As children get older, some children will become the happy fruits of their classmates, and they are always full of laughter and joy. But some children will gradually drift away from their classmates and gradually close themselves in a small corner to play alone.

The child of a colleague’s family is such a relatively withdrawn child. When the colleague asked the child why he did not play with his classmates, the child told him: "I don’t want to make friends with them." After hearing this reason Colleagues are also very surprised. It is children's nature to be playful, so why is my child unwilling to make friends with other people?

In fact, the reason why children are unwilling to make friends may be because they are in the "strange sensitive period". During this period, parents need to pay attention to their children's psychological thoughts to prevent their children from developing a withdrawn and introverted personality.

Children may experience a "strange-sensitive period" before they are six years old. The "strange-sensitive period" mainly means that children will easily feel fear or discomfort due to unfamiliar environments or unfamiliar people and things. If parents do not spend time well with their children, their subsequent growth will be affected.

But now there is a lot of pressure in society. Parents often neglect their care and companionship for their children, and fail to use the correct attitude in time to deal with children who are in the "unfamiliar sensitive period". Parents' inaction will have a very negative impact on their children.

Impact 1: Children refuse to communicate with their parents

Children who spend less time with their parents generally do not take the initiative to confide in their parents. Parents should not think that this is the child’s desire to be independent. He just keeps his little thoughts in his heart, and parents can't feel their children's true thoughts at all.

Parents cannot supervise their children's lives all the time, but if there is no ordinary communication, how do parents know how far their children have grown?

Impact 2: Children refuse to make friends with classmates

It is a very sad thing not to have the company of friends on the road of life. No one understands you, no one understands the reason why you do things. This is a very lonely and sad thing. When a child is afraid of making friends with classmates because of the "strange sensitive period", it means that the child has to eat, sleep, and play alone at school.

Looking at classmates in groups, children will feel that they are different and develop a sense of inferiority. They will not dare to talk to classmates or teachers. This will happen when they need to communicate with others in later life. A big obstacle.

There will always be times in life when one person cannot hold on. Only friends can support us without any reason. Therefore, if children cannot make friends normally, it will also have a great impact on the child's spiritual development.

Impact 3: Children can easily become a person with no independent opinions

People who are unwilling to communicate with others are always more difficult to resist other people's requests, or they have no ideas of their own. , will not think about other people's opinions by himself, and will agree first no matter whether things are harmful to him or not.

And if a child has no independent opinion, it will also have great hidden dangers for their future, because parents cannot control what kind of people their children will meet in their future lives. If the child does not have his own If you don't have your own opinion, it is easy to listen to other people's slanders and even go astray, making it difficult to turn back.

For children who are in the "strange and sensitive period", the attitude and behavior of parents are crucial. A trace of negligence may cause irreparable harm to the child. Therefore, parents may wish to try the following 3 tips to help their babies get through the "strange and sensitive period" smoothly.

The first step: parents need to be patiently accompanied and teach attentively

The main reason why children are prone to fall into the "strange sensitive period" is because their parents lack companionship, which leads to children's psychological insecurity.

Parents should not rush their children to get along with others just because their children are unwilling to communicate. This will make the children feel pressured, more fearful of getting along with others, and prefer time alone.

If children are afraid of communication, parents can use animations or books to use stories to let their children feel the fun of getting along with others. They can also ask their children why they are afraid of getting along with each other to solve their children's worries. Afterwards, parents can use games To simulate the situation of getting along with others, so that children can adapt to greeting people and no longer be afraid to communicate.

Tip 2: Children may be afraid of communicating because of their accent. Parents can help them correct it.

Some children are afraid to communicate with others, perhaps because they do not understand or are afraid of speaking. The dialect spoken was incomprehensible and was ridiculed. Because such children may have lived with their grandparents since childhood and have a strong accent that is difficult to change. Over time, the children will speak less in front of outsiders and even spend more time alone.

Parents can practice Mandarin by reading storybooks or ancient poems with their children every day to help their children correct their accent problems. Parents can also communicate with their children in Mandarin on a daily basis. If they use Mandarin more, they can correct their accent faster.

The third step: Encourage children to try to communicate with others

Parents can organize more parent-child gatherings with relatives and friends, so that children can have more contact with peers. With the company of parents, children will become more mature. Be more courageous in kindergarten. Parents should also encourage their children to actively communicate. They can try the greeting pattern practiced before, or they can let their children bring snacks to share with friends. With the help of snacks, children can better expand the topic.

When children go through the "strange sensitive period", they themselves will wander in feelings that are easily frightened or often psychologically uncomfortable. The children themselves are in pain, so parents should not rush their children to communicate. Things are too urgent. It will always be counterproductive. What parents should do most is to guide patiently and accompany them warmly. Parents are good medicine for their children. Don't let your eagerness deepen the harm to your child. Children's hearts are the most sensitive and require careful care and patient watering from adults in order for children to grow into towering trees.