People have nine basic emotions: interest, pleasure, surprise, sadness, disgust, anger, fear, contempt and shame. The first two interests and fun are positive, the third surprise is neutral, and the remaining six are negative. Of these nine basic emotions, two are good and six are bad. Because people's negative emotions account for an absolute majority, people will unconsciously enter a state of bad emotions. Our aim is to shape the sunshine mentality, mobilize the two good emotions of interest and pleasure, and keep everyone in a positive mood. For example, if I am unhappy now, I will try to make myself happy, just like taking it out of my pocket. If you want any emotion to come out, you are free to bring it out. It is Superman who can do this. We are not superman, but we will try our best to do it. Because the mood is bipolar, a good mood makes you have upward motivation, makes you happy, lively, calm and calm, and creates harmony. A bad mood makes you depressed, makes you sad, pessimistic, disappointed, depressed and even decadent. If you are in a bad mood, you will lose your temper with others, be unwilling to cooperate with others' work, and have tense interpersonal relationships. If a leader is often in a bad mood, this kind of bad mood will spread in the group like a plague, leading to tension in interpersonal relationships.

If you can't change things, you will change your attitude towards it. A person's injury to what happened is not as serious as his view on it. The matter itself is not important, what matters is people's attitude towards it. When attitudes change, things will change. There is no difference between good and bad things, the key is our attitude towards things. Although ants are small, they can destroy dams. If a person changes his view of things, things will change.

There is an idiom called "A blessing in disguise is a blessing in disguise". In the ancient East, a wise man lost a horse, and his neighbor said you were unlucky. The wise man replied, I don't know whether it is good or bad; Soon, the lost horse returned with a wild horse. The neighbor said, you are lucky to have another horse. The wise man replied, I don't know if it is good or bad. My son rode a wild horse, fell off the horse and broke his leg. The neighbor said, you are really unlucky. Such a son, his leg is still broken. The wise man replied, I don't know if it is good or bad. After a while, the emperor recruited soldiers, and all the young people with sound limbs were killed on the battlefield. The son of the wise man could not fight because of his broken leg, and he was not called up, but survived. That's the end of the story. We can continue to reason. The neighbor said, you are lucky that your son is still alive. The wise man replied, I don't know if it is good or bad. When the son got married, the neighbor said, that's very kind of you. The son with a broken leg also found a wife. The wise man replied, I don't know if it is good or bad. So from the perspective of large-scale time, it is unknown whether anything is good or bad. There is no difference between good and bad, just some things. If you think like this, people will become free and easy and plain.

Zhejiang University has two female students, A and B, who are good friends. After graduating from college, they stayed behind as teachers. Fortunately, each of them gave birth to two sons. A's two sons are very competitive and both have been admitted to study in the United States. B's two sons fail to live up to expectations, and they are both "brothers". Who do you think is proud, A or B? People envy A and say that you are very kind. Both sons were admitted to study in the United States. But unfortunately, A is not happy. But B's two sons drive to see their mother every holiday and take her out to play. They take care of big things and small things very well, and B is very happy. A is envious of B, so she doesn't know whether it is good or bad. Maybe you say, it doesn't matter, just immigrate to the United States and enjoy family happiness. I tell you, I don't know if it's good or bad. If you transplant an old tree to another place, it won't live at all. A has adapted to the social ecosystem of Hangzhou. After arriving in the United States, she was acclimatized, had no language, no friends and was lonely. She can't just breathe some air and say nothing every day. Isn't that an underground mouse? Hangzhou is the most livable place in the world. Why did you immigrate to America? There is no West Lake in America. There is a lake that no one looks at. Why are you watching where everyone is watching? You can't be silly to the water every day, you don't know whether it is good or bad! If we can't change things, we must change our attitude towards them.

There was a beautiful lady who finally married a man after a long choice. Unexpectedly, two years later, she was abandoned by the man. More unfortunately, the child died. The lady was desperate and prepared to commit suicide. She chose to jump into the sea and got on an old man's boat. The ship sailed into the sea and she was ready to jump. Please tell me, how can the old man communicate with the lady to keep her from jumping into the sea? Someone answered, and the old man said, do you think I can do it? I have no wife. So this lady has to jump. The old man can say, girl, what were you like two years ago? The lady proudly said that two years ago, I was a single aristocrat, and many people pursued me. I have neither the drag of my husband nor the troubles of my children. It's tragic now. I have neither a husband nor children. The old man said, aren't these two the same You didn't have a husband two years ago, and now you don't have a husband; You didn't have children two years ago, and now you don't have children. You are as beautiful as you were two years ago. What is the hard part? Start all over again. The old man's words amused the lady. She didn't want to jump into the sea, so she started all over again. There is a song called "Start Over". Start over and pretend nothing happened. There is a female boss in Tsinghua University MBA class. She was divorced in her thirties and was very beautiful. When she was in class, she didn't know which nerve in her head twitched and had a crush on a male teacher in her forties. After class, she said to the male teacher, Do you have divorced men in their forties in Tsinghua? Introduce him to my friend. My friend and I look exactly alike. Divorced in his thirties, working as a boss in a private enterprise. The male teacher was very tempted and said, do you think I can do it? If I can, I will divorce her. The lady answered seriously, it's too much trouble. We want a ready-made one. Just kidding.

Change your attitude and you will have passion. With passion, there is the will to make progress, and the result will change. There is a classic case that says, a child is chatting with a sailor, and the child asks the sailor, how dare you go into the sea when the sea is so horrible? Sailors say the sea is sometimes beautiful. The child asked, where did your grandfather die? The sailor said, my grandfather died at sea. The child asked, where did your father die? The sailor said, "My father died in the sea, too." The child continued, "Then how dare you go out to sea?" The sailor asked the child, where did your grandfather die? The child said that my grandfather died in bed. The sailor asked, where did your father die? The child said that my father died in bed, too. The sailor asked, then how dare you sleep? You don't necessarily fall into the sea when others fall into the sea, and you don't necessarily have problems when others have problems. When you rise, you overcome the difficulties and the result changes.

