After reading the silent confession, what do you think 1 people need to spend a lifetime? When I picked up the novel Silent Confessions, I guessed the ending from the beginning, but in the process of reading, I couldn't stop thinking and feeling.
The characters in the book are particularly representative. We can more or less find some of our own shadows in the characters in the book. There are six main characters in this novel. Girl Lydia, mother Marilyn, father James, brother Ness, sister Hannah and classmate Jack. The novel revolves around Lydia's death. Who is Lydia? What happened to her? Why did she make such a choice? ..... In the process of constantly looking for answers, we finally learned the cause of Lydia's death, and the whole process seemed to be a silent story.
Marilyn, her mother, was bent on becoming a doctor and eventually gave up her studies to become a housewife. But she can't let go of her dreams. Finally, she imposed all her dreams on her daughter Lydia, devoted all her care to her, and even ignored her other two children. However, she didn't notice that these things were too heavy on Lydia.
His father James is from China. No matter how hard he works and studies, he can't integrate into American society. He didn't want Lydia to be like him, so he gave his daughter a book on how to get along with others, hoping that she would be happy and cheerful, but he didn't know that it was actually his love and expectation with his wife that imprisoned Lydia.
The appearance of Jack awakened Lydia and made her realize that she had never been brave enough. It is her weakness that hides her heart bit by bit. Finally, she wanted to understand everything. She wants to swim to the other side to prove her heart. However, Lydia forgot one thing-she can't swim at all. In the end, all the secrets are hidden in this deep lake.
This is a sad story, but unforgettable.
In fact, the parents in the story are very similar to many parents now. They impose their own ideas and expectations on their children and plan their own well-developed and promising careers on their growth path, but they never ask their children's opinions and never care about what they really want.
In fact, family education is particularly important in education. At the beginning of life, a child is a blank sheet of paper. Parents should fully protect their children's personality during their growth. Family is a warm harbor, dialogue is a bridge of love, and the importance of communication has been realized by more and more parents and families. Only by establishing a good communication relationship can we achieve truly effective communication, help children and help them realize their dreams.
Finally, a sentence similar to the cover of this book is attached, "Our whole life is to get rid of the expectations of others and find our true self."
Reading Silent Confessions 2 Lydia is dead.
Wu's thrilling prologue doomed that Silent Confessions would not be a Feng Tang-style youth novel full of hormones. It should be related to the author's own China identity background. Reading the whole book is not a big obstacle for China readers. The level is limited to prevent spoilers, so the details in the book are not detailed. The whole book revolves around the death of the eldest daughter of an American immigrant family, just like the English book Everything I Never Told You, in which the author talks about it.
In fact, the subtitle of the book: Our whole life is to get rid of other people's expectations and find our true self. It can make readers understand this book well.
China readers, take me as an example. Seeing Lydia's tragedy is exactly what teenagers in China are experiencing now. Children grow up in the expectation of their parents. Her parents didn't want Lydia to return to her young life, and warned and asked her children what to do or what to do as an experienced person. At this time, the tragedy of being buried began. The so-called tragedy is not only the death of Lydia in the book, but also the loss of self What I understand is that Lydia found herself but didn't know what to do. She finally chose the simplest, most shocking and most regrettable way for her. When a tragedy happens, people who have experienced it are always indifferent. They are always surprised. Never thought about why.
After reading this book, it happened that someone in my family was applying for a university volunteer. Then we all remembered the situation when we chose to volunteer, full of regret and unwillingness, but at least we had a hard time but were still happy. I said to my brother who is about to enter the university gate: there is no right or wrong choice of university major, as long as you choose it yourself. I don't know what the chocolate in Forrest Gump's box tastes like until I taste it. Life is a process of trial and error. The most important thing for you is how to spend four years.
Ancient Greek philosopher's: Know yourself. This is the theme of each of our lives.
The most terrible thing in life is not failure, but mediocrity. Maybe you are envied by others now, but when the moon is high, the city is brightly lit, and you are really happy in the dim light in the distance, is all this what you want? Maybe people will say, "What can I do?" ? Actually, I don't know the answer. Maybe I do, but I don't know right or wrong. But I am stupid. I'm trying. I'm looking for my own answer by the simplest elimination method.
