When a man is in his twenties, he will begin to learn to manage himself with care, which is reflected in his own thoughts and cultivation. Self-confidence is the most important quality of a man. A confident man is like a seagull fighting in a storm. All the seagull has to say is "let the storm come more violently" because it is fearless. A confident person can always infect others, whether friends or enemies. To make others have confidence in you, you must first have confidence in yourself. A confident person can overcome all difficulties.
A man with grace is like the sea, not refusing every drop of water, but also containing rivers. Manners make men more popular, so that they can see the world without arguing in front of them and benefit from giving to others. As the saying goes, "the prime minister can punt in his stomach." A man with a heart like the sea doesn't know how many boats can fit in his stomach! Manners just make men look smart.
Second, get into the habit of reading and writing.
When a man is in his twenties, he will begin to enter the society. In the process of interacting with others, conversation and cultivation are the best ways to conquer others. A knowledgeable person must often read books, and a smart person must often write. No matter how busy you are, take time out to read and write articles. Because it can change a man's thinking and behavior. The first thing a person should do to change his mind is to read a good book. Reading is like making a good friend, who can help you go your own way. The life of reading is the most colorful and the time of writing is the most enlightening.
Men who like reading and writing will certainly cultivate a good attitude. Because the ocean of knowledge and wisdom is boundless, but men who like reading and writing can pursue it persistently. Pursuit is a man's thought and action. Never give up pursuit and always inspire men to fight. In this kind of battle, one can experience the baptism of wind and rain and grow into a towering tree. Reading makes one calm and writing makes one mature.
Third, try to discover the truth, goodness and beauty in life.
When a person is in his twenties, he must learn how to face life. What is "real"? Nowadays, men are more and more confused. That's because men are impetuous. They don't know what is "real" to live. "Truth" means seeking truth from facts. Don't lie to yourself and don't lie to others. "Truth" means honesty, doing things honestly, and honest people are the most lovely. "Kindness" naturally means kindness. To be kind to others is to be kind to your own life. "Kindness" is actually around us. Don't embarrass others, don't dig at others, and don't insult others. This is kindness. Sometimes your little kindness can produce good results and make your life happy.
The philosopher said, "There is no lack of beauty in life, but the eyes that find beauty." Yes, so is life. Don't dwell on your misfortune. Doing so will only make your life more unfortunate. You feel "unfortunate" because you can't face life optimistically. Life is always full of hope. As long as you keep looking up at the sunshine, you can feel the warmth. Optimistic pursuit of a better life in warmth will naturally lead to beauty.
Fourth, make friends with thoughtful people.
When a man is in his twenties, he will start to choose friends with a purpose. Social connections are very important, and your circle of friends will have a great impact on your life. Men should make more friends, make more friends, and not make bad friends. The so-called friends are those who are helpful to you, and these people are often excellent themselves. Making more friends is very beneficial to one's life and work. But true friends are not easy to make, because such friends need you to pay great sincerity and sincerity.
A thoughtful friend, he knows very well whether you regard him as a friend or not. If you are just using him, he won't treat you as a friend in his heart. Making friends sometimes has no purpose. You just think this man is thoughtful and worth seeing. But it is often these considerate friends who lend you a helping hand when you are in the most difficult time. Friends are one of the most important elements in a man's life. If a man wants to live like a real man, he must make many friends.
5. You must get rid of your bad habits.
When a person reaches his twenties, he must get rid of bad habits. Bad habits are formed, and so are good habits. Cultivate yourself to have good habits, just >>
Question 2: What is the performance of mature men? Although men can't tolerate women saying that they are "not handsome enough", "not humorous", "not smart" or even "not sexy", they are even more annoyed that women say "Hey, are you mature!"
Because every man feels mature in his heart. In the face of women claiming that they like "mature middle-aged men", especially many young girls try their best to catch up with middle-aged men who have passed the age of "standing" or even "not confused", young men are a little angry: you just like cars that can pick you up and pay for you, but when men really struggle to the status of "car" and "meal ticket", women will take your car and you will.