The fate of inner sadness will also be sad, and the mentality determines the fate. Tell a classic case of China. In ancient times, two scholars, A and B, met a coffin on the way to catch the exam. A said, what bad luck, met a coffin, the exam will be dead; B said, coffin, promotion and wealth, it seems that my luck has come, and I will definitely be admitted this time. When they answered the questions, their efforts were different, and as a result, B was admitted. When I got home, I told my wife which coffin was really smart. Mentality affects people's ability, and ability affects people's fate.

The quality of life depends on your daily state of mind. If you can guarantee that you are in a good mood now, you can guarantee that you are in a good mood today. If you can keep yourself in a good mood every day, you will get a good quality of life and experience a beautiful life that others can't.

Learn to enjoy the process. Enjoy the process and make every day wonderful. Life is a process, not a result. If you don't enjoy the process, everyone knows what the result is. Life is a bracket, the left bracket is life, and the right bracket is death. All we have to do is fill in the brackets. We should fill the brackets with beautiful and colorful things and keep a good mood. As a result, the brackets ended. There is an ancient city in Yunnan, with pleasant climate, fertile land and rich products, and people live a leisurely life. An English gentleman saw people living a leisurely life here and asked an old lady, Madam, why is the pace of life here so slow? The old lady said, sir, what do you think is the final result of people? The English gentleman thought about it and said, this is death. The old lady said, since it is death, what are you busy with? Life is a process, not a result. Some people see through it, others see through it. There is a young man who sees through the world of mortals and does nothing every day, sitting lazily under the tree in the sun. The wise man asked, young man, why don't you make money in such a good time? The young man said, boring. If you make money, you have to spend it. The wise man asked, why don't you get married? The young man said, boring, maybe you want a divorce. The wise man said, why not make friends? Young people say every meaning, and when they make friends, they turn against each other. The wise man gave the young man a rope and said, why don't you hang yourself? You have to die anyway. You might as well die now. The young man said, I don't want to die. The wise man said that life is a process, not a result. Young people suddenly wake up, which is called a word to wake the dreamer.

How to enjoy the process of life? Focus on positive things. We think that life is like travel and memory is like photography. Attention determines choice, and choice determines content. Tourism is characterized by starting from the origin and then returning to the origin. When someone travels to Xiamen, they must go to Gulangyu Island. When they arrive at Gulangyu Island, they must go to Sunlight Rock. When I arrived at Sunlight Rock, I saw a rock that was less than15m2. It was crowded with people, and it came down in less than 2 minutes. It took a week and only two minutes on Sunshine Rock. From the result, it is not worth it at all, but the process is more important than the result. There are two people, A and B, watching the scenery. At first, you looked at me, too Both of them are very happy. Later, A played a clever trick, walked faster than B, and went to see the scenery. When B saw that you wanted to have a look earlier than I did, he walked faster and faster than A, so they finally ran faster and faster. Originally, they came to see the scenery, but now it has become a competition. They didn't see the scenery along the way and finally regretted it. The essence of life is to pursue happiness, not competition.

Live in the moment. What is the most important thing? What time is the most important? Who is the most important person? Some people will say that the most important thing is to get promoted, get rich, buy a house and a car, the most important people are parents, lovers and children, and the most important time is the college entrance examination, wedding and defense. I'm telling you, none of these things exist. The most important thing is what you are doing now. The most important person is the person you are working with now. The most important time is now. This view is called living in the present. To live in the present, you must be satisfied with your present situation, believe that everything that happens to you at all times is the best, and believe that your life is unfolding in the best way.

The main connotation of sunshine mentality: First, we can adapt to the environment without changing the environment. An Indian has been practicing moving mountains for several years. He has made great efforts to move mountains. After a long time, he found that the mountain did not move. He complained to master that he couldn't move the mountain. Master told him that the mountain can't be moved. You just have to walk to the other side of the mountain. Second, change yourself if you can't change others. Some people even want to change the habits of 80-year-olds. They have developed absolute habits and cannot change them. If there is an old man at home, you can only adapt to him, but you can't change him. The marketing general manager of Harbin Bearing Factory was brought up by her grandmother, who took her home, and her daughter-in-law was determined to be filial and not let the old lady do any work. When the old lady came back from buying vegetables, she threw them away when she thought they were not delicious. The old lady sweeps the floor. She felt unclean and had to sweep it again. The old lady has been doing housework all her life. She has to do it, but her daughter-in-law just won't let her do it. The contradiction between them intensified and they quarreled every day. Third, you can't change your attitude towards things without changing them. We can't be hurt by other people's words. If we are hurt by other people's words, it is your own thinking that hurts you. If someone says, you are really nothing! You can't be angry with him. You could say that. You are absolutely right. You revealed the essence of human beings. Humans are definitely not a thing! You and I are the same. Fourth, if you can't compare up, compare down, so as to get a good mood. Success tells us that soldiers who don't want to be marshals are not good soldiers, and sailors who don't want to be captains are not good sailors. But unfortunately, only one person can be the captain. If you want to be a captain, you have to throw everyone else into the sea. Everyone thinks so, and the result is that there is only one person left on the boat, maybe not you. Success is right, but if you are not good at compromise and content with the status quo, then you will live in pain forever.

Those who love others will always love others, and those who respect others will always respect others;

Know how to care about friends, know how to rest assured and get comfortable, know how to forget and get free;

You can't do whatever you want, you can only do a little.

Living in the present, facing the future, and keeping up with the joneses can make you get sunshine every day.