Getting to know someone is easy. There are three hundred and sixty-five days in a year, and there are too many people who pass by us. However, from the moment we meet someone, there are very few people who can open up and talk to someone in detail whether it is through letters or meetings. People often say that a thousand pieces of gold are easy to come by, but a confidant is hard to find. It is enough to have a close friend in life, and this world should treat him with sympathy. Indeed, friends can be made forever. After becoming close friends, they will care about you and love you. They will comfort you when you are in difficulty, bless you when you are successful, remind you when you are carried away, and encourage you when you are discouraged. We can drink wine together. , it is very, very rare to be able to climb mountains together. I don't think anyone would be willing to spend their whole life making such a friend. Good friends can embellish your life, make you appreciate the rich levels of emotions, the colorful colors of life, become more vibrant, and affirm the value of life.
To find friends and confidants in the vast sea of ??people, in addition to the inextricable fate (that is, this person and this opportunity at this time, here and now), the most important thing is to rely on your own cultivation and Effort is like planting fruit trees before you can eat fruit. Friends will not come to you for no reason, nor will they become close friends with you for no reason. To win friends, you must first make yourself a person who is easier for others to appreciate. This appreciation of course includes appearance and demeanor. But the more important thing is the qualities and accomplishments displayed by a person, such as broad mind, understanding, etc.
After making friends, it is also very important to always maintain a positive attitude. Suppose you have a friend who appreciates you very much and cares and loves you very much on various occasions, at various times and under various circumstances; but you just enjoy this friendship with comfort and warmth, but you don’t understand that you should treat you in the same way. To repay him with sincerity; then this friendship that would have developed into a flourishing one may die midway. Only by giving your heartfelt emotions can you gain lifelong friendship. Therefore, the ancients said: You can't win one person with a hundred hearts, but you can win a hundred people with one heart.
The most important thing in making friends is sincerity, and you must have a heart to give without regrets. If you want to make a friend who will live and die for you, you must first have the quality to be able to help your friends. If you can't do this with your friends, then don't even think about it! At the same time, you must keep your faith. You cannot imagine that a person who breaks his promise will have a true friend. Confucius said: "If a person does not have faith, he does not know what is possible!"