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The ancients said: You can't make friends with people without quirks, because they don't have deep affection; you can't make friends with people without flaws, because they don't have true energy. What does this sentence mean? The meaning of this sentence is that if a person has no hobbies, it is often impossible to associate with him, because he does not have deep affection; if a person has no flaws, you cannot associate with him, because he has no true energy. Although this sentence is somewhat one-sided, it more truly shows the fireworks of a person living in the midst of seven emotions and six desires. Therefore, old people often warn us: "You can't make friends with people who don't have quirks." People with these three hobbies are often gentle people and are worthy of our good relationship.
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First of all, people who like to drink a little wine are often gentle people.
There are some people around us who always like to drink a little wine in their daily lives. Although wine is harmful to people's health, drinking a little wine appropriately can make us happy physically and mentally and release our depressed mood. A new study from the University of Oxford in the UK is said to show that men need to drink with friends at least twice a week to ensure physical and mental health! Research shows that this kind of "gathering among men" can effectively reduce the incidence of depression.
In fact, among us, some long-lived elderly people always have the habit of drinking a little wine. Perhaps the benefits of releasing stress and making the body and mind happy are far greater than the benefits of not drinking. . And those who like to drink a little wine are often gentle people. Such people are straightforward and non-toxic. We will not be wary when interacting with them. Moreover, people who have a habit of drinking a little wine are often bold and generous, but they can control themselves and are trustworthy. They are really worthy of our good relationship.
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Secondly, people who like to grow flowers and vegetables are often gentle people.
There are some people around us who like to grow flowers and vegetables. They have achieved certain achievements in their careers, but in their spare time, they prefer reading, drinking tea, and growing flowers and vegetables. Such people like Tao Yuanming's artistic conception of planting beans under the southern mountain, with sparse bean sprouts in grass, and they also like to taste a pot of wine among the flowers and drink alone without any blind date. Raising glasses to the bright moon, facing the shadow becomes the loneliness of three people. Such people understand that "people live for one lifetime, and grass and trees fall for one autumn". Therefore, they prefer the view of life and death that "life is as gorgeous as summer flowers, and death is as quiet and beautiful as autumn leaves."
More often, we will calm down, plant a green Shanghai green in our hometown in the countryside, or raise a pond of overflowing water lilies, and live our spare time. The sky is high and the clouds are clear, and life is uneventful. By interacting with such people, we can learn not only their character of being unfazed by flattery, but also their relaxed and generous outlook on life. Therefore, people who like to grow flowers and vegetables and live their lives in a lofty and peaceful way are often people of a moderate temperament. Associating with such people will make us feel that our realm of life has risen to a new level, and we will realize more. So much happiness, so such people are really worthy of our good relationship.
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Third, people who like to have fun with others are often people with a gentle temperament.
The ancients said: "Happiness alone is not as good as happiness among everyone." What does this sentence mean? The meaning of this sentence is that it is better for everyone to be happy together than to be happy alone. There are always some people around us who are relatively low-key and calm, and some even hide their thoughts and don't like to tell others their thoughts and innermost thoughts. And there are always some people who prefer to share their happiness and gains with everyone. Such people like to tell some jokes to everyone, and also like to share some of their fruits and vegetables with their neighbors near and far.
People who like "Zhong Le Le" like this sometimes give us the feeling of being big-mouthed. However, people who like "Zhong Le Le" like this have no scheming at all. They are casual and natural. They are generous and not stingy. Associating with such people, we can always get laughter and happiness. It can be said that people who like "Zhong Le Le" are also people with a kind of temperament. When interacting with them, we can have no grudges and laugh happily. With such benefits, how can we not interact more with these people with a temperament? Woolen cloth?