The first impression of introverts is that they are quiet, indifferent, and distant. Therefore, when we first come into contact, we are always more willing to make friends with enthusiastic and extroverted people, and are less likely to like introverts.

1. Why do many people dislike introverts?

——Don’t feel that he cares

You talked to him for a long time and he replied to you with just one word "Yeah". It felt perfunctory and you couldn’t feel that he cared about you. care. Communication between people requires the participation of two people, and introverts don't like to talk about themselves with others. Your communication with him is always a one-way output. The result is that he understands you, but you don't understand him, so you don't feel safe with him, because he knows your secret, and he has your bargaining chip, but you don't have his.

——Getting along awkwardly

Secondly, if you stay with him and have nothing to talk about, you will feel awkward. I believe that no one likes to be embarrassed, and embarrassment may be a big problem. There’s a reason why most people don’t like being around introverts. In fact, introverts don't like to talk much when they are with people they don't know well, so they will appear aloof. Such aloofness often gives people a feeling of contempt and looking down on others. I believe no one will treat them. A person who despises you has a good influence. But some people feel inferior, that is, we always feel that you and I make you feel uncomfortable, or that the two of us are not in the same status, and the illusion of status asymmetry can also make people feel uncomfortable.

——Innate sense of distance

Secondly, introverts generally don’t like to say hello, and some social etiquette during meetings may make them feel uncomfortable. However, such basic Failure to follow social etiquette will make people think that they are rude and disrespectful. One is the sense of distance. Introverts often feel a sense of fear of many people or things they are unfamiliar with. They often like to stay away from unfamiliar people when they meet them. Maybe they are just afraid of the unknown, but in our case It seems that this is something that is not welcome, so there is no need for us to warm our faces and stick to its cold butt.

2. How to treat introverts correctly?

Introverts have a universe of their own in their hearts. Maybe they also feel lonely, but staying away from the crowd is originally just a kind of self-defense, but in the eyes of other people, it often means something else.

Introversion is a characteristic, not a shortcoming. Therefore, we must not look down on them because of this, let alone make fun of them because of it. If we can be more proactive, we may be able to gain a good friend. In short, treat introverts with more warmth and understanding.