A "mature" man is a huge illusion simulated by women since childhood, and it is the ultimate development of women's love for you complex. Its content is richer than all men's imagination: a mature man is a woman's shoulder (the sky is falling for her to carry), arm (giving her a strong hug), chest (leaning on when she is tired) and leg (taking her around the world)-if a man wants to achieve all his goals, I'm afraid there is little hope in his life.
However, most things like indicators can be discounted. Fortunately, women don't always ask every man according to the image of a mature husband in their minds, so the mature standard will be 20% off, giving men a little hope. In women's minds, the standard of a mature man is this-
1, a mature man should have an economic foundation, especially if you are mature enough to be her husband. Since people use gold to describe the harvest, women naturally use money to judge the maturity of men;
2. Mature men should have a career foundation. Maybe not every man can get rich, but if you think you have accomplished nothing, how can you stand in the eyes of women?
Mature men know what they want, not everything. Know how to persist and know how to give up;
4. Mature men dare to take responsibility, although some faults are not entirely caused by him;
5, mature men are tolerant, and excessive care is the most unforgivable mistake of men;
6. Mature men have great wisdom rather than small cleverness;
7. A mature man can let a woman learn a lot through his words and deeds, while a boy can only let a woman teach him.
Question 3: What kind of man is mature? 1. Always put your career first. I believe that money can buy all or 99.99% of the things in the world. You can put up with the woman you love, but you can't sleep with another man. You can fall in love with a woman who you don't love but loves you. 5. Pay attention to clothes and be full of energy. 6. Silence is golden, and you don't talk big. 7. Be good at discovering the advantages of women and praise each other from the heart. 8. I will do what I promise a woman, and I will not promise what I can't do. 9. Repeat slowly. 10. Even lying is natural, and it is only the level of infants. 1 1. Be a gentleman and be careful and humorous with women. 12. Don't ask why there are too many women. 13. Know how to be a faithful listener to women. 14. Believe that the woman you love is a mystery, don't expect to understand her. 15. Don't trust women's "good" and "no". 16. Understand that women are lying animals. 17. Understand that a woman's heart is the most unstable and elusive thing in the world. 18. When chasing a woman, you will take the initiative in your behavior and suppress your inner impulse. 19. Know how to read words and color, and take its essence. 20. Believing in love and getting married are two completely different things. 2 1. I believe there are plenty of fish in the sea. 22. I believe that "an ugly wife has a treasure at home" is the truth.
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Question 4: What is the charm of a mature man? Maturity is an adjective of a person's psychological state. When a person experiences something or grows up with age, he will change his understanding and view of a horrible thing. There is no definition of the charm of a mature man, because it is a feeling that people give off, not pretending. There are many charms, depending on what you like.
Question 5: What are the mature performances of men? Give a few examples. Maturity can be a physiological index or a psychological index. Psychological maturity and physical maturity are two different things, but they are related.
Speaking of psychological maturity, I think a mature person has strong independence in thought, emotion, action and economy, and is less dependent on others. Understand what life is, know what you want to do, have a clear goal in life, and put it into practice. I can control my emotions, have the ability to observe and gain insight into things, have a good attitude towards real life, and have considerable tolerance and resistance to setbacks and difficulties. Everything is no longer credulous, but focuses on practice.
In short, a mature person finds himself and handles his relationship with the outside world.
Whether there is a self and how to look at it are important criteria to measure a person's maturity. Of course, this is relative, because people are constantly maturing. You can compare the present with the past to see if you are mature. This is a vertical comparison, and you can also compare yourself with the people around you. This is a balanced comparison.
First, pay attention to the promise: a mature man will never break his word. He attaches great importance to every promise he makes. Before making a wish, he will carefully consider whether his words can really come true. If he could, he would never say, and his words would be carried out. Everything he says makes you feel at ease and trustworthy. A man with an unknown address, shooting at random and not taking action has nothing to do with maturity.
Second, don't talk big: a mature man never talks big casually. He will keep a proper silence and speak clearly but not noisily. Just drink a little wine and tell your story all over the table. You can hear it in half a room without a speaker. This kind of man will make the audience laugh at most, and no one will take your so-called "road to struggle" to heart.
