Please don't forget your conscience when you speak. In dealing with people, we should learn to say words that warm people's hearts, help people and shape people's words, so as to accumulate virtues, help each other and become a better self.
First, saying other people's words, especially making up lies.
In dealing with people, we must be careful not to talk about others' right and wrong at will, especially not to fabricate lies to attack others.
The human heart is sensitive, and the human heart is even more fragile. Even if you have experienced a wonderful relationship, you can't stand the blow of lies, and you can't stand the harm caused by lies.
In interpersonal relationships, we must be careful not to talk about people at will, because there is no impenetrable wall in this world, especially when you say bad things about others, and after they are passed on, they are completely transformed and spread to others' ears.
In communication, information is asymmetric, and most information will be out of shape in communication, so if we want to communicate with others, especially to make suggestions, we must learn to communicate face to face, which is the best way.
If you must express your views on others, please say more good things about others, so the effect will be much better. In interpersonal relationships, we should actually learn to be cautious. This is the best way to protect ourselves, and it is also the low-key wisdom that we need most when dealing with people.
Second, the mouth is crazy.
Zeng Guofan once said that people are most afraid of pride. Pride will make us feel lazy, and pride will make us fail.
People who talk nonsense get into trouble because they don't respect others, appreciate them and fear them.
As soon as some people see their achievements, they start to get cocky and become bossy, but this is disgusting. People at heights must learn to bow their heads, but also be modest to prevent themselves from falling to lower places and being hurt by others.
Because people are jealous, especially your proud behavior, stepping down on others will make you lose people's hearts and get you no support.
What is madness? I just like to prove that I'm good. In fact, truly powerful people don't think they are strong. On the contrary, they will humbly admit that others are better than themselves.
They will have a basic accomplishment in dealing with people, and will listen to others carefully, not speak for themselves. A boastful person is a weak person in essence, and he hopes to hide his inner emptiness by showing off.
And if we want to make ourselves more popular, remember, we must not make ourselves the center of conversation, but listen to what others say, because everyone likes to express themselves. Only when you activate everyone's desire for expression can you really become a fan of everyone.
Third, the language act of sowing dissension.
I have emphasized in many articles that we should learn to respect people's hearts. What is human heart? People's hearts are unpredictable, which is the fusion of good and evil.
There are many ideas in people's hearts, including good ideas and bad ideas. If we get the upper hand with evil thoughts, we may want to do destructive things. If good thoughts take the lead, we will do good things.
Therefore, we should always be aware of our own thoughts, especially don't let bad thoughts guide our behavior, such as jealousy, which often makes us jealous of others, and even leads to sowing discord and trying to destroy the happiness and peace of others.
I don't know that such behavior not only makes people look bad, but also lowers your figure and your social status. We may all have heard that the strong help each other and the weak persecute each other. Only when you are weak will you do this, which will only expose your inner strength.
To avoid this kind of behavior, the most important thing is that we need to learn to appreciate others at any time. When we are jealous of others, we might as well look at what we have and find an inner balance. Our behavior will remain neutral and constantly improve ourselves. The more you admire yourself, the more tolerant you are of others.
Language is the most constructive and destructive in this world. In the face of life, we should learn to be aware of ourselves, our behavior and our language, so that you can avoid getting yourself into trouble and make yourself more blessed with peace.