Oedipus complex was first put forward by Austrian psychologist Freud. Its essence is similarity and complementarity. It comes from the boy's imitation of his father and the subconscious concept of gender complementarity, so the average boy will show more dependence on his mother when he was a child.
This is a complex that almost every man will have, but generally with the growth of age, the influence of Oedipus complex will gradually weaken until it disappears, but there are some cases. Even when they grow up, the influence of Oedipus complex on them will not weaken, or even deepen, which is generally manifested in the inexplicable dependence of women who are much older than themselves.
How to eliminate children's Oedipus complex;
1, parents should educate their children correctly.
Children may show some bad behaviors during this period, but some parents think that children are too young to be disciplined too severely, and it is very undesirable to let themselves go. If the child's behavior has crossed the line, such as kissing the lips of parents of the opposite sex or touching private parts, parents should stop it in time and teach it correctly, so that the child can establish correct behavior norms and normal ethical concepts.
Parents should pay attention to their behavior at home.
Some young parents are more open-minded, and there are also some intimate actions between husband and wife. Showing love in front of children can provide children with a harmonious and friendly family atmosphere, but we should exercise restraint in front of children and not be too unrestrained. At the same time, they should encourage the development of same-sex parent-child relationship and avoid the situation that children are too dependent on one side.
3. Establish clear boundaries and rules.
Although children's personality and wishes should be respected, parents should also establish clear boundaries and rules to ensure that children's behavior will not harm their own or others' interests. These rules can include small things in life, such as work and rest time, food arrangement and so on. It can also include major events, such as academic performance and making friends. Parents should discuss with their children and make these rules, so that children can understand the necessity of rules and the importance of obeying them.