Recently, a friend who I haven’t contacted for a long time suddenly contacted me and said that she was cheated by her best friend this year and went bankrupt. She said that she was too old and had not had a day off after the Spring Festival because her company There was a new group of people at the end of last year, and we were still getting used to it, and then the baby didn’t accompany me either. She envied my carefree life...
In short, I felt that she really couldn’t live a good life. It was so smooth. I understood but was also a little overwhelmed, but I told her that it’s okay not to have that kind of best friend, just stay away from her. As we chatted, we talked about the social interactions of middle-aged people, and we agreed that middle-aged people must consider three principles when making friends.
When making friends, you first look at your character. Of course, character is a passport. No matter how good a person is, if his character is not good, he would rather not pay.
Our appreciation of a person may start with his appearance and talent, but it must end with his character. Character is the touchstone for testing everything. This is true for friendship, and even more so for love. The right marriage may be about making mistakes. The hormones of love easily pass away over time, and in the end it is often character that keeps a marriage going for a long time.
Secondly, look at attitude. If a person is hot and cold towards you, and his attitude is very unclear, you don’t need to have too close acquaintance with this person, and you don’t need to be in a circle that is forceful, and the person who is forceful is not sweet. The same goes for loving someone, you don't have to stand on tiptoe.
Again, it depends on ability. In fact, all abilities can be cultivated. This point can be placed at the end of the principles of making friends. The reason why we are included is because those with equal abilities tend to get together, and birds of a feather flock together. This is the secret that determines who we will become friends with in the end, and who we will be together until the end.
These three principles are actually the principles I have always taught my children. On the way to growth, the first thing you need to pay attention to and correct is your own conduct; secondly, you must have a serious attitude towards learning; thirdly, cherish your time, study and play well, and constantly improve your mind.
Throughout our lives, we evolve and progress in two major categories, one is self-growth, and the other is the establishment of interdependent and supportive relationships. The former is controllable by oneself, while the latter needs to be faced and practiced at different stages. From the moment we are born, we are faced with the relationship with our parents, then with the relationship with teachers and classmates when we go to school, and then with the various relationships we will establish with different people when we go out into society.
People will experience family, friendship, and love in this life, and they are destined to learn to love and be loved.
When making friends, we will attract people with similar temperaments to us, and we will also be attracted by such people, but in the end, all people must only be consistent with our own three views and have reliable characters. people to be friends with.