(1) Collective communication between the opposite sex, and try to avoid single "one-on-one" meetings.
Whether parents and teachers support us to communicate with the opposite sex is also related to how much we communicate with them.
The performance of the opposite sex in morality, self-cultivation and speech also determines the acceptance of your parents and teachers to associate with him or her.
Without friends, the world will become indispensable. Who doesn't understand friendship, who can't live. The best thing in life is friendship with others. Once a person gains friendship, difficulties and pains will be doubled, and happiness and happiness will also be doubled. In other words, just some famous sayings about friendship. Many roots are not easy to turn over, and many friends are not easy to fall over. Roots absorb nutrients easily, and friends get help easily. Friends are backers, friends are courage, and friends are strength. Friends hate less when they use it, but enemies hate more when they are on the defensive. These are my important words to my friends. Friends are important, but they should not be abused. The result of abuse is not only useless, but also harmful. Most of the reasons for abuse are because they don't understand the principles and methods of friendship. The following is mainly the author's understanding of the principles and methods of friendship, and also introduces some other issues about friendship.
Many friends are not necessarily good. As the saying goes, "many friends, many roads." The more friends, the better. I think this statement is inappropriate. Because: First, the more friends with bad conduct, the worse, which will make your path less and less. Second, the future can produce friends and enemies.
Friends should be suitable for their past marriages, and I think friends should also be suitable for their past marriages. The meaning here is: like-minded, equal personality. Because, the same amount can be exchanged and equality can go. Unequal friends are not real friends, and their "friendship" cannot last long. Without the pursuit of * * *, it is difficult to have a language with * * *. Only when we are truly like-minded, can we truly appreciate, understand, care and support. Understanding is mutual, so is not understanding. Like-minded people smell the smell and are suitable for each other.
The basic principles of friendship are transparency, liking and sincerity. When things are clean and people like them, people are pure. Only sincerity can make many friends. Employers look at loyalty first, and friends look at virtue first. The slippery road is hard to walk, and the skater is hard to trust. No one wants to live in a dangerous house, and no one wants to be a cunning friend. The most important thing to buy is quality, and the most important thing for friends is morality. Husband and wife are loyal, but friends are loyal. The unfaithful fox looks at it, and the unfaithful wolf looks at the sheep. It is the greatest regret in life to give the most sincere heart to those who have no intention and the deepest heart to those who have nothing. A morally corrupt friend is like burying a time bomb beside him. Therefore, when we are friends, remember to put morality first. This is the basic principle of friendship. Words know their meaning and dare to use them flexibly, while people know their virtue and dare to be deep. I would rather have no friends than friends without virtue.
The principle of not being superior or inferior is the principle of being a man and making friends. We need friends, but we can't grovel and beg them, nor can we grovel and keep them. Of course, you can't pretend to be a big brother and be condescending. A true friend is a like-minded brother, neither respectful nor humble, neither expensive nor cheap. Hard work is not sweet, but strong friends are dangerous. Strong business is easy to lose money, and strong friends are easy to be deceived.
Look at people with your heart Only by looking with your heart can you see people's hearts. The human heart is the essence of human beings. The essence of ordinary things is hard to find, let alone the essence of people (morality)? The understanding of essence is a rational understanding. The acquisition of sensory knowledge needs the senses, and the acquisition of rational knowledge needs a clever mind.
Only when a friend's heart is close, his heart will be close. The heart is close at hand, and the heart is far away. Friends are for the soul. A true friend is mainly a stage of mind. If the soul can't meet, there will be no strong adhesion in other aspects, and the so-called friendship will not last long.
Great things look at people's hearts, small things look at faces, and big things look at people's hearts. Some friends can't see their true colors without major events. Because, generally speaking, he can do well in small things, and when he has to take responsibility and take risks in big things, he will shrink back. Such friends are actually not friends, or "two identical" friends. Therefore, great events are the "touchstone" to verify true and false friends.
If you want to see far, you must stand high. If you want to see clearly, you must stand close. You don't have to know the pros and cons of things. If you don't know the ups and downs, people don't know the pros and cons. You don't know without reading. However, really understanding a person can't be completed in a short time. A book should be compiled and read a hundred times, but it should be understood a hundred times. The more books you read, the more sober you are. You know, some people are just good at "selling dog meat by hanging sheep's head". Therefore, our sages have taught us for a long time: the road is long, and Xiu Yuan knows the horsepower, and people will see it for a long time.