Every adult longs for love and then hopes to successfully enter into marriage. Zhou Minming, director of Ningbo Lanhong Mental Health Counseling Center and chief marriage and love consulting expert of Ningbo Weiding High-end Dating Agency, observed from the dating practice of boys and girls that it is difficult for men and women with immature mental ages to successfully date. The specific manifestations are as follows: .

1. Dependent type. Such people often have unclear interpersonal boundaries. They will fall in love quickly when they meet someone they "seem to like" when they are in love, and use marriage and love as a way to satisfy their desires, needs, expectations, hopes and goals. The characteristic of this type of foreign-aid marriage is that one party uses the other party to realize his or her own wishes and pins future joy and happiness on the other party. The outcome is either conflict and entanglement, or conflict and disbandment.

2. Indifferent type. This type of person is too "independent" and resists dependence. They deliberately make interpersonal boundaries very clear. They panic when they get close to each other and are unable to have in-depth interactions. They avoid the establishment of intimate relationships, making people feel insecure and unable to communicate. Build real intimacy.

3. Perfect type. They are deeply influenced by their parents, looking for a partner according to the image of a perfect parent, and project the parent-child relationship into a romantic relationship, asking their lover to love and take care of themselves unconditionally just like they ask their parents.

4. Confused type. I don’t know what kind of partner I want to find, what kind of home I want to build, and I have extremely high expectations for my partner and future family. This type of people often cannot tolerate each other's shortcomings in relationships between men and women, and they will magnify even the other's small shortcomings. This mentality of not knowing how to grasp the big and let go of the small makes it difficult for them to find happiness.

In fact, happiness is not difficult to find, but it requires psychological maturity, and this maturity is mainly reflected in:

1. Clear interpersonal boundaries. Do not use others to realize your wishes, do not pin your future on others, be independent and responsible for your own actions.

2. Accept differences. Treat the other person truthfully, know that the other person has advantages, and accept the other person's shortcomings, so that your love is implicit, moderate, and stable. 3. The combination of emotion and nature. There is neither excessive obsession with sex nor obvious sexual repression or fear. The attitude towards sex is positive, dedicated and exclusive, and both parties are respected mentally and physically. True love arises from interaction and balance, grows in practice and continuously improves the ability to love. It integrates the ability to feel love, experience love, create love and deliver love. By doing this, you will have captured happiness.