The past is vivid, and friends are indispensable in every scene; People who are close now will be preserved in the depths of memory in the future.
0 1 The last thing left is homesickness. Is it fate, or are we capable of making arrangements on our own initiative? Fate is deep and shallow.
Think about the friends who have been in frequent contact for a year. How many of them have just met, and how many have known each other for five, ten, twenty or even thirty years?
If the number ratio decreases in order, it shows that your circle is developing, just like a businessman with a prosperous business, his career is booming, but his foundation may not be solid.
Plato replied to a young man, "If you want to choose the best partner, do it!" " ! You walk along the wheat field and find the biggest ear of wheat. You can only go forward and don't look back. "
The young man stopped to watch, thinking that there must be bigger ears of wheat ahead, and finally reached the end of the wheat field, but his hands were empty and he found nothing.
Are we following the old path of this young man?
In other words, we can't help it, just like classmates for many years. After graduation, we must wave goodbye and go our separate ways.
I don't think old friends are necessarily better than new friends, but I believe that friendship is like wine, the older it gets, the better it gets;
Bit by bit memories, at that time may be entangled in joys and sorrows, can not distinguish gratitude and resentment, but now the feeling is consistent with nostalgia.
Just because I'm still alive, it's comforting to be alive.
There are three ways to make friends: attachment, cherish attachment and follow attachment. The ancients helped each other in the same boat, which is a great fate; But affinity is more active, and now few people regard people they meet at casual parties and dinners as friends.
Opportunity is not equal to fate, but we should also find the same focus, such as interests, hobbies, ideas and ideals.
Then, it depends on who signals first and is willing to spare time and strength for the new friendship.
Unless you spend time alone, the effort required to make friends is considerable. Not only impressive, but also adventurous, because you can never "predict" the other person's reaction.
Therefore, friendship is not a balance bar, and giving and recycling may not be directly proportional.
I regard you as my best friend, but you have another best friend. Isn't that embarrassing?
I avoid using the word "confidant" because don't say that I am a friend, and even I may not be a "confidant".
British writer henry adams said:
"It is valuable to have a confidant in life; It is almost impossible to have two bosom friends. If you have three confidants, it must be fake. "
Our so-called "confidant" only refers to people who know my interests and ideals and have deep confidence in me.
Cherish the rare fate. Don't ask "Who is my bosom friend?" Might as well ask, "Whose confidant am I?"
It is impossible for friends to have a good result. They just ask for it and give it sparingly.
Then, out of mutual respect, cherish fate. Life is short, time flies, and everyone's choice is "never to return". So, how can I bear to delay the goodwill of others?
Even if the final outcome is "waving a sleeve without taking away a cloud", there is no reason for us to ignore "the light emitted when we meet".
Life is like sailing, and the occasional seagull will bring warm feelings, let alone friends.
The voyage is over, so we have to go our separate ways. At this point, we have to go with the flow.
Follow fate is a kind of wisdom. I have a deep understanding of Suiyuan, perhaps because of the influence of family background.
When I was a child, I moved around several lighthouses in Taiwan Province Province with my father, and I seldom knew my playmates for more than three months.
Although the primary school has settled down, stuttering hinders the way to make friends.
So, I learned to "don't force" many things, which will eventually disappear anyway.
The better, the faster the fading, isn't it? The more reluctant, the more sad, isn't it?
I opened up a new world in my heart and treasured my love; For all kinds of human beings, we should respond with a casual attitude.
The phrase "a friend in need is a friend indeed" was my personal experience when I was studying in America.
I am grateful to a few friends. Even so, I have never "promised" too much to keep in touch when I leave.
Because I know I can't do it, and others may not be able to do it.
Between friends, it seems that only blessing each other is appropriate:
If there is anything I can do, I will be very grateful to get such a good opportunity to turn my true feelings into actions;
If he doesn't need my help, it means that he is all right and sailing in the sea of life, which is gratifying.
Knowing that it is not easy to make friends, I am very cautious about making friends, willing to cherish and dare to follow.
I don't want my memory to be too rich, I just want it to be deeper.