1. Sincerely care about others. Everyone wants to be noticed by others. You care about others, and others will repay you and care about you. This laid the foundation for establishing good interpersonal relationships.
2. Change your bad personality and habits. Such as lofty, arrogant, narrow-minded, selfish, stingy, stingy and annoying behavior. Avoid showing off, boasting, arrogant and self-centered habits and concepts. Change some of your so-called "details", such as asking about other people's privacy, interrupting others and rummaging through other people's things.
3. Understand and tolerate others. Understand and tolerate some unprincipled faults and shortcomings of others, and help others correct them with appropriate methods. Be easy-going, pay attention to politeness, and learn to smile and communicate with others, so as to eliminate people's alienation and fear of you and give people a cordial and warm feeling.
4. Strengthen communication with people. If you want others to know and like you, you should first let them know about you, including your general situation, personality, characteristics of being close to each other, and your desire to become bosom friends with them. This requires moderate communication with people to achieve spiritual communication. You can find someone to chat, chat and have some fun in your spare time, so as to create more opportunities to know others and let others know you.
5. There must be a "degree" in social interaction. China has a very philosophical saying that "extremes meet". In life, everything has a "degree". If you exceed this "degree", it will be counterproductive. The same is true of communication between friends. The past is very close, but it is prone to cracks: only by grasping a moderate degree can the friendship between friends become eternal. This is because everyone's culture, morality, personality, attitude towards life, work potential and family situation are different. The size of this difference is sometimes proportional to the frequency of communication between friends, that is, the more frequent and dense the communication, the greater the distance. Therefore, the communication between friends, regardless of the time and distance, should keep a certain distance, not too close. Only in this way can we achieve the artistic conception of "we can't help ourselves", and we will be delighted by the arrival of friends and miss them because of their departure.
6. Don't idealize your friends. There are no two identical leaves in the world. Although a friend and you have similar temperament, similar interests and congenial nature, after all, a friend is a living person, and there will always be differences, shortcomings and secrets that you don't want to tell. Therefore, when communicating with friends, don't idealize your friends, and don't take "I" as a reference for all your words and deeds.
First of all, tolerate the shortcomings of friends. In daily life, if you find some shortcomings, you must be generous with your friend's shortcomings, choose the right time and method, and sincerely help him overcome them.
Secondly, let friends have their own personality. When you communicate with your friends, you can't insist that your friends must be your "copies". Let friends have their own hobbies and personalities. If you arbitrarily and arbitrarily ask your friends to have the same hobbies as you, then your friends will inevitably leave you.
Finally, don't reveal the privacy of your friends. Friends have a "self" and don't have to report everything to you. Some people are not friends enough if their friends are unfaithful to them and don't tell them something. If you want to be so overbearing and demand friends with such idealized standards, who else is willing to associate with you? 7. Friends should also refuse. It's normal for friends to help you out. But if friends want more than principles and objective reality. For example, some friends entrust you with more than you can bear, and there is nothing you can do; There are things entrusted by friends that go against your subjective will. If you encounter such a situation, as a friend, you should decisively refuse each other. Because, first of all, you violate the principle, once caught, you and your friends will become prisoners or violators; Secondly, you can't do things beyond your ability. If you refuse without explaining the situation, it will hurt your friendship because you can't do it. Finally, if you don't refuse something against your will, it will affect your mood of communicating with it and hinder your feelings with friends. However, when rejecting friends, you should not be too direct, but also pay attention to skills and methods. Common methods: First, you can patiently dissuade and state your interests; Second, you can explain the situation and let your friends understand your difficulties; The third is to deal with it tactfully and skillfully use other methods to help complete the things entrusted by friends.
8. Give each other a sincere smile. Smiling usually means: I like you, I'm glad to meet you, and you make me happy. However, it must be a real, heartfelt, warm and pleasant smile. That fake smile is unacceptable to anyone.
9. Remember other people's names. If you can remember people's names and call them out easily, then the other person will be ecstatic, because remembering people's names is equivalent to giving others a clever and effective compliment. Because most people are more interested in their names than the sum of all the names in the world.
If one day you forget everyone's name, they will soon forget you. Therefore, it takes a little time to take root in other people's names repeatedly and silently.
10. Leave free space for friends. People communicate with friends for friendship, but friends may have other social circles besides contacting you. Therefore, you should first allow your friends to disagree with you. Be generous when you find that the other person you make friends with is the one who has had friction with you. If you can't rub sand in your eyes and blame your friend, then your friend will be in a dilemma. Secondly, don't confine the circle of friends to your space. If you "bind" your friends around you regardless of whether others like it or not, it will only be counterproductive. Because, even if you "bind" your friend's body, you can't "bind" your friend's heart. Most friends will hate you and leave you.
1 1. Praise your friends sincerely. Praise is what everyone pursues. It can arouse others' self-esteem. We should pay more attention to discovering people's advantages and give sincere praise and affirmation, so as to gain people's goodwill. But praise should also pay attention to methods to avoid self-defeating, especially to prevent hypocrisy and flattery.
12. Establish the courage to communicate with others. Some people feel inferior, or are afraid to expose themselves in front of others, so there is always a fear in interpersonal communication. This situation is probably caused by high self-expectation, and the solution should be to re-recognize yourself and reposition yourself. Why do you say you are worse than others? Even if you are lacking in some aspects, what does that mean? Believe in yourself and learn to protect yourself in communication. Sometimes exposing some shortcomings will give others a sense of freshness and make others look at you differently.
13. Help others sincerely. Help friends who have difficulties in learning a certain subject, lend them good books on their own initiative, and try your best to help them when they need you. Pay special attention to "giving charcoal in the snow". In this way, if you reciprocate, naturally more people will like you. From then on, you will find the original bosom friend by your side.
In short, the method of making friends is used properly, then your friendship will last forever; On the contrary, the friendship between friends will be short-lived and fleeting. I hope everyone can master this scientific method of making friends, stop being lonely on the road of life and reach the destination of life smoothly.