First of all, it is very pitiful for a widow to lose her husband. It seems that life has its own bitterness. Because in ancient times, it was unfortunate for a widow to lose her husband. There is no pillar in the family and no source of income. She can only live by her family or her husband's brother. If the bride's family is well-off, that's nothing. There's still food. If the bride's family takes care of her daughter like water and can't take her in, it is to push her daughter into the fire pit.
At this time, if the widow has children, there is still some hope; How much spit a person will spit, making people innocent out of thin air. If you meet your heartless in-laws again and rob others of their property, it will be blood mildew. The so-called "awesome words" are probably like this.
Secondly, as a vulnerable group of women, widows are mostly entertaining. Come to think of it, is the right and wrong in front of the widow's door basically peach news? Most of them should be related to men and famous festivals. What's more, a woman who defiles her husband's family's reputation is basically unable to live a good life. This shows that the Millennium feudal dross culture is unfair to women. I am reminded of Jiu-Er played by Zhou Xun in Red Sorghum. In order to get back at her widow and sister-in-law, she started with honor.
Thirdly, the word widow itself is discriminatory, and it is no different from deaf-mute and lame. It always reminds women who have lost their husbands that you no longer have a complete family, that you are not a complete person and that your life is no longer possible. At most, just like the widow's sister-in-law in Red Sorghum, she earned more chastity archways and lost more subjective initiative in order to maintain chastity archways in her life.
Speaking of discrimination, let's think again. There are many things in front of the widow's door, but there is little smoke on the widower's roof. Is it very different? A widower's wife is dead, and there is only a lack of fireworks at home; The widow's husband died, and there were many chickens flying and dogs jumping at home. Everyone can say a few words.
So it's hard to avoid right and wrong around an ancient widow. To say the least, most widows have no autonomy in life and lack the right of economic independence. I can only live by my parents and brothers, so I take the initiative to transition my right to speak and live a life of obedience to those in power at home. There are too few women like Li Qingzhao who can choose to start over.
Fortunately, modern divorced women can re-choose economic independence and the ability to accept life. Compared with ancient widows, this is already a great luck.
This sentence is the product of the feudal bourgeoisie in the old society, and it is out of date now.
In short, a woman who died of her husband can't hold her head in front of others. They dare not go out at the front door, dare not enter at the second door, dare not contact with men outside, and enjoy desolation and loneliness at home. This is the idea that men are superior to women. Men are allowed to have three wives and six concubines, and women are not allowed to find others. This is a remnant of feudalism and a serious destruction of women's body and mind.
What was the widow's last words at the door? This is the first sentence. The first sentence says: there is little smoke on the widower's roof. The man in the family seldom cooks at home because his wife died. In the countryside, he usually cooks with firewood and has a lot of cigarettes. After his wife died, he saw that there was less smoke from the chimney on the roof, because he had to fight in it.
What are the allusions? In fact, I don't think there is any allusion, that is, the influence of the three virtues of Confucius' thought in the past, and the fact that good women don't marry two husbands. In the past, there were many chastity archways in the countryside. That is, after the death of the man in the family, he never remarried. At home, he not only raises children, but also serves his in-laws. He bears hardships and stands hard work, as if this woman is great, but he doesn't know how much mental trauma she has caused the widow.
However, widows in the past also remarried. After their remarriage, they are not valued by men and are inferior. Now they are used.
In the old society, widows were the focus of neighbors, not helping her, but spying on her house and her to see which man had been in her house, paying special attention to her private life and becoming the object of gossip, which was also the remnant of feudal thought.
Moreover, men in the old society could divorce their wives at will. If you don't like your wife, find an excuse, write a letter and send it back to your parents' home, which shows how low the status of women was in the old society.
After the liberation of New China, women were completely liberated and were free to marry, divorce and fall in love.
Now it's not a second marriage, three marriages and four marriages are ok, some become live-in nannies, and some women want bride price in the name of remarriage. A few days later, they left and cheated the man.
Widows should be understood and respected for remarriage, but women should not cheat men for remarriage, which is immoral.
There are many things in front of the widow's door, so there is no source because of SARS. This is actually a folk saying.
Of course, although it is a proverb, it does have the first half of the sentence. Two sentences together, there is less smoke on the widower's roof, and there are many things in front of the widow.
A widower here refers to the husband of a deceased wife.
These two sentences are just an image metaphor for widowers and widows.
Let me explain the first half.
As we know, in the past society, there was a saying that men were the masters outside and women were the masters inside.
Take the countryside as an example. The biggest source of income for a family is farming, which is a man's biggest job in the family.
But this land is not easy to grow at all. If nothing else, say this working time, before the sun rises, men will go out with the stars. When they reached the ground, the sun came out and they began to be busy with things on the ground. It was dark, they couldn't see clearly, and then they went home.
You see, men are busy outside all day. Then if you marry a daughter-in-law, she will clean the housework at home, eat and cook, send it to the field at noon, and cook at home at night until the man comes home for dinner.
But if the wife in this family is gone, you won't see smoke coming out of the roof all day, and the man is in the field, processing a little meal cooked the night before at noon, so it's done, and he will only cook at night.