Third, they are knowledgeable and reserved: they read books, accept new things and information, and constantly enrich their connotations. But they don't make public, their talents will only be displayed when necessary, and they will never deliberately show off to satisfy vanity. They are like mellow wine, the more you taste, the more delicious it becomes.
Fourth, broad-minded: mature men don't haggle over every ounce, don't covet petty advantages, don't care about small losses, and don't complain endlessly. Their eyes are never caught by trivial matters, and they are often "angels who turn back first" in small family quarrels.
Five, not self-centered: mature men respect themselves and know how to respect others. They are good at empathy, will consider problems from the standpoint of others, do not force others to accommodate themselves, and are good at cooperating with others. All men "like me" are typical little emperors and have not grown up.
6. Dare to admit mistakes: Mature men are not stubborn, can accept different opinions and are good at adopting good suggestions. They have the courage to bear the consequences of their improper decisions and never make excuses.
Seven. Strong-willed: Mature men have the psychological quality of never being confused. Once they set their own goal, they will work towards it. When encountering setbacks, they will analyze the reasons, learn lessons and correct their direction in time, but they will never give up easily. They will be very tired, but after the rest, they will start with confidence.
Eight, clean and tidy: mature men respect their appearance. They keep the hairstyle that suits them best, their chins are clean without stubble, their faces are not greasy and they don't leave long nails. Clothes don't have to be famous brands, but they should be neat and generous, and they won't be wrinkled like couriers. They will never wear black shoes with white socks or travel in suits.
Respect for the old and love for the young: Mature men are caring, have a sense of social responsibility and have the traditional virtues of the Chinese nation. He will give his seat to the elderly and pregnant women, donate money and materials to the disaster areas, help out-of-school children and donate blood voluntarily ... they may not do all these things, but they will never do nothing.
Ten, have hobbies: They are not robots who only know how to work, but know how to use hobbies to adjust their tense nerves, which makes them interesting. No wonder women say that men with hobbies are not easy to go bad.
Second, mature performance.
A man needs tempering to mature.
1. Maturity shows honesty
Honesty is defined here as-facing anything bravely and honestly. It's as easy to say as eating, but harder to do than you think. It's not as difficult as climbing Mount Everest. I remember Bai Yang, a writer from Taiwan Province Province, wrote a book ...
Question 6: What are the performances of a mature man? The minimum performance is to have a house, a car, a wife and children.
Question 7: What are the criteria for a successful mature man? 1, the most important thing for a man is to be strong. Those men who complain at the first failure, feel depressed and fall down and can't get up are definitely not allowed. Men should be able to give women a sense of security. If you find a husband who can't take care of you, you will often cry in front of you about your misfortune and make you suffer the pain that he can actually recover. This is a great failure.
2. loyalty. Needless to say, I believe all women don't want their husbands to have an affair.
3, there is tolerance. You must not find a petty man, even if he loves you. But you are jealous because of a little thing, whether it's going out on business with your boss, or getting together with friends you haven't seen for years for personal reasons, and coming home to make a scene or be unhappy.
It is selfish for a man to ignore you for a long time. Of course, he will say that he is jealous because he loves you, but don't forget to love someone and set her free. Sisters should never be housewives who are left at home by men in various ways and only do laundry and cooking. It's not that housewives are bad, but as women in this society, they should have their own social circle, be independent and strive for self-improvement, and never find men who can't give themselves free space.
4. Good health. Don't ask how powerful and tall that person is, but be sure to be in good health. There is something wrong with a woman's health, which can be called weakness. What do you say if a person is sick all day?
5. Don't be a good baby. No one says filial piety is wrong. Filial men are very kind. But husband and wife should ask for advice on everything, and they have no opinions of their own. "They always say," mom said. . . Mom said. . . A good baby in front of such a mother must be unwanted. Remember, you married a man, not a man's mother.
6. Love me, love my dog. If a man really loves you, he will love everything about you, including your bad habits, your friends and your family. . . If he can't stand your friends or family members' defects in some aspects or are dissatisfied with the people around you, then as a smart woman, he should try to avoid meeting them; If he is demanding, ask you to break up with them, don't hesitate to dump him!
