When you don’t know a person’s age, you can call her beauty. As long as she is still relatively young, you can call her beauty. You can call her beauty when you are thirty or forty years old. It is more polite to call her beauty, and others will also call her beauty. Like it very much. If you are younger, you can call her beautiful sister. If you are of similar age, you can also call her beauty directly. ?

Interpersonal communication is very important in both our lives and work. It can be said that whether interpersonal relationships are handled well or not will directly affect a person's quality of life.

People who are good at sociability can be at ease in all aspects and have the best of both worlds. People who are not good at sociability often find it difficult to move forward and hit walls everywhere. Improving and forging a good interpersonal relationship is actually a desire that each of us wants to have. In addition to certain talents, the biggest part of this ability comes from acquired efforts. Ma Modu once said: In interpersonal communication, don't call "brother" or "sister" blindly. Not only will your emotional intelligence be low, but you will also be annoying. People also hold different attitudes towards his view.

Invisible tycoon Ma Modu

China’s invisible tycoon, writer, editor and collector Ma Modu. His ancestral home is Rongcheng, Shandong. He was born in Beijing on March 22, 1955. Speaking of this person, you probably don't know much about him, but many of you should have watched the show "Dudu" hosted by him.

Ma Modu’s life experience can be said to be very rich. In his early years, due to the influence of the Cultural Revolution, he went to the countryside and joined the army. His life had many ups and downs, but during this period he only What remained uninterrupted was improving his cultural literacy. After graduating from elementary school, Ma Modu did not choose to continue his studies, but this did not affect him from reading a large number of books.

After returning to the city, he began to create literature. From a young man whom no one knew, he gradually became a well-known best-selling author through his years of continuous efforts. In addition to writing, Ma Modu also has another hobby, which is collecting.

Ma Modu began collecting ancient Chinese treasures in the 1980s. In just a few years, his collection included more than a thousand pieces of ceramics, jade antiques, furniture, etc. In 2002, he passed many Through their efforts, the Guanfu Museum, the first private museum since the founding of the People's Republic of China, was founded. In addition to his love of collecting antiques, Ma Modu also wrote a large number of books on collection, which is undoubtedly a valuable asset for those who are keen on antique collectors.

In 2008, Ma Modu ranked fifth on the "Rich List of Chinese Writers in the Third Quarter of 2008", which immediately attracted widespread attention. In the same year, he also won the top ten awards in the Chinese collecting community. During this period, he was a guest on CCTV's "Hundreds of Forums" broadcast for 52 episodes. Later, "Dudu", a program similar to a talk show hosted by Ma Modu, came out. The broadcast of this program was sought after by a large number of viewers.

This program has great practical significance. In the program, Ma Mo uses the unique "Ma" language to perfectly combine history, culture, hot events, etc. with classic movies to interpret, and the content is even more Rich, exciting and interesting. Through such a program, he conveyed his own opinions to people in a special way about his life experience. Another feature of this program is that the theme of the program can be planned according to the needs of netizens. It was a great help to people who were confused.

You need to think carefully when calling "brother" or "sister"

As the saying goes, don't hit anyone with a smiling face when you open the door. People often think that sweet-tongued people are easy to please and get things done. In reality, this idea is not incorrect, but some people don't like this approach. Ma Modu talked about calling "brother" or "sister" in interpersonal communication. He elaborated on his views and gave people a suggestion: avoid calling people who are not familiar with each other "brothers".

Except for the clear blood relationship, other relationships between people are relatively subtle. In addition to subtlety, there is an unspeakable and tacit boundary. The sudden "Brother" "The title "Sister" seems to some people to be intentionally breaking this inherent balance. They feel that you are forced to admit this blood relationship that does not exist in the first place. Not only will it not deepen the relationship between each other, On the contrary, it will cause the other party to feel uncomfortable.

For newcomers in the workplace, when they first enter a new working environment, they definitely want to integrate into the group as soon as possible. They are often influenced by the empiricist dogma of "talking sweetly and doing things well". It is believed that as long as you are good at talking in the workplace, you will do less and do more things. However, this is not always the case in real life.

For newcomers, it is more important to have a good sense of proportion at this time. In the workplace, interpersonal communication, a relationship that is already difficult to grasp, needs to be carefully managed. When you are not familiar with your colleagues, , let alone shouting randomly.

Be especially careful when you don’t know the other person’s age, especially if you are a female senior. Maybe your “sister” will not only make the other person feel embarrassed, but even though you didn’t say anything at the time, you still feel in your heart. It will inevitably have a bad impact on you, and there will inevitably be unnecessary barriers in your heart, which is not worth the loss. In addition, calling people random names will give people the illusion of forming a clique. This will not only fail to bring them closer to each other, but will also lead to indifference from their seniors.

In addition to the relationship between colleagues in the workplace, there is also a more subtle relationship with the leader. Calling the leader "brother" or "sister" in the workplace. If this behavior is serious, the future will be ruined. Affected to a certain extent, some people may not believe how a title can have such a big impact.

For leaders, such a casual title may make the leader think that this person does not understand the rules. In more serious terms, it will think that this person does not respect themselves, and even more deeply, employees will think that this person does not respect themselves. If you pay too much attention to interpersonal relationships at work and do not do practical things, it will be difficult to gain a foothold in the workplace.

In addition to telling people not to call strangers brothers or brothers, Ma Modu also talked about the importance of titles between acquaintances. Of course, you can't act too unfamiliar with people you know well. Naturally, you want the other person to feel your sincerity, but you still need to have a certain sense of proportion.

From the titles of "brother" and "sister" to another popular and unpleasant title nowadays is "teacher". The popularity of this title makes people feel that it instantly lowers the status of the teacher. Unacceptable. Whether it is "teacher" or "brother" or "sister", people are misinterpreting their original meanings in interpersonal communication. Therefore, it is very important to learn to speak correctly in our lives.

Misfortune comes from the mouth. Some people lose as soon as they open their mouths. This also emphasizes the importance of speaking. Speaking is not static. The old saying often says that when you see people, you will tell people, and when you see ghosts, you will tell lies. This It also reminds us that we must adapt to the situation and act according to circumstances. Having extraordinary emotional intelligence can make you go further in life.

Whether it is in the workplace or in life, learning to speak correctly is a lifelong skill. Remember, whether we are with familiar people or strangers, we should uphold a sincere heart to make friends, maintain a respectful attitude, maintain a good attitude, learn to observe words and expressions, and do not think too much before speaking.