A good life requires the pursuit of a certain realm of life. I summarize the pursuit of the realm of life into the following six points. Let me talk about it a little bit. First, talk about a little enjoyment and be worthy of yourself. People's enjoyment also has levels. Enjoyment is not just sensory enjoyment. We can fully enjoy inner fulfillment and peace, enjoy the comfort of creation, and enjoy the peak experience of life. If a person's understanding of "enjoyment" stays at the level of material enjoyment and sensory enjoyment, it only means that advanced needs do not appear in his vision. Being kind to oneself is the prerequisite and condition for being kind to others. A person who does not enjoy life will often be harsh on others.
? To be happy in life, you must have all the fun, don’t let the golden bottle stand in the sky? Bells, drums, food and jade are not expensive, but I hope you will never wake up after being drunk? ? It is not so much a hedonic thought, but rather a manifestation What is more important is the poet's intoxication with life and his madness in trying to transcend the fetters of time and space driven by vitality. Facing the colorful world, colorful life and precious life given to us by God, we have no reason to refuse to accept and enjoy it. Only through discovery can we appreciate; only through appreciation can we experience the beauty of the world, feel the interest of life, and then feel the meaning and value of life. To be able to discover, you need to have a discerning eye and an open mind, so that life can be as beautiful and peaceful as the first ray of light in the morning, so soft and vivid. Happiness cannot come from widespread suffering and self-sacrifice. The right to pursue happiness means that individuals have the right to live for themselves, to choose their own personal happiness and to work towards the realization of such happiness.
Secondly, let’s talk about a little dedication and be worthy of your loved ones. Home is the responsibility of supporting the elderly and the young. ?Money can make all the difference, but it cannot buy family affection, nor the warmth and security of home. The poet Du Fu has long expressed his concern for his family: The war has lasted for three months, and letters from home are worth ten thousand gold. The preciousness of "letters from home" may only be deeply understood by those who are wandering in a foreign land in an era when transportation and communication are extremely inconvenient.
I have always opposed asking people to donate from the perspective of the country and the government, because this may weaken the pursuit of social justice and cover up the suspicion that some people carry out "moral rape" on people in the name of "dedication". Cover up some people's attempts to ask others to contribute while themselves benefiting from others' contributions. But I advocate that everyone should be dedicated to their loved ones. If a person cares about his own relatives, he is too tasteless, selfish and narrow-minded. Dedication to one's loved ones can even be said to be the ethical bottom line for human beings.
Once again, tell the truth and be worthy of being a friend. ?If two people are of the same mind, their sharpness will break through metal; if they speak of the same mind, they will stink like orchids? ("Book of Changes"), this is the ancient way of making friends. It talks about two people with similar interests and hobbies, they can do things. Friends; if two friends have the same aspirations, they can be invincible by combining their strengths. This sentence has been tested in life for thousands of years and has become a wise saying. Although the word "friend" has been devalued by society today, this does not negate the precious value of a good friend.
There may be no success, no victory, and no other things in our lives, but we cannot live without friends. In the vast world, what can make your chest warm are your friends and the past with your friends. A friend may be just a passer-by at a certain time in your life, but because of this connection, life becomes more beautiful. Choosing a good friend means choosing the right direction, a journey closer to a successful life.
Hu Shi has a famous saying, "To learn, you must have doubts where you are not doubtful; when dealing with others, you must not doubt where you are doubtful." ?Of course he is not asking people to pretend to be fools, nor is he asking people to give up their stance and make friends indiscriminately. The so-called "no doubt" means don't make blind guesses, don't mistrust others for no reason, don't be demanding, and don't judge others by the so-called "metaphysical" standards that are so high that you can't even reach them yourself. How many friends do you have in your life with whom you can talk to each other, be honest with each other, treat each other with sincerity, and cut both sides of your teeth? ?Having no doubts about doubts? is undoubtedly a good state of life.
Fourth, talk about some responsibility and be worthy of the community. People are social beings. The relationship between people is a domino relationship, so everyone naturally assumes certain social responsibilities. In fact, everyone also needs to bear responsibilities. Because no one wants to be an insignificant person.
To have a deeper and more positive impact on more people is the best proof of a person's existence value that I can think of. Although the poverty and backwardness of our country are not mainly caused by us, we have the responsibility to change it. We need a belief and enthusiasm that life will always change and poverty will always change. Our sincere efforts will bear fruit, because we can accurately count the number of seeds in an apple, but we can never calculate how many apples these seeds can produce.
