how can parents guide their children to learn the art of making friends?
Preschool children:
1. Children before the age of six mainly learn to be separated from their parents' health, especially their dependence on their mothers. At this moment, their friends are just irrelevant passers-by. Parents must pay attention to the fact that the needs of children at this time must be met first, and the self-centered consciousness will be transferred to the concern for others.
2. Children in this period are an excellent stage to learn to make friends. Parents can take their 3-4-year-old children out with other two or three children of the same age, pay attention to how they express themselves in a self-centered way, and then teach them some proper behavior concepts in a gentle and positive way. At this time, playing games together is a good way.
3. Help children express which children they like and what they like to do together. Then you compile these contents into adventure stories or draw some pictures, and then discuss with him the possible bad results of choosing bad friends.
4. Invite your child's friends to participate in family activities or have dinner, take your child to buy his friend's birthday present, or design a game for everyone to participate. You can express your feelings for people you know to your children.
School-age children:
1. Children at this stage pay more attention to their peers of the same sex or people outside their families. These partner contacts can cultivate his sense of belonging and give affirmation to some things he has done through "partners".
2. Outdoor activities with children, or occasional overnight stay at friends' homes, can help children build good self-confidence, learn self-awareness and self-discipline, and exercise their ability to maintain friendship.
3. In the second stage, parents need to help their children distinguish right from wrong, avoid or reduce the influence of bad friends, and learn to accept and tolerate those who seem unlovable in the circle of friends.
Adolescent children:
1. If children at this stage are frustrated in friendship, you are their best refuge. We should talk about the basic characteristics of good friendship with children in a positive way, appreciate and praise their fine characteristics, share their feelings and protect their self-confidence.
2. Children at this stage are going through a process of self-reassessment. They will think about group participation and acceptance, and they are also learning more personalized and independent behaviors.
3. Take some time to explore the true feelings between yourself and your children. You can discuss communication, persuasion, praise, loyalty and trust with your children, as well as jealousy, attack and betrayal between some friends and the choice between two friends.
4. If you are not your child's real friend at this stage, take measures to restore your relationship. Because the relationship between parents and children will affect the relationship between him and other friends.
Please pay attention to parents: children follow your example when learning to make friends, and the communication mode and experience between you will have a great influence on children. For the healthy growth of children, as parents, we need to become better ourselves, and children will be more confident and decent when interacting with peers.