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I stutter when I'm nervous. How should I adjust?
First of all, about self-treatment.

Maybe you, like most of the 6.5438+0.5 million stutterers in the United States, can't get proper clinical treatment for stuttering. What you can do is to treat yourself with all the treatments and related materials you can think of.

The first thing you have to do is tell yourself that you need to change all this, and you really need to change the way you speak now. Although it is difficult to do this, we should devote ourselves wholeheartedly and not slack off. Some people have an unrealistic fantasy that stuttering will disappear automatically one day, so you can't have hope. Besides, don't expect a panacea to solve your problem.

You can't passively wait for good treatment to come to you automatically one day. On the contrary, you must try to find it yourself. You have to understand that those old treatments and your efforts over the years have no influence on you. Habit is always powerful, and you will find it difficult to change it. Although the way you speak now makes you uncomfortable, you are used to it. We always flinch in front of those unknown things.

In order to get the long-term progress you want, you must be willing to endure temporary discomfort and sometimes even distress. There will be no pie in the sky. Why can't you spend some time and energy on treatment now and talk about it later? So how to treat it? You should completely crush the world problem of stuttering and solve it once and for all. No one thinks that it can be done without blowing dust. So should we start now?

To eradicate stuttering, a very important premise is that stutterers must be convinced that stuttering can be effectively subdued, and at the same time, they must have the spirit of struggle, hard work and loneliness. Despair, pessimism and passivity are the most dangerous enemies of self-treatment.

Second, about our self-treatment >>& gt& gt

This book is written for many stutterers in China (USA). It explains how they should control stuttering in the second person. We can say with confidence that as a stutterer, you don't need to give up your stuttering in despair, because you can change your way of speaking. You can learn to speak in a more relaxed way, instead of being as painful as before. There is no way to solve your problem easily and quickly, but taking the right self-therapy will definitely bring results.

Experience makes you doubt all the treatments that claim to solve your stuttering problem. You may have tried different treatments before, disappointed again and again, and finally suddenly woke up. This book will not promise to cure your stuttering quickly and magically, nor will it mislead you. It just explains what you can and should do to overcome your language difficulties. This book provides a reasonable and feasible correction plan based on proven treatment methods and processes. In this plan, you can walk around at will unless you are in a place where you can be observed at close range, for example, when talking on the phone. If you have a palm-sized repeater or tape recorder, you can record your voice anytime and anywhere, that would be great. The price of these devices is not too expensive. At the same time, you should also prepare a small memo.

Third, the initial cause of stuttering >>& gt& gt

There is a widely accepted view that is worth mentioning and quite interesting. The original cause of stuttering does not actually exist. Many theories have been put forward to explain the causes and characteristics of stuttering. But no theory has been confirmed or may be confirmed. These theories suggest that stuttering may be caused by environmental influences or genetic factors, or their interaction.

Whatever the cause of stuttering is, it doesn't work for you now, and it seems that these reasons are not correct now. So we think that the original cause of stuttering doesn't mean anything to you now, and it won't affect your correction process now. What you really need to consider is what makes you stutter and not get better.

You have no reason to stutter in despair all your life, which will ruin your life and career. Others have been successfully treated, so can you.

Iv. factors affecting treatment >>& gt& gt

Before explaining the detailed steps of stuttering treatment to readers, we should discuss some related factors. Because these factors are related to your attitude, viewpoint and action in correction and affect these aspects.

These factors include information that will have a substantial impact on the correction process, such as people's feelings, emotions, stress, distraction, getting help from others, motivation, etc. First of all, we point out how feelings and emotions generally affect the difficulty of language.

1) feelings and emotions

Stuttering is not a simple language barrier. It is a complex physiological and psychological dysfunction. Psychologically, we can say that stuttering is largely because stutterers try to avoid stuttering at all costs. In other words, the stutterer played an incredible joke on himself.

What happens next is that you want to speak fluently so much that you try to make your words perfect. Your pressure is getting bigger and bigger, and your problems are getting worse and worse. Unfortunately, the mechanism of language is in a delicate balance. The harder you try not to stutter, the more you stumble unintentionally.