Ok, the above is an article I made up.
18 is halfway through. To sum up: the work is dull and gradual, and we should think more and improve our execution in the second half of the year. In my life, I read a few books and made some friends. Continue to read more and learn more in the second half of the year. The most stable love is still 0. In the second half of the year, well, just follow the fate, don't force it! The only thing worth showing off is my great cause of losing weight: running and losing 30 pounds. Now I can't live without running. I always feel that I am perfect 5 kilometers away. 5 kilometers is the distance between me and the world.
Keep moving!
I woke up early this morning and received many birthday wishes from banks. Ha ha ha, it was an own goal. July 8th is really not my birthday. I am on the eighth day of the seventh lunar month. Remember to give gifts to the friends you meet. Make a wish, don't ask what it is, it's something you haven't done before, and it won't work to announce the answer at the end of the year.
After reading the silent confession, I feel that Lydia is dead, but they don't know it yet. Since death, a silent depression has spread.
The author patiently peeled off the cassock of death layer by layer and cut the reader's heart delicately.
Lydia, the darling of her parents, has only one child in their eyes because she inherited her mother's blue eyes. The unfortunate father is from China. Parents are convinced that Lydia will realize her dream that they can't.
James spent his life trying to avoid being different and eager to integrate into the mainstream American society, but he never crossed the threshold of race. What about Marilyn? When she met James, her dream of becoming a doctor was quietly dashed. As an excellent Harvard man, James virtually responded to Marilyn's mother's request. Maybe married life is also Marilyn's mother's expectation. My mother has been trying to turn me into her favorite type all her life.
Ness and Hannah, with their father's blood, should be said to be lucky, so they escaped. As the center of the family, Lydia should bear the ardent expectations of her parents with her tender shoulders. This expectation beats Lydia's young heart again and again. She is like a thin thread. Mom and dad want to play their own gorgeous chapters on her, but the tight string finally breaks at a certain moment. This is a silent echo, a silent confession, telling us that every selfish soul should be whipped.
Parents like to give their expectations to Lydia as gifts.
My father will send her how to win friends and influence others, and I think you may need it. He said it would help you win friends and become popular. My father's eyes were like swords, biting Lydia's heart bit by bit. For the first time, her father finally gave her the gift and necklace she wanted, but when she opened the pendant, she froze. There are pictures of her father and her at the dance. This necklace is silver. I wanted to buy gold, but a reliable person told me that everyone was wearing silver this year. James always cares about what everyone is doing and ignores what his daughter really wants. How pathetic.
Mother is keen on tutoring Lydia. She can sharpen a pencil and put her homework next to the porridge bowl. On her birthday, her mother will send her books such as A Brief History of Medicine, rosalind franklin and DNA, Color Atlas of Human Anatomy, Women Pioneers in Science, How Your Body Works, Children's Chemistry Experiment and Medical Stories. For Lydia, these books are mountains. Just looking at them is very oppressive. Unfortunately, they are always in my mind. Maybe in the next moment, she will suffocate.
These are not enough. My mother once ran away from home. In order to get her mother back, Lydia made up her mind to do whatever her mother said. She wants to realize her mother's every wish. This is a sign of tragedy. From now on, my mother will spend the rest of her life guiding Lydia and sheltering her like a rose.
Finally, one night, Lydia thought of the original pier. Is this the beginning or the end? She finally stepped into the lake and sank into the sea where her parents met.
Ji Bolun's poems are very incisive. Your children are not your children/but the children who are eager for life/they come through you, not from you. You can cover their bodies, but you can't cover their souls.
Every living individual is eager to live the true colors of high, rather than becoming a mold. Our whole life is to get rid of other people's expectations and find our true self. However, many people spend their whole lives trying to win the recognition of others. I can't say there is anything wrong with this, but there are countless possibilities in life, so you don't want to live for yourself, even if it is only a little bit different. That brilliance is a ripple that keeps drifting when the waves beat the coast; Silk, like an invisible field, air haunts us and degenerates into a silent call, which comes from our hearts. All we have to do is listen, put aside all other thoughts and listen, and then set sail. You will know whether dreams are dreams or reality.
Even feathers have their own colors, don't they?