So there is little smoke on the roof of a widower's house, which actually means that a family's life is chaotic without women.
In fact, many people have experienced it so far. For example, if your wife is happy, she will live with her parents for a few days.
Hearing this, the husband was so happy that he didn't want to do anything when he came home from work. If he has a meal, he can go to the restaurant with a bowl of noodles to solve the problem. At worst, he can order a takeaway or something, and there are a lot fewer people who are not on fire. After all, people now have water heaters to drink hot water.
As for housework? Think too much, grab a mouse, doesn't it smell good?
When my wife comes back and sees that the house has become a pigsty, as long as her face is thick enough, she will be fine after a while.
Therefore, when men are alone at home, they generally don't cook with fire, which is very troublesome.
Ok, let's talk about a lot of things in front of widows.
what can I say? There is hardly any smoke on the widower's roof. It is often said that there are many things in front of the widow's door.
Why? Actually, it's just a gossip mentality. In addition, in the past, the status of women was very low, and there were no men in the family, so the family status would also be reduced. All kinds of other people, such as local ruffians and hooligans, think they can take advantage of it, so this matter has increased.
In fact, there were many descriptions of widows in the past, such as widows not crying at night.
What do you mean? It is said that being a widow should be sober and not cry at home in the middle of the night. If you hear someone crying at home, some people will think you miss men and be laughed at.
You see, when people cry, they have to talk about things. In fact, it shows from the side that women's status in society was not high at that time and it became a gossip.
For example, you can experience it.
In other words, in the Ming Dynasty, there was a widow in Jiangnan. When she was 25, her husband died.
There is only a widow and two children left in this family, so the widow vowed never to leave the house again.
It lasted for a few days, but one day, the neighbor's house caught fire.
It used to be a big fire. After all, they are all wooden houses. The fire was difficult to control, and eventually it spread from the neighbor's house to the widow's house.
Widows still have family members, as do brothers and sisters.
So at that time, the family asked the widow to come out of the house quickly. Guess what the widow chose?
She gave the seven-year-old boy to her sister-in-law and left the three-year-old girl at home.
Then he was suddenly burned to death.
After reading this story, no matter who it is, it is a little sad. The widow not only burned herself to death, but also took her daughter.
Ordinary people are really not that cruel. They can only say that the widow doesn't want to leave her daughter alone in this world for fear that she will suffer more. It can be seen that the woman's social status was low at that time and she chose to leave the baby boy to her sister-in-law.
The question is coming, so why don't these widows remarry?
Many times, there are many restrictions for women to remarry. Say a few words that were popular at that time and you will understand.
For example, the husband has the right to remarry, but the woman has no choice. What does this mean? It means that men are allowed to remarry, but women are not allowed to remarry.
There is also a good horse that never returns to the grass, and a good woman does not marry two men; Strong women don't marry two men and so on.
Of course, widows remarry, but the ceremony of widow remarriage is different from the normal wedding process.
If a widow marries seriously, she always takes the front door. If she marries again, she has to take the side door or the back door, or dig a hole in the back wall and get out of it.
Forget it, there are rules in some places. Generally, marriage is in the daytime, and widows have to remarry at night. Happy drum music can't be used as dowry.
Many rules and regulations, many restrictions.
So the social status of widows at that time was very low, and they were bound by many rules and regulations.
what can I say? There are many things in front of the widow's door. In fact, it is nothing more than coveting the property of the widow's family and coveting the beauty of the widow.
Next, I will talk about it. See for yourself.
Strange thing in Song Dynasty, two prime ministers were in front of widows.
It's a little complicated to say. To put it simply, because the widow remarried, both prime ministers were demoted.
Who is this widow? She was the widow of the then left general Xue, and her name was Chai.
First of all, I must talk about Xue's family background, which is a foreshadowing.
Xue's father is called Xue, and this Xue is also very powerful. He was the prime minister of Song Taizu.
Words can when the prime minister in front of Song Taizu, ability is not general.
But this Xue married a fierce wife, which is actually nothing, isn't it just that he is afraid of his wife? But this wife didn't give Xue a man and a woman, and she couldn't have children, so forget it. She wouldn't let Xue marry a concubine or anything.
Finally, Xue was old and adopted a adopted son, Xue.
Well, this is Xue's family background.
Let's talk about this Xue again.
Let's just say that Xue likes this Xue very much, because he has no children and is spoiled in the end.
This doting went wrong, and Xue became problem of juvenile. It's not decent to watch the world go out and have fun.
Later, Xue died and went to pay his respects. Who's Song Taizong? Everyone around you knows quite clearly, so he said to Xue:
If Xiao Zi is gone, will he change his profession? I'm afraid I can't take the lead, so what can I do? ?
This is a warning. Give Xue an attack by innuendo and stop fooling around every day. Finally, this Xue accepted this warning and turned over a new leaf.
Xue, who did not like literature but liked martial arts, finally achieved the position of general Zuo, but died at the age of 42.
Then Xue and his father Xue are the same, and they can't manage this family well. According to historical records, the royal family cannot.
So when Xue died, the family fell into chaos.
This begins to get to the point.
