First of all, introversion is not a disadvantage. The famous Swiss psychologist Jung pointed out in his psychological theory: "People can draw energy from different things - extroverts can get energy from being with others, while introverts can get energy from thinking alone. Get energy. "Both introverts and extroverts have their own advantages. You don't have to change anything too deliberately. Introversion is also beneficial in some aspects, so introverts should not seek to completely change themselves, but should be grateful that they have such a personality. And gain energy through the method that works best for you. Asking an extrovert to think on his own all day long would be stressful; similarly, asking an introvert to attend a big party or give a speech in front of thousands of people would be stressful too. Therefore, we should be good at using our own strengths and achieve success with the methods we are good at.

Secondly, the relationship between introversion and extroversion is not an either-or relationship, but a range that can be dynamically adjusted. For example, using 1 to 10*** numbers to mark a person’s personality , 1 is extreme introversion, 10 is extreme extroversion, then it is obviously unrealistic for a person to jump from 2 in the inner body to 9 in the outer body, but it will not be difficult to let him jump from 2 to 4. In fact Everyone has their own dynamic range. For example, I did the Myers Briggs test twice. Before I became a manager, my introversion index was 4. After being a manager for more than ten years, My introversion-extroversion index is 6. In other words, I can adjust my personality as needed within the range of more introvert and more extrovert. Therefore, every introvert can try to develop in an extroverted direction without putting pressure on themselves.

Some practical suggestions

1. Accept and be happy for your introverted personality, and get energy from your own personality. Extroverts like to learn by executing, while introverts like to learn from thinking; extroverts like to spark ideas through discussions, while introverts hope to achieve innovation through meditation; extroverts are good at organizing people and things, and introverts Those who are good at organizing thoughts; extroverts are good at expressing, while introverts are good at understanding.

2. Set yourself some goals that are "more outgoing but not too stressful". For example: asking yourself to speak in meetings, or taking the initiative to make one friend a month, etc. It's best to have "measurable goals" to push yourself toward these plans. Introverts sometimes are afraid of losing face so they can't let go, or they are too defensive. This requires more practice and doing something every day that you want to do but have a little "social anxiety".

3. Treat others with sincerity. Human emotions are reflexive. If you want others to be kind to you, you must first make others kind; if you want others to be sincere to you, you must first be sincere to others. If you could be more sincere, proactive and enthusiastic with others. Treat people with sincerity and empathy at any time and at any time, and you will be more easily accepted and trusted by others. Your ultimate goal is to get along better with people, but that doesn't mean you have to change your personality.

4. Use your interests and hobbies to get to know friends with similar interests and open up topics. Or, find some similar topics for some people you want to know. When communicating with people, listen attentively to the other person's speech and let the other person know that you are listening; express your opinions at the appropriate time. However, be aware that friends are a lifelong skill. It is better to have few than to have too many. Never make so-called "fair-weather friends" or make friends with people who are not sincerely dating you.

5. Practice your ability to talk to strangers. When you take the initiative to talk to someone, don't worry so much about "face". If one ignores you, move on to the next friend, you have nothing to lose.

6. Join some clubs, get to know people through club activities, and find friends in the groups you belong to, such as finding classmates to study and review together. Ask them for help sincerely, find some friends to have dinner with, and sometimes we will be surprised to find that the number of people around us who are willing to speak and are willing to lend a helping hand is far greater than we imagined.

7. Be proactive and cheerful. If you want to meet interesting people, you must first become an interesting person. If you want to become an interesting person, you must take the initiative to talk to others about interesting things. Don’t always wait for others. Speech. A person who always likes to share interesting things with others must have many friends around him who are willing to listen.

You don't have to deliberately "improve interpersonal relationships" to respect others, make people feel more relaxed, and they will naturally be popular.

8. To make yourself more approachable, it is important to learn to smile. Of all the ways, laughter is the most contagious. Research from Yale University found that the power of laughter surpasses all other emotions and that people will reflexively smile in return.

9. Take the initiative to show kindness to others, thank those who have helped you, and tell them where they have helped you. Perhaps taking the initiative to ask for help and then expressing gratitude in return can start a virtuous cycle of making friends.

10. When communicating with others, listen more and talk less. When listening, focus on every word the other person says, let the other person know that you are listening carefully, and show that you really care about the other person's thoughts. , express your opinions openly and honestly when appropriate. Gradually you will find that many people will really like to associate with you.

11. For introverts. It's hard to take the initiative and build good relationships, so congratulations on every step you take. What do you want to improve? You might as well set smaller goals first, such as starting with improving your introversion. Every outreach you do is a step towards change, which is worth celebrating.

Besides, it’s too late to wait until you’re confused to reach out to your friends. Find more friends to chat with. You can start with classmates who are friendly to you, or classmates you feel you are more compatible with. The topic of conversation can be something that everyone is interested in (pay more attention to it in normal times) or you can talk about news and daily routines. When chatting, if the other person finds that you care about him or her, it will deepen our friendship. Otherwise, you can just tell your classmates, "I recently visited a cool website, have you been there?" Once you become more familiar with everyone, your confusion should be cleared up.