We sometimes think in a trance that when we were children not long ago, our hair turned white and our children grew up. All this happened, which made people unprepared and embarrassed.
In this world, there are always things that make us feel helpless, such as aging and death. But this is the law of nature after all. No matter how much we give up, we will eventually grow old and face death.
Since aging and death are inevitable, we should face them bravely. Life is quantitative, and life is changeable. Since we can't change the length of life, let's live a wonderful life and not waste it.
After 70, only by remembering these four "life maxims" can we enjoy our old age.
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"I have worked hard for half my life, and it is time to be kind to myself."
When we were young, life was full of too many ups and downs. In order to make a living, we left our hometown and struggled day and night. After the children are born, in order to give them the best material life, we forget to eat and sleep, and use our lives to blog.
We are always generous to our families and stingy to ourselves. You can spend a month's salary to buy a dress or a mobile phone for your lover, and you are more responsive to your child, for fear that you can't give him the best. For ourselves, the clothes we put in the shopping cart never fall off. We wanted to buy better cosmetics, but after a long choice, we finally bought cheaper ones.
We have been living a frugal life for decades. Working day and night makes us grow old ahead of time and our health is getting worse every day. The fifth grade is coming soon, so it's time to treat yourself. Life has been rushing for decades. Don't wait until you can't enjoy it.
In the past, we put all our energy into the family, and children were our sweet care and burden. We envy others that they can travel everywhere and live a colorful life. At this age, children have grown up, and those dreams that have not been realized as children will come true. If you want to go somewhere, pack your bags and set off.
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"Don't follow suit and live in your own way."
People in our time were bound by many traditional moral etiquette, and they always had too many worries about doing things, fearing to offend others, making others unhappy, too arrogant and unsociable. Therefore, we always use some rules to demand ourselves. We are afraid of adventure and innovation, like to follow the mainstream of the public, and sometimes even deliberately suppress our personality and ideas in order to better integrate into the world.
We are different from the post-80s, post-90s and post-90s. They are domineering, maverick, have their own ideas and opinions, and don't like being bound. Our hearts can't be separated from the Three Cardinal Principles and the Five Permanent Principles, and we can't be separated from the life principles taught by our ancestors.
In fact, we don't need to live so carefully, nor do we need to compromise again and again in order to echo others. As long as it doesn't affect social order and violate ideology and morality, we can live in the way we want.
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"When children grow up, don't interfere too much."
In the eyes of parents, children are always children at any time. Even if he has grown up or got married, we always look immature and fragile like children, so we can't finish our hearts all our lives.
We are afraid that they will go astray, so we interfere with their freedom to make friends; We are afraid that they will make mistakes in the face of major choices, so we help them make choices. When they enter the society and have stable jobs, we are still worried that they will not have enough to eat and clothes. When they reach marriageable age, we will try to find someone for them and help them buy a house. After they had their own small family, we were still worried that they couldn't handle the relationship well, so we intervened.
As a matter of fact, our obligation has been fulfilled. When children can stand on their own feet, we should let them handle their relationship with the world. Too much interference will make them become flowers in the greenhouse and vulnerable; Too much interference sometimes destroys the relationship with children.
Come to think of it carefully, we have been too worried for decades, only caring about others and never being kind to ourselves. Besides, our ideas are not necessarily correct. Children are adults, have the ability to think independently, and can handle their own affairs well. We don't need to worry.
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"In this life, health is the most important."
We can't compare with young people. They stayed up late, smoked and drank, and were still alive and kicking the next day, but we didn't have the capital. When we were young, we worked hard for our families and suffered some physical injuries. At this age, we should pay attention to our health.
Think about it carefully, if the body collapses, life will lose its color. I can't eat what I should eat, I can't drink what I should drink, I want to go out to play, but I can't. So at this age, exercise well, pay attention to the rules of diet and rest, and pay attention to health. Losing health means losing everything.
Five years old, put down what should be put down, put down what should be put down. Always remember the above motto to get a happy old age.