Those high-ranking corrupt officials originally had a good opportunity to benefit one party, but they can't satisfy their desires, and they don't care about others poking their backs. The so-called? You can laugh and scold me, and I can reap the benefits myself? If you don't make money, you won't make money, and you will eventually become a sinner through the ages. Maybe I can't stop the evil birds from passing over my head, but I can stop them from perching and nesting on my head; and I firmly believe that if there are too many of me, the evil birds will be exhausted and frozen to death, until they become completely extinct.
Fifth, talk about a little fraternity and be worthy of mankind. Universal love means self-love, and protecting life means protecting the heart. ?True love is the fragrance of flowers at night, the gem in the dark, the first heartbeat the doctor hears. It is an ordinary miracle, a starry sky made of soft white clouds and scattered in the night sky. ? (Cairns, France)
Protecting living beings, caring for the dignity of human life, and showing more fraternity are of great significance to the construction of a harmonious society. The spirit of fraternity is relatively scarce in Chinese society. Things like forcing people to kneel down to dogs still happen from time to time in China today, which illustrates this point well. Wang Qiang, a rickshaw puller in Daqing, hit and killed a pet dog while avoiding a car. The dog owner and his wife forced him to kneel down and kowtow to the dead dog. They took away 200 yuan in compensation before the dog owner walked away. Among the crowd of onlookers, no one stopped the dog owner and his wife from committing evil acts. The strong Wang Qiang knelt down and kowtowed to the dead dog in tears of humiliation. What he was thinking about was not to cause trouble. His mother, who was lying in the hospital bed, had to wait for him to earn money for treatment. Think about the anger that Wang Qiang and other drivers accumulated bit by bit during this process, and then think about the vicious cases that continue to occur in the city. The discrimination and abuse of country people and vulnerable groups by those who consider themselves noble are the soil and hotbed for vicious cases!
China has a history of thousands of years of hierarchical society. In our social values, there is rarely the concept of "equal people". Everyone is determined to be on a different hierarchical ladder, determined by class. of his value. We have passionately criticized the theory of "natural human rights", which resulted in a fundamental lack of understanding of human value. The value of life and personal dignity of the vulnerable people at the bottom of society are ignored, and this is still considered reasonable in the hearts of quite a few people. For example, in some media, we can often see condemnation of the deception of real and fake beggars and the phenomenon of getting something for nothing. And around us, there are many things that are a thousand times more shameful and hateful than these. Why do so many people turn a blind eye to them? Holding high the killing stick of "justice" against those who have been reduced to begging for a few dollars by pity, without even telling the basic facts?
More communication, more understanding, more tolerance, more care, more kindness to others, more harmony and warmth. This is indeed what each of us can do, and it is what each of us needs. As expected, we all have the responsibility to create an environment and soil suitable for the growth of life.
Finally, speak a little faith and be worthy of heaven and earth. Nietzsche once said through Zarathustra: "Human beings are things that need to be transcended." ?This?transcendent thing?undoubtedly includes faith. The contest between justice and evil is one of the eternal themes of human activities. As long as there are evil forces, the power of justice will be needed to fight non-stop against them. In this process, a person without faith will lose his backbone and stance. Such a person, even if he lives for two lifetimes, is nothing more than a piece of wagon being dragged around. Only a person with faith can achieve the goal of not worrying about poverty or being obsessed with wealth. Only then can he not be swayed by the wind or follow the crowd, and truly have a pure, lofty, broad and indifferent realm of life.
The following is a Christian prayer that is worth sharing: Lord, please make me an instrument of your peace. Where there is hatred, let me sow love; where there is harm, let me sow love. Where there is doubt, let me sow trust. Where there is despair, let me sow hope. Where there is darkness, let me sow light. Where there is sadness, let me sow joy. .
Lord, please give us what we dream of. Let us not ask to be comforted, but to comfort; not to ask to be understood, but to understand; not to ask to be loved, but to love. Because giving is our gain, if we forgive others, we will be forgiven. Such death is our new life. ?
From oneself to relatives and friends, then to community, human beings, and finally to heaven and earth. This is a process of constantly moving from narrowness to broadness. This is also a "man" standing between heaven and earth. The journey of spiritual growth.
(Author’s address: School of Education, Beijing Normal University, Postcode: 100785)
Editor: Tang He