As the saying goes, "A true gentleman provides help in times of need, but the icing on the cake is a villain." Needless to say, this "icing on the cake" is also a "friend". As for people who flatter others when they see they are powerful, and add insult to injury when they lose power, and people who "shake hands in front of others and kick feet behind others" without changing their expressions, they are also They are all regarded as "friends". The world is big and full of wonders, and there are all kinds of "friends".

The kind of friends a person makes will have a great impact on him. As the saying goes: "If you are close to vermillion, you will be red; if you are close to ink, you will be black." People with high moral character have always been respected by others and are the ones people are willing to make friends with; while people with low moral character are often despised by others, and few people are willing to make friends with them. Of course, "friends" who have "similar odors" are not excluded. In fact, everyone, whether consciously or unconsciously, always has a choice when making friends, and he always has his own standards for choosing friends.

I have read a story that Chen Cheng is an outstanding retired soldier who has repeatedly won military exploits and awards for his outstanding performance. After changing his job, he hung out with Su Peng, who was not doing his job properly, and they would have dinner and talk every now and then. With the increasing consumption, the limited salary income can no longer meet daily consumption. In order to get quick money, Chen Cheng began to degenerate and followed Su Peng to steal. As the saying goes, "If you often walk by the river, your shoes will never get wet."

One day, Chen and Cheng were caught by a patrolling policeman while stealing a luxury car. Chen Cheng's future was ruined and he suffered heavy losses. Who would have thought that a person who once had a very upright outlook would end up in jail because of careless friendships? It just ruins your outlook on life, isn’t it?

Su Jun, a scholar in the Ming Dynasty, divided friends into four categories: "fearful friends, close friends, close friends, and thieving friends": fearful friends and close friends can be intimate and close friends, help each other in adversity and help each other, and are worthy of deep friendship. ; Those close friends who flatter each other and are indiscriminate in drinking and meat, and those thieves who take advantage of others' danger and benefit themselves at the expense of others, cannot be made friends under any circumstances.

Like-mindedness and similar interests can be used as a criterion for choosing friends. Friendships cannot last long due to different ambitions and changing tastes, and they will part ways sooner or later. When choosing friends, it is advisable to choose those with high moral character and a broad mind. When you are with a noble person, you will also be infected with his temperament. Why not? When we make friends, we should also try to choose knowledgeable people. This may be the reason for the existence of Wangnianjiao.

Of course, you can’t blame your friends for perfection. People are inherently imperfect, and making friends is a two-way street. If everyone demands to make friends with people who are more knowledgeable than themselves, then in the end no one will have friends. As the saying goes, "A ruler is long and an inch is short." The most valuable thing about friends is that they can complement each other, promote each other, make progress together, and achieve each other's achievements.