When chatting, it is not a matter of seconds for you to say a word about me. Sometimes I am willing to send you everything I see now, without organizing concise language, and I am not afraid of any mistakes in the text, and I will not wait for a reply after sending it.
Because I know you will see it. It is trust and security, and it will not be left behind at any time.
In fact, the most comfortable relationship between people is thankless.
It's easy to get along, the communication is sincere, the contact is natural, there is no purpose, no malice, sincerity and mutual tolerance.
When two people are together, they appreciate each other, get closer and closer, and the three views are integrated and deeper. What matters is the other person's character, which has nothing to do with money and family background, and has nothing to do with academic background.
When two people are together, there is no need for deliberate contact. If you have something to do, you can get together if you want. Be on call when needed, without fear of rejection or loss.
In this relationship, two people are friends, not out of how much they appreciate or love each other, but for mutual benefit.
And once you can't get benefits from each other, this relationship is over. Aristotle observed that this kind of "practical" or "utilitarian" friendship is more common among the elderly.
For example, middle-aged people who have business contacts. Usually, we seem to have a lot of friendship. We invite wine to dinner in the evening and play golf together on weekends. Once we stop doing business, our friendship will be broken.
The second is based on "pleasure". This kind of "hedonic" friendship is more common among young people. For example, high school friends, college friends, or playing ball games together. We have some similar hobbies and interests. Get emotional pleasure by playing games or playing ball together.
Once upon a time, there were scholars who took letters as their friends. They reached each other's inner world with a frank attitude through the articles written by each other, and confirmed that they had never met each other, but their hearts were connected. If there is a fate in this life, it is a brief encounter.
This way of making friends also has inevitable defects. After meeting, after a while, a person suddenly discovered that he was actually a stranger to this friend. He was shocked that this friendship was not strong. To put it bluntly, he didn't really know the friends he met through the article, either the other party was not sincere enough to write down his personal design in the article, or he misjudged the other party's personality or soul.