I am amazed at the absurdity of human beings, constantly changing roles, naturally forgetting the pain I suffered in the past, full of servility, and in turn flogging another group of innocent people, connecting smoothly like running water.
Lydia is dead, but we are still alive. We should open another comma for her dead hole, which is a link in countless chains and will not end. We should not wave after wave, but find our own fork in the road. From then on, the sky is vast.
Reading Silent Confessions 4 Silent Confessions is the work of China woman writer Wu Qishi. I saw it on the list recommendation for the first time, but I just didn't have a book at hand, so I tried it. I have never been superstitious about list recommendation. Reading is a very subjective thing. There are a thousand hamlets in the eyes of a thousand people. But this book has given me many surprises and thoughts.
The protagonist of this book is a child of a mixed-race China family. The book was heavy from the beginning, and the protagonist died. I finished reading this book with a heavy heart and put it on hold for a while, but fortunately I finished reading it at last, and the ending was bright sunshine.
It is difficult for China people to integrate in foreign countries. In recent years, studying abroad is getting younger and younger, the number of immigrants is also rising rapidly, and there are more and more negative news. Recently, it was reported that China students were accused of taking school bullying to court abroad, and their parents wanted to settle the matter with the bullied person and were accused of bribing witnesses. The characteristics of China people determine that it is a very painful process to adapt to immigration. In the eyes of foreigners, China people don't like to communicate with outsiders. They like to get together and are very wary of outsiders. There is discrimination, and of course there is our own national character. We are forbearing, quiet and smart, and it is difficult for us to integrate into completely different environments. Not to mention a foreign country, even in the same country, it is difficult to go out. It still takes several generations for a foreigner to integrate into Beijing, including hukou, house, topic and accent. It takes several generations to make future generations live a leisurely life like locals.
So is the protagonist. Through the efforts of his grandfather and father, he can enter an American school and become an ordinary student. However, it is difficult to get rid of inner loneliness. In the eyes of American students, the protagonist is oriental, while in the eyes of orientals, the protagonist of mixed blood is obviously different. Parents also have their own problems. My mother is strong and feminist, pinning all her unfinished wishes on her daughter who is also a woman. My father has always been troubled by his China identity. Because of his inner inferiority, he is very proud of his blonde daughter. He encourages the protagonist to make friends with local people every day. The only intimate brother was admitted to the university and couldn't wait to leave this suffocating family.
In the first half of the book, the protagonist is liberated from her parents' impression of her good girl bit by bit. The hostess has never had any friends. What her father sees talking on the phone with friends every night is actually a lonely one-man show. The hostess never likes studying. Every present for her mother is a science book. Her bright smile is only because she is worried that her mother will leave her again. She was in contact with a bad boy recognized by the school, and she was disheartened because her brother immediately left himself alone and ran for freedom. The characters in the book have changed from characteristics to * * * bit by bit. Aside from the foreign background, these problems of the hostess are inevitable for all of us. Enlarged, everyone is afraid of loneliness, but under the eager eyes of parents, some loneliness and hesitation are hard to say. Poor people carry on the family line without parents. They don't want their children to be good, but what they think is good is mostly not happiness, but more wealth and food and clothing. We live in such a country, and the foundation of our ordinary family is very thin, so our parents can't help worrying about our future life. They keep saying come on: study hard, then you can get into a good university, have a good job and be able to support your own life; Come on, make friends, because relying on parents at home, relying on friends when going out, no connections is a high score and low energy; Come on, learn your specialty, because it can be eaten all over the world. Your specialty is a supplement to your ability and a weight for you to enter the society in the future. We have so many things to refuel that we lose ourselves and want to say goodbye, but it is cool for a good autumn. But my favorite actor said, please don't refuel, please don't work hard, please slow down. In every trough of life, what we need is not to constantly force ourselves and tell ourselves to refuel and work hard, but to say to ourselves, let me have a hard time, let me hug myself, let me have enough time to see my sadness, and then recover naturally. Fortunately, at the end of her life, the hostess threw away the sadness and hesitation that accompanied her short life, and her mood suddenly became clear.
Just as the title says-what I haven't said, there is a shadow of each of us in this book, and there are things we want to say but haven't said, and no one has told us. After reading this book, I just want to say, please, don't lose yourself.