Stuttering affects your mood, because being a stutterer is very uncomfortable. Maybe they think it is a shame to be a stutterer, even if it is not. Therefore, you are more sensitive to your own language difficulties.

Indeed, stuttering or not being able to say what you want to say fluently will make them feel very depressed. Therefore, in some cases, stutterers will feel very embarrassed and humiliated. They have to endure despair, humiliation, inferiority, depression and sometimes self-hatred.

People's emotions will make them feel fear and anxiety, which will generally affect their attitude towards others and life. Just as wagging a dog's tail can affect a dog's personality (note: I don't know where it comes from, I can't understand it), stuttering can also change the personality of a stutterer, but if you are not so sensitive and know that stuttering may or does happen, you don't need to panic at all, and soon your language will be much smoother.

Stuttering fear may be fear of words, syllables, certain people, certain occasions, making phone calls, saying one's name, etc. If you're not afraid. If the pressure were lighter, maybe you wouldn't have such language difficulties.

When your fear is strong, the corresponding stress will increase, and you will stutter more frequently and more seriously. Sometimes, your fear is very, very strong, you will be in a frenzy, and your thoughts and actions will almost be paralyzed. This kind of fear and anxiety prevents you from entering the places you like very much, and your personal experience is eclipsed a lot. This will make you feel more humiliated and embarrassed, you will feel more defeated, so you will stutter more. So the degree of your stuttering is directly proportional to the fear in your heart.

2) Tension and relaxation

Because fear can subvert muscles, muscle relaxation is the main goal of treatment. The nervousness caused by fear plays a key role in stimulating patients to stutter, and it is also a direct trigger for patients' language difficulties. If you didn't expect your language to be perfect, you wouldn't stutter like this, or at least it would be much easier for you to stutter.

How did the pressure come from? It's hard to answer. It is said that hypnosis helps to relieve stress. If you can reduce or eliminate your stress through some hypnotherapy, it is certainly very good, but unfortunately, there is no indication that hypnosis has a long-term effect.

There is another way to help patients relax. Many patients realize that if they drink some alcoholic drinks or are in a state of mild drunkenness, they will relax to some extent. Although this method usually relieves patients' stress, and in most cases, patients stutter less, we can only regret to say that this effect is temporary. So obviously this method is not worth recommending.

Unfortunately, we can't recommend any drugs to patients either. Sedatives can't complete our task.

It has been suggested that relaxation exercises can help patients reduce or eliminate tension. If patients can relax the exercise process to eliminate tension, and this effect is lasting, it is definitely a magical treatment. Many people are devoted to the research of this subject, and many stutterers have spent thousands of hours on this exercise, hoping that the effect of this exercise is worthy of the time needed for this exercise. But whether the effect can be satisfactory has not been proved.

This does not mean that relaxation exercises are frustrating. Because learning to relax is good for people's overall health-even if it doesn't cure stuttering. The basic principle is that the calmer and more relaxed you are, the less you will stutter. This is one of the reasons why we ask you to speak fluently, slowly, calmly and thoughtfully, because it will help you communicate in a more calm and relaxed way.

More practical than general relaxation is the relaxation of specific muscles. If you can locate most of the nervousness, then maybe you should learn to relax these muscles when you speak. In some cases, there are different muscle relaxation exercises that will help you.

These exercises only involve certain muscles, including the muscles that control your lips, tongue, mouth, breathing and, to some extent, the vocal cords. When you are in a relaxed state, you can deliberately contract and relax these muscles. If you can relax these muscles when talking, it will certainly help you.

We also recommend regular aerobics or such physical training. The idea is that physical exercise is not only beneficial to people's health, but also helps to build the confidence that most stutterers lack.

At the same time, because body training can make patients tend to stand up straight. This posture can also help patients develop self-confidence-a feeling that you think you are better than others or as good as others. In this respect, physical exercise will also help you.

