1, the turning point of the neck: Lian Po and Lin Xiangru
Lin Xiangru was a minister of Zhao in the Warring States Period. When Zhao Huiwen was in office, Qin asked for a piece of "harmony". He was ordered to bring the jade into the state of Qin, and the court fought for it in many ways, and finally returned it to Zhao intact. In the twentieth year of Zhao Huiwen, Lin Xiangru went to Mianchi with the prince of Zhao to save him from humiliation. For work reasons, he served as Shangqing. He tolerated Lian Po, the general of Zhao, and Lian Po confessed to Lin Xiangru with a thorn, so they became good friends through life and death, and Qi Xin served his country.
2. Conversion between glue and pigment: Chen Zhong and Rey.
Chen Zhong and Ray were two gentlemen who sacrificed themselves for others in Zhang Yu County in the Eastern Han Dynasty. These two people are close friends. At that time, people praised: "glue is stronger than thunder and Chen." For details, please refer to The Story of Loneliness in the Later Han Dynasty.
When Chen Zhong was young, he became close friends with people from the same county. Both of them were men of insight. Zhang Yun, the satrap, heard of Chen Zhong's name, praised his moral integrity and recommended him as Lian Xiao. Chen gave up his fame and applied to the satrap for more than ten times, but all of them were rejected. The following year, Ray was also elected as Lian Xiao, and they went to the county government to take office together.
Chen Zhonghe worshiped merchants at the same time, but was dismissed from office because of the suffering of his generation. Chen Zhong also resigned on the grounds of physical illness and returned to China together. Ray returned to his hometown and was recommended as a scholar. Ray wanted to award this fame to Chen Zhong, but the Secretariat didn't approve it. Ray pretended to be crazy and ran in the street to appeal for Chen Chong instead of being ordered to take office. Therefore, the whole village is praising their deeds, saying: Glue and lacquer think that they are one and indestructible, so it is better to be Chen Chong and Ray, honor and disgrace, and share life and death.
3. The turn of chicken and millet: Yuan Bo and Juqing.
From The Story of Loneliness in the Later Han Dynasty. Fan, a native of Yangshan Jinxiang. When I was a teenager, I studied in Imperial College London and made friends with Zhang Shao, a native of Runan. Boom, boom, boom After the study, the two returned to the village together. Paradigm said to Zhang Shao, "I will come back in two years, when I will visit my relatives at your home and see your son and daughter again." At the same time, the two also agreed on the date of meeting. Time flies, the sun and the moon fly, and the appointed date is approaching unconsciously. Zhang Shao told his mother about it and asked her to prepare meals to welcome her good friend.
Mother said, "after two years apart, you are thousands of miles away from him." How can you believe the appointed time? Zhang Shao said: "Juqing is a man of his word, and of course he will not break his promise." . "Mother said," if so, I will make wine for you. "On the appointed day, the paradigm really arrived as scheduled. He went to church to drink, had a good time and broke up.
Matters needing attention in making friends
1. Treat people sincerely: sincerity is the foundation of friendship. Be sincere to your friends, care about their lives and needs, and let them feel your kindness and warmth.
2, mutual respect: everyone has their own values and personality, respect the differences of friends, don't try to change. In communication, respect each other's views and give them full listening and understanding.
3. Integrity-based: Integrity is an important pillar in interpersonal relationships. Keep your promise, be honest with others, and let your friends feel your trust and reliability.
4.* * * Like-minded: It is easier to have in-depth communication and interaction with friends who share the same interests. Through the same hobbies, we can enhance mutual understanding and tacit understanding.