This firewood is Xue's stepmother, and Xue's wife and her two sons have never been harmonious.
So after Xue's death, Chai could no longer stay at home, so she wanted to remarry.
In the end, Chai chose the prime minister at that time as the object of remarriage, and the two sides also agreed on an engagement. After this matter is finalized, Zhang Qixian also plans to send a car to pick her up.
It is impossible to hide such a thing, so finally Xue's two sons learned about it.
As a member of the Xue family, Chai's property is not thin. She was sure to take it with her when she left, so Xue's two sons quit and they couldn't stop her. So they wrote a complaint and sued Chai Shi.
The reason is that this stepmother wants to remarry and take away the property accumulated by grandparents and fathers for two generations.
Then Kaifeng wanted to receive the complaint, but he couldn't handle it after receiving the complaint. After all, this matter involved the Prime Minister Zhang Qixian, so it was reported layer by layer, and finally the case fell on the desk of the then emperor Song Zhenzong.
When Song Zhenzong saw the document, he didn't want to make it too big, so that he could deal with it as soon as possible.
As a result, people were sent down to ask firewood, so the result of the inquiry was a little different.
Chai's statement was completely different from that of Xue's two sons, which made it impossible for the case to continue, so the case was placed on the table again.
Song Zhenzong had no choice but to go through the procedure and send the case to Yushitai for trial.
It stands to reason that when things come to this, just follow the procedure. As a result, the firewood was not good, so I ran to Kaifeng government office and complained with drums. What did he accuse? Tell another prime minister, Xiang Minzhong, to buy the old house in Fu Xue at a very low price.
Forget it, Prime Minister Xiangmin will also propose to Chai.
Chai disagrees with these two things. As a result, Xiang Minzhong was angered and instructed Xue's two sons to falsely accuse Chai.
Well, it was originally a case in which a son sued his stepmother, and there was a preface when he turned his face. There is a case in the case!
This preface angered Song Zhenzong. Why?
Knowing that Xue's two sons were both hungry and unable to do anything, they gave Xue's two sons an order that they were not allowed to sell their property.
They didn't listen to the emperor's orders. What happened?
So Song Zhenzong called the Prime Minister Xiang Minzhong.
The document is placed in front of Xiang Min, and no words are needed. Xiang Minzhong understood what Song Zhenzong meant, so he explained the whole thing in detail.
Xiang Minzhong told me that he really wanted to spend 5 million yuan to buy Xue's old house, and he did lose his wife, but he never wanted to remarry, so it was even more nonsense to propose to Chai.
Well, things are clear here. Xiang Minzhong did violate the imperial edict.
But this kind of thing, Song Zhenzong don't want him to make big, can only put down.
Most people think so. You all let go. How is she?
Therefore, Chai subsequently filed a lawsuit.
Then if someone wants to sue, the case must be followed up by the department.
All right! So Yu Shitai began to hear the case again.
As a result, it involves such an interrogation.
Who has no political enemies yet? Xiang Minzhong also has political enemies, so I want to use this thing to bring down Xiang Minzhong.
So who is this political enemy? His name is Wang Sizong, the official salt and iron envoy.
Wang Sizong said that it is true that Xiang Minzhong bought the Xue family's house, and so is Xiang Minzhong's dead wife, but it is false that Xiang Minzhong does not intend to marry another woman.
In fact, Xiang Minzhong has long planned to marry. The object of marriage is Wang's sister, one of Xu's captains, who has died. This happened recently.
According to the statement at that time, it was called: secret appointment but not accepted! ?
This winding is big enough. People around you, eating this melon, are getting higher and higher, which is called ups and downs.
But at this point, Song Zhenzong quit. What is this? Fool the emperor?
It is not an exaggeration to say that the front foot violates the imperial edict and the back foot is still lying to the emperor.
Then Xiang Minzhong, who can do it twice, refers to the emperor. In other words, Xiang Minzhong didn't propose to Chai, which is unreasonable.
So the problem in Xiang Min is here, and the problem in Zhang Qixian has also been dug out.
Chai Shi's complaint was written to Chai Shi by Zhang Qixian's son.
This sentence, you will understand, Chai Shi sued at the beginning, not Zhang Qixian behind his back.
Chai Shi has asked a lot here. You have to ask people around Chai Shi and dig deep. As a result, the servant was arrested and asked, and he found something, saying that Chai had hidden about 20 million treasures.
So none of the people involved in this case are good.
Prime Minister Xiang Minzhong can't do it. He was demoted to assistant minister of the Ministry of Finance and took office around Yongxing Road.
As for Zhang Qixian, he was demoted to TaiChangQing, managing Xijing.
Both prime ministers were demoted and used. Xue's son was found out and whipped for selling a house against the imperial edict, and asked him to redeem the house he had sold quickly.
All the follow-up things, Song Zhenzong let Yushitai and Kaifeng Office supervise the implementation.
Finally, of course, there are firewood. In this case, she has no way to marry Zhang Qixian again. Moreover, she was fined eight catties of copper coins, and the money for redeeming her property came from the money of Chai's treasure.
So from this incident, you can know what snow in front of the widow means.