Improve your speaking and communication skills, which requires you to change and persist! First of all, you should learn to find a topic to practice eloquence, be bold, and learn how to communicate with people: First, become cheerful and learn to speak boldly and actively. It's better to say it than not to say it. Not afraid to say more, this is natural. You can learn the following: 1 When you are nervous, try to relax yourself. Take a quiet deep breath, calm your breath, and add a little strength when you exhale, and your heart will be practical. Laughter has a good effect on relaxing the whole body tension. Smiling can regulate breathing, and it can also make the brain react flexibly and concentrate. Practice some good topics at ordinary times. Usually, we should pay attention to observing other people's topics, understand attractive and unattractive topics, and consciously practice talking about things that can arouse other people's interest while avoiding topics that cause adverse effects. 3 avoid the training of bad topics. You should avoid things that you don't fully understand. If you speak with a little knowledge, it will not bring any benefits to others, but will leave a bad impression of vanity. If someone asks you these questions and you can't answer them, it's even more embarrassing. Avoid topics that you are not interested in. If you are not interested, how can you expect others to be interested in your topic? 4 Training enriches the topic content. If you have a topic, you must have something to say. Content comes from life, from your observation and feelings about life. Such people are always passionate about many people and things around them. Second, read more books and participate in outdoor activities, so that you can communicate with people more, your personality will naturally become cheerful and your experience will be rich. 1 Speak politely with strangers (not in the same tone as friends at first), first understand each other's personality, and then know how to communicate with each other. First look at whether this person and himself are the same kind of people (way of thinking, social concepts, values, etc.). If this person is similar to you, it will be easy to get along with, because everyone has the same idea, and you can also make friends with some optimistic people. Getting along with people requires sincerity, friendliness and initiative. You take the initiative to communicate with others! If there is no exchange of ideas, listening to others is a good exchange. Listen attentively and don't go in one ear and out the other. Find a topic to chat with others. First, learn to be a listener, listen to more lectures, and you can enjoy any lecture. You can also find lecture materials in the library or university campus. Listen to others in the process of communicating with friends and elders, so as to collect expressible materials every day and learn other people's language expression skills. Can do live audience, debate, oral English, host and other competitions, learn other people's language expression. The more things a person listens to, the more things in his mind will be enriched. Naturally, when he communicates with people, his language can be improved in rhetoric, context and expression tone. Language is a bridge of communication. If the language is well expressed, you can communicate and do things. If you don't know what to say, you must first learn to find a topic. The above methods will suit you. Work hard! To understand each other between people, the most important thing is to communicate more, exchange ideas, care for each other in language and behavior, and treat each other sincerely. Friends get along with each other by being sincere, trusting, tolerant, friendly, caring and supporting each other. Third, make yourself humorous: 1 When you tell an interesting story, don't show the results in a hurry. You just need to hold your breath, show the power of humor with a unique tone and dramatic plot, and create a suspense for the audience before the most crucial sentence is said. When telling jokes, every pause, every special tone, every corresponding expression, gesture and posture should contribute to the play of humor. Emphasis on important words, the use of stress, pause and other sounds to convey meaning skills, to promote the audience's thinking, deepen the audience's impression. Humor in language must be used according to specific objects, specific situations and specific contexts, and the words spoken cannot be out of date. Don't laugh when telling jokes, it's the least popular. At the end of each speech, it is best to inspire all the audience to smile from the heart. Fourth, self-confidence is very important. Believe in yourself, let go of your mood, do things with a normal heart and make yourself optimistic. Smile more. Smiling makes people feel relaxed. To sum up: confident, bold, active, positive, persistent, humorous, smiling. With the accumulation of time, you will feel that you have changed and become cheerful and optimistic. It takes a process! I hope the above points are helpful to you. You have to work hard!
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