1. In the chat record, the most sentence is: What are you doing?

What is more difficult to overcome than ordinary long-distance lovers is the powerlessness of not being able to link each other. Only by talking, asking and sharing. It takes a lot of time to explain the basic things: what new stores have been opened here, what new plays have been chased recently, which roles I like, and whether I am washing clothes or sleeping at this moment. These explanations are exhausting.

Unless you have extraordinary will, it is easy to slack off. Over time, people will start to panic and know too little about each other's lives. Get to know each other again every time we meet. It's actually quite frustrating.

2. When you are sick, it is useless to care more. You are still fragile.

A paradox of long-distance love is that when you need each other most, it happens to be when they are not around. A girl said that outsiders said it was a psychological suggestion, probably because they never felt sick in a long-distance relationship. I don't know what I can do, so I can only place an order on the takeaway APP to buy him medicine.

What I want to share most, I can't share it with each other for the first time. A boy who just left a different place with his girlfriend said that the most unaccustomed thing now is to watch bad movies and no one will vomit together; A girl who talked about the three-year time difference 12 hours said that when she got home at night 10, she was always a little wronged and wanted to talk to her boyfriend. But when I think it's only morning 10, I can only digest my grievances by myself. There is too much spiritual support between long-distance relationships.

I am more afraid that there is no sound on the other end of the phone than quarreling.

In a long-distance love quarrel, it is difficult to capture each other's emotions because they can't see the expression clearly and can't hear the tone clearly. Misunderstanding breeds wildly, and resentment towards each other is growing. I can't even understand a battle.

However, many people also said that no matter how fierce the quarrel is, they would rather quarrel, and there would be more panic if there was no sound on the phone. The feeling of relying too much on language communication is exhausting in itself. A friend said that people who obviously don't like to talk have to nag to continue. This is the hardest part of long-distance love. This requires a lot of patience and great fatigue.

4. How can it be so difficult to hold such a simple thing?

Touch is an emotional expression that exists before language: it has texture and temperature, and it is easier to use than speaking. But in a long-distance relationship, "the one who holds the most is the phone, not the real person." A senior colleague in a long-distance relationship said that the most missed skin contact was actually lying flat and resting his head on the other person's stomach, "the most dull but intimate moment." Biologically, this state is called "skin hunger". All hunger is hard.

I didn't expect it to be so long, and I still want to cry every time I leave.

Many people have mentioned to me that you will cry when you leave. At first, the difference was that they cried together; Later, I stopped crying in front of me and secretly cried after leaving.

A boy said that every time he sent his girlfriend through the security check, he hoped that she would not look back. "One less eye contact, one less stimulus source"; A girl said, "I took him to the airport with two people, but half an hour later, he got on the plane, and I went home alone, taking the subway alone, thinking," He was sitting on my right just now. When shall we meet again? A month? Two months? " I feel sad when I think that I can't speak well.

6. I also want to trust 100%, but I still can't help secretly worrying.

Long-distance love is not reassuring love. Sometimes I don't trust each other and feel scared: a reader told me that after three months in a different place, I finally installed a dating software and adjusted my geographical position to the other person's position. "Later, I couldn't tell if I wanted to brush him."

Sometimes I don't believe in myself, and I don't know if I can stop the suitors who take advantage of it. Trust depends not on feelings, but on information. Without information, there is almost no solution to the water-tight relationship of long-distance love. Therefore, effective communication in love is very important! Long-distance love is really not easy, very difficult, very difficult. In the name of love, but living a single life.

If you say that you are moved across the screen, the other person's feelings are only 10%, while quarreling across the screen, the other person's feelings can reach 200%. Long-distance love is really easy to end, but what really makes you sad is never long-distance love, but the problems in getting along are not solved. The meaning of long-distance love is that when you meet someone, you can be separated for the sake of being together. What you need most is time, frankness, firmness, security, mutual trust and love.

People who don't have long-distance love don't know sadness at all, probably because you don't cry and I can't hold you. When I don't return the news, I have 10 thousand kinds of guesses in my heart, full of worries, but I can't be hugged. I envy everyone around you who doesn't matter, because they can see you every day that makes me miss you so much. I will also be afraid that someone will suddenly break into our lives and take advantage of it. I refuse everyone's favor just to wait for an uncertain future. May all long-distance relationships stand the test of time.