3) divert attention

If there are some ways to distract you from your fearful thoughts, then you won't think about your stuttering, and maybe you will have no problem speaking. If you can forget that you are a stutterer, you may not stutter at all, but we don't know how to cultivate you to form such forgetfulness.

Anything that can divert your fears or ignore the threat of stuttering will usually give you temporary relief. This is why stutterers are misled by some clever tricks, such as singing, following the metronome, pointing with a wrench, waving their arms, or stamping their feet. These strange ways of speaking and other strange ways will make patients speak fluently in a short time.

When you expect to encounter language difficulties, diverting attention can temporarily cover up your fears. Think about it, that's how you use these methods. But it won't permanently reduce your fear or stutter. These seemingly weird methods will work on the patient like novel correction methods-at least after the novelty fades-if the patient is sure of its effect and he is easily influenced by psychological hints.

4) Win the support of others

If you can get the help of a qualified speech pathologist trained in the field of stuttering, you are very lucky. However, our self-correction plan is based on the assumption that you have no chance to get help from such experts. Even if you do get their help, it is basically up to you to correct it successfully.

This doesn't mean that you should refuse others' help, because you need others to talk to you and you need to keep practicing. If you have a good relationship with your family or good friends and trust each other, you have confidence in him. He/she will provide you with valuable services in many ways.

As an observer, such a person can see or hear things you don't know. When you study your stuttering style (which will be discussed later), when you encounter difficulties, such friends may imitate your stuttering style and help you understand your stuttering behavior.

He/she may also accompany you to complete certain tasks, praise you when you get achievements, and let you know that you have achieved your goals by encouraging you to persist, thus giving you spiritual support.

Stuttering is complicated and can be divided into false stuttering and real stuttering.

Fake stuttering: mild, single and fake stuttering.

There are two specific types:

A. There is a psychological disorder of stuttering, even more serious, but stuttering is rare, that is to say, the function of the vocal organs is normal and there is no stuttering habit.

For example, implicit stuttering, such as speech stuttering caused by social phobia, inferiority, timidity and introversion, is mistaken for a stutterer.

B. Because of the impatience of imitating stuttering or speaking too fast, the function of pronunciation organs is weak, and there are many stuttering phenomena when speaking, but there is no psychological obstacle of stuttering. This situation will be more frequent when children are 3-8 years old.

False stuttering is easier to treat, and some can be cured without treatment:

A species often heals itself with the change of environment and luck and the shift of attention.

Type B will heal itself with age and emotional stability.

You see, many people ate it when they were young, but they all got better later; Qian Houxin, an expert in stuttering correction, has two children who stutter, and they don't get much treatment. I just sent them to relatives' homes for a change, and then they recovered.

Father's stuttering disease belongs to type A. Later, when his family got better, he became confident and cheerful, and the stuttering disease disappeared unconsciously.

My cousin's stuttering belongs to type B, and she stopped talking after being hit by my menstruation several times, about 18 years old.

True stuttering: It is a complicated stuttering, and there are some problems in psychology, behavior and personality, vocal organs and so on. It is characterized in that:

1. has serious mental disorder of stuttering and certain personality defects.

2. Dysfunction of the language nervous system, dysfunction of the pronunciation organs, and the conditioned reflex of stuttering with some specific environment or people or consciousness, unable to control their stuttering.

As long as it is a real stutter, there must be a second feature, and most patients have both features. In other words, the real stuttering is not only a psychological obstacle, but also a problem with the function of the pronunciation organs. They can't make the muscle movements of this word and this sentence when they want to say something like normal people.

For example, if you stutter, you want to say the word "you", but the vocal organs can't do the muscle movement and mouth shape of the word "you", so naturally they can't say it.

Another example is repeated stuttering. When you want to say "you", you usually say "you" ... you ... you. Why do you have to say so many words "you" to say "you"? Due to the dysfunction of the vocal organs, the muscle movement of the vocal organs is always the muscle movement of the word "You", which takes a long time to adapt to the muscle movement of the word "You", which naturally produces the linking sound of the word "You".

