Friends are the ones who share happiness with you when you are happy; they are the ones who double your happiness when you are happy; they are the ones who decompose difficulties when you are in trouble; they are the ones who help you get rid of it when you are lonely; they are the ones who give you support when you are down. The person you encourage.
Friends are the people that everyone wants to have and the people that everyone wants to be. In order for everyone to become friends and to continuously consolidate the relationship between friends, we need something called friendship to water it.
We in China attach great importance to friends. Traditional Confucianism attaches great importance to "sincerity", "faithfulness", "benevolence" and "loyalty", which have always affected us, penetrated into our lives, and affected our behavior. Become our guide to making friends. A series of stories such as "Looking for a close friend in high mountains and flowing water", "We are far away from each other, but we are still holding the cup in our hands" are profound expressions of friendship.
"Rely on your parents at home and rely on your friends when you go out." This sentence illustrates the importance of friends, and also explains that the role of friends lies in reliance, and more importantly, mutual reliance. It is not the kind of behavior that blooms flowers of evil in the name of friends and watered by friendship for personal gain. The difference between the former and the latter is that: the former relies on each other and helps each other, especially when friends are in trouble, they rely on each other, encourage each other, and help each other out of trouble; while the latter works hard to "water" friendship when friends are happy; when friends are in trouble, It is wise to protect oneself and abandon it, and what is worse is to add insult to injury and add insult to injury.
“A friend in need is a friend, and a fire is gold.” This is what we ask of our friends, and it is also a criterion for judging the authenticity of friendship; it also shows that friendship needs to be refined and sublimated. The friendship that calls you brothers at the wine table and supports you when things are going well is not true friendship; but the friendship that is harsh to your ears when you are proud and gives you sincere words of concern when you are down is true friendship. Because not only is it not flattered by the temptation of fame and fortune, but it is also verified and sublimated in difficulties.
“The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water”, indicating that friends should have nothing to ask for. Only in this way will we be alone and not alone, making life warmer and more comfortable.
In fact, friends who ask for nothing are rare. You might as well close your eyes and delete the friends who ask for nothing one by one. How many are left in the end? Because true friendship is "asking for nothing", she should not ask for anything, rely on nothing, reject all contracts, and is always pure and fragile. Therefore, it is always so easy to be confused and broken. Various books also introduce various methods to prevent friendships from falling apart, but those methods are all technical. Once technical means enter the emotional realm, there will always be no good results. Friendship needs to be watered with heart and cultivated with life in order to bloom the brilliant flower of friendship.