The more lovers you like to be with, the more fickle you are and the easier it is to cheat. When we are together, we treat you as the whole world, and when we turn around, we forget that you are in the world.

Someone asked me: Can a man who got divorced because of extramarital affairs get married?

My answer is: Yes, but be careful! Cheating on his ex-wife and not being with a third party means that he has let down at least two women. Before getting married, ask yourself, what is better than those two women? Don’t blindly believe that someone will change because of you.

Ms. Tao from Dongguan got her second marriage certificate less than three months after her divorce because the extramarital affair of the pillowman was discovered.

Ms. Tao is 37 years old and has been married to her first husband for 8 years. Her husband and his friends were addicted to drugs, and the forced detoxification failed twice. The relationship between the couple was greatly affected, and they quarreled almost every day. Once, when her husband sobered up and looked at his dilapidated home, his haggard wife and her shrunken daughter, he filed for divorce and left the property and his 6-year-old daughter to Ms. Sun.

After the divorce, Ms. Tao and her daughter depended on each other. Last year, she suffered from a serious illness and the rhythm of her life was suddenly interrupted. Work, housework, children... all require her to be sick. Ms. Sun felt a little overwhelmed. She really wanted a solid arm to lean on. So, after she recovered, she registered on a dating website and prepared to find a suitable man to remarry.

After searching seven or eight times, I met a suitable man. The man is 38 years old, slightly chubby, but not slovenly. He has a gentle personality and is very kind to Ms. Tao's daughter. Every time I see her, she prepares a small gift for her child.

After a few months of dating, the man took the initiative to take Ms. Tao home to meet her parents. Her future parents-in-law were very kind to Ms. Tao and encouraged them to live together as soon as possible.

The man’s performance was impeccable. Ms. Tao was a little confused, why did such an excellent man get divorced? She asked a man who had a high emotional intelligence and did not put the blame on his ex-wife. He only said that he was not destined to grow old with his ex-wife and divorced in order to meet someone with whom he was more destined.

The man defined her as someone more destined to grow old together, which moved Ms. Tao very much. She accepted a man's simple but romantic proposal, and the two went to the Civil Affairs Bureau to get a marriage certificate and planned to make up for the wedding at the end of the year.

After the marriage, the man moved to Ms. Tao’s home to live together. In the first month, Ms. Tao didn't notice anything. At the beginning of the second month, Ms. Tao felt something was wrong. The man regarded his mobile phone as more important than his wallet and basically did not leave his sight. At home, his cell phone is always silent. Whenever the lights come on, he runs to the bathroom.

Ms. Tao was curious and didn’t know what secrets the man had in his cell phone. It happened to be the man’s birthday on one day of that month. Ms. Tao made a table of snacks and drinks after get off work, and chatted with the men while drinking, getting them drunk. After that, she took the man's mobile phone, used his fingerprint to unlock the lock screen password, and went to WeChat to check it.

The man was flirting with several women at the same time, and the chat content was ambiguous and explicit. Judging from the time, the pictures are basically sent in groups, and the affectionate texts are also copied and pasted. There were two breaks between them drinking, and the man sent them to the bathroom. Is it funny? What’s even more ridiculous is that Ms. Tao turned on her phone and found that all the sweet words that moved her had been copied and pasted!

Ms. Tao took photos of the unsightly chat records, searched through the man’s address book, found his ex-wife’s contact information, and then put the phone back where it belonged. The next day happened to be the weekend, and Ms. Tao quietly met the man's ex-wife. As soon as the two women met, the ex-wife gushed about the man's cheating history and presented some conclusive evidence.

When we broke up, my ex-wife said: "I was married to him for three good years, and spent the remaining four years fighting with mistresses. At that time, I always asked myself, what is more important than those women outside? Bad? Why does he cheat again and again? Do you know what the result is? No matter how delicious the food at home is, it’s a pity that I didn’t divorce him earlier! Talk. For the sake of the children, I have always hoped that his prodigal son would come back, and it was not necessary for many years. I am telling the truth, and I sympathize with your current situation.

If you have confidence in yourself and have expectations for your relationship, you can take a gamble, maybe he will change! ”

Ms. Tao did not dare to gamble her own happiness for the rest of her life. She was glad that she did not hold a wedding, did not disturb her relatives and friends, and would not be ashamed to leave. Although the man vowed never to flirt again, never again Without getting involved in extramarital affairs, Ms. Sun is not touched. Once trust is broken, her life will be occupied by suspicion. Time is precious and energy is limited. She would rather be single than spend time and energy fighting with men and mistresses.

Although nothing is absolute, and some men who cheat are really innocent, most people betray their marriages and pursue new excitement in the name of love. It is not their partner's fault, no matter how glamorous these people are, they can't hide their greed. Selfish and indulgent nature.

Human nature is difficult to change. There are few exceptions to the so-called prodigal.