Normal people's language nervous system function and pronunciation organ function are very stable. If you want to say something or subconsciously want to say something, come as soon as you open your mouth, and the pronunciation organs are absolutely obedient. People who stutter are not so happy because of the dysfunction of the two systems that dominate speech.

The dysfunction of language nervous system and pronunciation organs in most patients is not very serious. If they are serious, they have to stutter with everyone, only about 5% people do.

So we usually speak fluently, especially when we are confident, happy and relaxed. Only when we have stuttering consciousness, are afraid of stuttering, or fear, inferiority, nervousness, impatience, or speak too fast, too fast and too heavy, the function of the language nervous system will be disordered, the function of the pronunciation organs will be disordered, and its pathological state will appear.

Therefore, as long as you really stutter, sometimes you may stutter when you are not afraid of stuttering at all, when you are in a good mood, or when you talk to people you know best. I have a deep understanding of this, and real stutterers will certainly feel the same way.

If stuttering is purely a psychological problem, this situation should not happen.

It is also clear that everyone's stimulus source is different from something's stimulus to their language nervous system and pronunciation organs. Some people lose their function when they speak quickly, quickly and violently, some people lose their function when they are depressed, some people lose their function when they are angry, some people lose their function when they think of stuttering, and some people lose their function when they meet acquaintances or strangers, but they have one thing in common. When we are afraid of stuttering and care about stuttering, our functions will be out of balance in nine situations, and stuttering is inevitable.

The reason is as simple as some people are afraid of snakes and some people are afraid of mice, but they are all afraid of failure.

Knowing fake stuttering and real stuttering, then you will know which method is suitable for you and how to treat your stuttering.

From the understanding and sympathy of stuttering and the theoretical methods put forward by Min and Hong Jianming, they are all pseudo-stuttering, mainly with psychological problems and social phobia, and the function of the pronunciation organs is basically normal. Then what they call these new laws can eradicate their stuttering.

If you are a stuttering friend, you may wish to refer to their methods for treatment, especially the simple and successful breakthrough method.

If you are really stuttering friends, what effect will their methods have? Sure at first, but it's unlikely to be too good.

It is not difficult for us to understand why Apple 3, one of the founders of the "successful breakthrough method", and the heavyweights of Nanjing Club are hot and cold, and their mentality is great. They also believe that they don't stutter, but they are always patronized by stuttering on some occasions.

I think their stuttering should be similar to mine. They used to be real stutterers. Then it is not as simple as eliminating psychological barriers and thinking that you are not stuttering. If speech training and special functional training are not needed in the later stage, it is unlikely that 1-2 years will be cured. Of course, it will take a long time, and it may be cured after 5 years 10 years.

It is not difficult to understand, Xunyang landlord, Xi association, etc. Very brave, fearless and talkative, but stuttering is inevitable. Of course, they have already started the corresponding pronunciation training. As long as you persist, healing is not a problem.

It is not difficult to understand that since the 1950s, almost all the surviving stuttering treatment institutions have focused on pronunciation. (Only under the economic temptation, most institutions distort the original meaning of pronunciation. )

It is necessary to find out whether stuttering is true or false, and the right medicine is high.

Pseudostutterers who mainly suffer from psychological disorders hope to be cured quickly. They can consider participating in public speaking, self-confidence training, successful fleet training or going to local training. If you practice pronunciation, it will only get heavier and heavier At present, most treatment institutions are true and false stuttering, so the treatment based on pronunciation should be carefully selected.

Fake stutterers mainly stutter, focusing on adjusting their personality, mood and speaking habits.

Real stutterers should not only remove psychological barriers, but also carry out functional recovery training. The most taboo is quick success and instant benefit, whimsy. I made such a mistake. Brothers and sisters don't have to make the same mistakes. They can take the medicine according to the prescription I prescribed before, and it won't take a year or two.

Finally, I wish you get rid of stuttering as soon as possible! Happy life!