After reading the silent confession, I think our whole life is to get rid of other people's expectations and find our true self. -inscription
What is the most terrible thing in life?
What I like most about this question is Xu Hu Sheng's answer in Zhihu-the most terrible thing in life is to be what others want you to be, not what you want to be.
In Silent Confession, there is a sad girl-Lydia, who experienced the most terrible thing in her sixties and died at the edge of sixteen.
Lydia was originally the apple of her parents' eye, loved by her brother and envied by her sister. Because she looks like her mother, she became the inheritor of her parents' lifelong dreams, but one night she was overwhelmed and jumped into the lake.
After reading the whole book, I have been thinking, what are the wishes of Mr. Li and Mrs. Li? Is there no racial distinction in love? Or can women have the right to choose? Or both?
But is it cruel to deprive Lydia of the space to grow freely just because of these wishes? Is it selfish to impose one's will on children and suppress their resistance with morality and love?
Education is not a machine for producing similar decorations, but a sculptor, under whom all kinds of lively and thoughtful children can be born. Lydia instinctively grew up like an ordinary girl. Whether she becomes a doctor or a housewife, her fate is carved by her stroke by stroke, rather than following the route set by her parents as in the story.
As a result, this book is probably the most popular among readers in China, just like a news I once read: my father likes playing football, so my son under the age of ten should also learn to play football; my mother thinks piano can cultivate temperament, so my daughter wants to learn piano, and because piano can't be shown off on many occasions, my mother regrets learning piano.
After reading this news, my heart is full of regrets-every child has his own interests, and whether it is long-term or not, he should be given the opportunity and right to explore, instead of taking the glamorous road in people's eyes. Even if he succeeds, he will only become two kinds of people, one is a living shell and the other is a dead body.
Lydia has changed from a living body to a dead body. She must not want to live up to her parents' expectations, so she silently endured the pressure and exiled herself. But she must want to find herself again, so she secretly smokes and associates with recognized bad boys. But when all the forces that support her to become herself disappear, the soul will be destroyed and the body will not last forever.
It's hard to find my true self, but once I find it, I won't be empty for the rest of my life, and I'm not afraid of others imposing my wishes on me. This may be another sense of power.
I remember when I just finished reading this book, I was moved to tears, and the characters in the book deeply influenced me.
Since Lydia was born, all her parents have placed great hopes on her. She is the apple of her family's eye, so her brother Ness and sister Hannah are often ignored. Lydia's father James is from China and her mother Marilyn is from the United States, but Lydia inherited her mother's blue eyes and her father's black hair, which is why she is treated differently with her brother and sister at home. But because of the different genes, the James family is out of tune with the surrounding environment everywhere.
Lydia has no friends. Since her mother left home that year, Lydia vowed never to let her leave or disappoint her. Marilyn wants Lydia to realize her unfulfilled dream of becoming a doctor and being different, while James wants Lydia to blend in with the crowd and make friends. Obviously, Marilyn and James have contradictory ideas.
Lydia is like a sandwich cake, bearing her mother's dream and facing a mountain of homework. At the same time, she was forced to socialize, and her brother Ness was indifferent to her, which eventually led to Lydia's accidental drowning in the lake.
Everyone is responsible for Lydia's death, but the apparent drowning accident is related to deeper racial discrimination and gender discrimination. Lydia seems to be favored, but she is under pressure from all sides, the contradiction of parents' expectations, the burden of study, the loneliness in her heart and the indifference of others. No one cares about her, loves her and understands her. She doesn't like being a doctor She doesn't like to take books as birthday presents every year, but she dare not say that she is afraid of her mother. But she forgot that she was just a child and it was not her fault that her mother ran away from home. She doesn't have to pretend to be a mother's ideal, and she bears all the pressure alone. In this case, she met Jack, an unruly child, who became the last straw to crush Lydia to some extent. This is the beginning and end of Lydia. Lydia's death awakened the family, but it was costly. Although Lydia is dead, every member of the family will always feel guilty for her original behavior.
Life goes on, and there are still many places to be repaired. Perhaps, in our life, we just want to get rid of other people's expectations and find our true self!
Finally, in silence, confess to yourself: keep fighting and never compromise. I think this is the biggest inspiration for me from this story.