Her daughter has been raised by her mother herself since she was a child, and her upbringing has always been based on encouragement. She doesn’t know what went wrong.

What I want to say is,

First, whether a child’s personality is introverted or extroverted, there is no good or bad in itself;

Second, 4 It is normal for children aged 15 to be in a state of receiving information quickly but lacking in expression. Because they need time to digest and absorb the information and information they receive, and then express it in their own way. Moreover, each child has a different level of growth and development, a different living environment, and a different speed of natural reaction.

This means that while parents usually "input content" for their children, they must also teach her how to "export content". Children's social networking is an important channel for children to "export content".

Greeting people is only the most external manifestation of this channel. If you want to fully exercise your child's social skills, you must not miss every opportunity for him to introduce himself.

Children generally face entering a new group when entering kindergarten, entering higher education, interviewing schools, or participating in various interest classes, and need to introduce themselves for a few minutes.

This fixed pattern of self-introduction seems very simple, but it is actually the key for children to start social activities in strange environments, because the first impression often occupies an important position in a person's memory. Simply put, children who introduce themselves well may quickly make like-minded friends in the new group. On the contrary, if self-introduction is too nervous, it may become a psychological shadow for the child.

Does that mean that children with lively personalities have an advantage in self-introduction? Not necessarily.

Some children are introverted and are embarrassed to express themselves in front of strangers. They don’t know what to say when introducing themselves. They are at a loss when standing on the stage and easily fall into uneasy emotions.

Although some children have cheerful personalities, they are too active in thinking and cannot get to the point when introducing themselves. They talk about whatever comes to their mind. Both of these are unideal selves. introduce.

Some parents may also feel that since their children are in the same class and interest class, they will naturally understand each other, so there is no need to introduce themselves. ah! "

Indeed, "it takes time to see a person's heart." The relationship between people who understand each other must be based on getting along with each other. But if no one is willing to get along with the child at the beginning, or even because Lack of understanding can cause unnecessary misunderstandings, which will have a bad impact on children.

In fact, children’s self-introduction is not only important, but also a good opportunity to exercise themselves.

First of all, it allows people in the new group to get to know themselves

The most direct and convenient way for people to meet us for the first time is to introduce ourselves and tell others about ourselves in advance. , it will not easily lead to misunderstandings.

For example, if a child can say, "I am allergic to milk" when he introduces himself for the first time, then the next time someone sees him not drinking milk, he will not. You will feel that he is a waste of food.

Secondly, treat self-introduction as a rehearsal for speaking on a big occasion.

When encountering a speech or speech, stand on the stage. People often feel nervous because they are worried about whether their opinions are correct and what others will think of them. Therefore, when encountering large-scale events or important occasions, speeches are usually rehearsed.

Self-introduction. Children's social activities are similar to rehearsals.

In fact, every person we see impassioned on the podium started by overcoming inner timidity and inferiority.

Li Yang, the founder of Crazy English, originally had low self-esteem because of his poor English scores, so he created a method of reading English aloud in front of others to overcome his low self-esteem. Later, he found that this method greatly improved his English level.

Hunan Satellite TV's variety show "Youth Talk" encourages children to go to the rooftop to speak out their innermost thoughts to their parents. Not to mention what each child said on the rooftop, they can walk up to their classmates and Speaking your thoughts in front of all the TV viewers is a kind of courage in itself. This kind of courage will also inspire children to overcome one difficulty after another in their study and life.

So where does such courage come from? It is accumulated bit by bit from every self-introduction process.

Third, self-introduction is an opportunity to re-examine yourself

The purpose of self-introduction is to let others know and understand themselves correctly. So before that, we have to think about what kind of person we are, so this is also a good opportunity to re-examine ourselves.

There are routines for adults to introduce themselves. When they meet for the first time, they will be polite and make small talk. Children's self-introduction can also draw lessons from it and summarize some methods.

First, let the children think of their own characteristics and label themselves positively.

"What do I like or be good at?", "What am I working hard on now?" "What are my strengths?" Before the child introduces himself, try to let him answer the above three questions by himself. question.

For young children, parents can help them list some characteristics. On the one hand, they can help them sort out their hobbies and specialties. On the other hand, they can also help them put some positive labels on them.

For example, children who think their smile is cute will smile more often in the future. Children who feel that they have great athletic abilities will be more active than others in doing sports during recess.

Children begin to understand themselves with the help of these positive labels, and then slowly make themselves conform to such attributes, thereby becoming a better version of themselves.

If your child is usually introverted, you can write down his characteristics with a pen at home.

For example, what are my strengths? What are my strengths? Write 10 items for each item, then read them out loud, and after reading them, say out loud, I like myself.

By allowing your child to practice repeatedly in this way, his confidence will build up little by little.

Second, after introducing your name, add 3 characteristics of yourself

When introducing yourself, it usually starts with "My name is so-and-so". Some children finish After my own name, I didn’t know what to say.

You can teach your children to list, in order, what I like or am good at and what I am currently trying to do, my strengths, as the content after introducing the name. If possible, add some details to each item to make your introduction richer.

For example, my name is XX, and I can play the piano. I practice piano for an hour every day because I have a small performance in the concert hall next month... The more detailed the content, the better. It can attract the attention of the audience and make others have a deeper impression of you.

Third, teach children to raise their heads and chest when speaking, and pay attention to the volume and speed of speech.

Now that the content of self-introduction is available, the method is also very important. If you lower your head and introduce yourself with your voice muffled in your throat, no one will be able to hear your voice or see their expressions. In this way, the child will not only lose an opportunity to exercise himself, but when everyone recalls it in the future, the child will become a part of their memory. small transparency.

Now that you are standing on the stage, you must let your child face everyone, and say all the content slowly and clearly in a voice that can be heard by the students in the last row.

If your child finds it difficult, you may wish to practice in front of the mirror at home first.