemingly insignificant difficulties can make children feel dark.
3. Learn to respect children.
Perhaps in the eyes of a large part of parents, children will never grow up. They always feel that children don't know anything and need them to make decisions for them. But actually children have their own ideas.
My baby is only over two years old and has his own ideas. What books she usually arranges for her to read or play, and I respect her ideas, so she has a lot to communicate with me every day.
Are children over two years old so thoughtful? Not to mention the children who have already gone to school. So don't ignore children's thoughts, learn to respect them. Respecting children can make him feel the attention and trust of his parents, and at the same time, it can cultivate their independent personality.
In life, we can see that many children don't communicate with their parents, and even often go against their parents. In fact, this is all because parents don't understand and respect their children. Therefore, parents still need to listen to their children's voices, understand their feelings, respect their children and give them enough support and trust. Only by giving children a sense of security can children be more willing to tell their parents after being wronged.