Let me start with a happy case after retirement.
There is a retired leader who is the deputy director of a certain unit. Every time I drink, I am more heroic than before, and I don't mention anything before I retire. When people talk about his work, he always says it happened before. Now I am a free old man, and then I talk about drinking, talking about my children and grandchildren, talking about learning to drink tea and learn calligraphy after retirement, and caring about young people who are still working, so the atmosphere of drinking is very good.
There is another person who was the head of the company before he retired. Every time he drinks, he laughs. If he talks, he just remembers being happy with the people at the same table. Whether young or old, drinking is polite and restrained, which really makes people feel like spring breeze.
Such people, of course, are pleasant boosters on the wine table and people like them.
Say a few unpleasant speakers.
There was an old comrade who was the principal person in charge of several units before he retired. But after retirement, every time he drinks, as long as the official position is younger than him, the young one is called the younger generation, and the old one is called by his first name. Then he will tell his previous work experience like a story, which makes people feel that drinking is like listening to his beautiful history. After a long time, everyone didn't want to eat with him.
And some retired leaders. Every time I eat, it's because I have recently done something with your so-and-so leader, or I often eat with your so-and-so leader, or I have such a close relationship with your leader, which makes people feel that such people seem to live in the shadow of others every day. It's really fall in price.
The old leader of this department has retired for many years. At the end of the year, the unit informed him to come back for dinner and carry out the Spring Festival networking activities together. When the old leader came early, he went to our office for tea and chat. After a few commonplaces, the old leader introduced us to life after retirement and went out several times. He went to several provinces, used to be a leader, and his colleagues in the office began to look at him with new eyes. We got information from each other's eyes, looked at each other to protest and pouted at each other unreasonably. The lively atmosphere suddenly became extremely embarrassing. I realized that my emotional intelligence was ok, and I quickly asked like a circus: "It doesn't matter if we are retired and idle old men, and it doesn't matter if we don't lead properly. Don't they just want to be happy? " The old leader didn't seem to feel the change of the atmosphere at the scene, but still said, "We only play with people who have been leaders." This completely annoyed several colleagues in the office, and everyone picked up their cups and slipped out of the office.
Since then, the old leader has returned to the unit, and no one has ever brought him tea or water. This incident was also regarded as a slot for colleagues to spit out retired veteran comrades, and it was lively for a while.
Say anything, drop the price! ! !
People live all their lives. Go to school since childhood and be disciplined by teachers. When it comes to work, unit leaders are responsible. I dare not say this or that. Afraid of offending people and losing face, and of course afraid of fall in price?
You know your destiny when you are 50, and you are 60. Still paying attention to how others feel about you, for fear that fall in price will lose face.
Hey, are you tired? !
Retired. If you want to eat, go ahead. If you don't want to go, don't go. Let alone how to talk while eating. Price drop? What is the price? Who has this price? Whose price is higher?
Get along with people, be sincere and frank.
You're retired, and you still can't see through this?
Human freedom is not what you want to do, but what you can do; It's about doing nothing if you don't want to do anything.
After retirement, you should live in seclusion and provide for the elderly. Put an end to boring social interaction, dull mind, old ideas, mouth and mouth not responding to your heart. My teeth are crooked, too. What's the point of going
Men don't mention the courage, Lian Po is old, still can eat? People will retire when they are old, and their energy will be exhausted. It's time to retire and go home for the elderly.
Just have a meal, don't be so serious, just say what you should say, and say what you should say at ordinary times. If you retire, you will be inferior, and if you are not in power, you will not keep your word?
"It's better to look at Fuchunjiang River than fish." People in Kunming, China have a big problem with saving face and stressing ostentation and extravagance. It's really embarrassing to die. People want face, trees want skin. People strive for a sigh of relief, and Buddha strives for a fragrance. Especially those who used to be leaders, they were in power, bossing around, smiling and keeping their word. All the subordinates around are greeted with smiles, and they are passive to Nuo Nuo and Nuo Nuo, with boundless scenery, crowding round and bursting with popularity. It's easy to get carried away, as if a person's ability level can be nine days, but he can catch turtles in five oceans, laughing with scholars and having no contact with Ding Bai.
The world is bustling for profit, and the world is bustling for profit. Short-sighted people only look at the present. If you are in power today, people will naturally flatter you. If you retire tomorrow, you will be lonely, and there will be fewer and fewer cars and horses in front of her. The huge difference between before and after contrast makes many old leaders almost unbearable mentally, but it is human nature to take a closer look, and there is nothing to make a fuss about.
In fact, a person's accomplishment is closely related to his quality. The horizon is directly proportional to his experience, and the pattern is commensurate with his mind. Leaders with high self-cultivation and high positions often put down their postures, mingle with the people, never put on airs and stress social status, only serve the people with different jobs, and never distinguish between high and low. However, those who are troubled by bureaucratic ideas are used to bossing around all day as soon as they take office. Once they retire, they lose their power, which is really unbearable.
An upright man is open and poised while a petty man is anxious and worried. If a person can become a leader by virtue of his own ability, he must have something extraordinary. How can this little thing be hard to see? How can a person who doesn't know what others think be a good leader? Of course, the ability to sing what songs on what mountains, watch food and eat, tailor and cope with a small dinner is not to mention.
Even ordinary people, even at work, have no value, and even after retirement, have no value at all. No matter what you say at dinner, the price has not dropped at all. He who has no long-term worries must have near worries. Everything should be optimistic. Don't haggle over everything. Be small-minded, far-sighted and broad-minded. If you often get angry because of a little thing, it is very bad for your health.
I think it's about pensions. Some people say that their pension is high, others are higher than you, some people say that their pension is low, and some people are lower than you. Therefore, a large group of retirees together, it is best not to talk about pension issues, otherwise you will be very embarrassed.
Say nothing, and the price will drop. After retirement, I have the opportunity to attend a dinner party. It must be the majority of the original unit, otherwise there would be no such problem. Being able to attend the dinner party means that everything is fine with you. So the price hasn't dropped.
They are all retired. Is there anything that you don't want to get from falling prices? No matter what kind of dinner, as long as you treat people sincerely, make friends with your heart, and sell the old without seniority, I believe you won't talk about what's bad for you!
Think about it, how many dinners can we attend once we retire? Even if there is a so-called dinner party, it is just a gathering of classmates or old colleagues. People won't invite me to a serious dinner. Besides, even if I am invited, I will try to refuse. I'm retired and mixed up with others! We should also be self-aware. After all, we still understand the truth that "politics is not in place"!
On the other hand, even if old classmates or colleagues have dinner, who doesn't know who and who doesn't know who? Does it matter what we say at this time? Old classmates and colleagues are nothing more than reminiscing about their parents' shortcomings, and they are so familiar with each other. Sincerity is natural. Do you need to say anything grandiose to express yourself? Even if you say that life is not satisfactory, you won't be labeled as "falling in price", will you?
So, we are all retired, and we do what we should do, and we don't need to worry about what to say at a dinner. Why live so tired? Besides, isn't it wonderful to do something you like every day?
What is the most taboo thing to say after retirement, especially when you used to have certain powers and are now marginalized by power?
The more prominent you are at work, the greater the psychological gap after retirement. You will complain about current politics and other people's words at the right time. The most taboo thing to say is to blame others, especially those you once valued or trusted the most.
He was seldom seen in the past. If I didn't help him at the critical moment, now … I always remember my previous help to others, and I always hope that others will always remember my own kindness to others. The more I talk, the more the price will fall.
I like my life after retirement very much. As long as I'm with the right person, I'm happy to say anything whether I eat or not. As the saying goes, people who know about sex can get along.