7. Have a stable income. Love is very important, but it should be based on bread. You don't have to be rich, but life must be guaranteed. The so-called but unlike those who have been poor together, if a man can't even get the money to buy milk powder for his children, and he starts to worry about the mortgage next month at the beginning of this month, then you will have to suffer with him.
8. Self-confidence. A man who exudes confidence can make women rely on it with confidence.
9. Appearance matching. Don't ask him to be handsome, but if he doesn't seem to cause public outrage, you can't be a beautiful woman. Find a short, dark fat man around you.
10, careful and interesting. He may not remember your uncle's and brother-in-law's birthdays, but he must remember your birthday and wedding anniversary. These two days are very important in married life. It is best to go out for romance and receive gifts.
1 1, no bad habits. You can smoke a little and drink a little, but not too much. You don't want to go back to face a drunk every day, do you? He still smells of smoke from time to time, right?
12, strong social skills. It doesn't mean that you must take the initiative to laugh at people like that and hold hands like that, and you don't need him to be tough in social affairs, but you can't be shy. When we go out to socialize together, all he knows is to stand aside and giggle, but he can't find a topic to talk to your colleagues. A man who needs you to put on a show will make you lose face.
13, masculine. By male chauvinism, I don't mean male chauvinism. For a man who doesn't do any typical housework at home and reaches for food with his clothes, this is not desirable. Masculinity means that when you are bullied outside, he can stand up for you without hesitation and really protect you. Only this, this man is worthy of your consideration and commitment for life.
14, responsible for. A man must have a sense of responsibility and dare to undertake what he does, whether it is official or private. The kind of man who pushes something on others is not only despicable, but also shameful.
Have a peaceful heart. The world is used to measuring a person's value by his career success. In fact, a person's value lies in whether his existence is important to others. Even if that person can't make brilliant achievements in his career like others, his ordinary life ... >>
Question 8: How to make a man mature ■ That is, when you stop thinking about what is mature, you are mature. To be mature, you must have rich knowledge reserves, reflect your own connotation and self-cultivation, do things steadily, not impetuous and frivolous, don't ask some shallow and boring questions, care more about others, have your own opinions, try to be reasonable, show your charm, care about others, don't be arrogant and don't feel inferior.
■ In fact, life is a struggle and a harvest. Life is short. Have a proper goal in life. People always have a little spirit. No matter what they do, they must do something. Life should be colorful. It should be: constant search, constant pursuit and constant struggle. Although there are sweat and tears on the way forward, they will certainly get happiness and enjoyment in their success. Time will make you mature. Confidence is very important for a person. Appropriate and correct choices are necessary, and tolerance for the process is necessary. Self-psychological adjustment must be frequent, and unremitting efforts are needed to strive for success. Happiness and happiness are achieved through continuous success.
■ Maturity is a realm and an experience after injury. It can also be said that there will be no maturity without experiencing certain pain, especially for men. Maturity can't come out overnight, but a kind of accumulation of time in pain and an essential accumulation. If you want to grow up, you'd better find something to do. When you experience something, you are mature. Whether you are mature or not is largely influenced by your personality, but your personal experience has a very important influence on it. I think you need to be more calm when you do things. Maturity seems to be a cruel thing, representing the passing of youth and the fading of dreams. However, maturity is the direction of life, and a quiet and happy life belongs to a mature life.
■ First, what is maturity? Maturity is not philistinism and vulgarity. This mature core spirit is nothing more than compromise and obedience, drag out an ignoble existence and seek profit only. This is the wisdom of the villain. But this is the mainstream of society. This maturity is not to be envied. Of course, maturity is not paranoia. It is difficult for a person to mature. It takes time and cost. The road to maturity has no end, only a journey. Maturity is relative, and naivety is absolute. Maturity is not about not making mistakes, but whether you can really learn from them. Mature and immature, this is the common fault of young and naive people. Another serious problem is that age, experience and even vicissitudes cannot guarantee a person's maturity. Maturity requires a healthy and free social environment, independent thinking ability and frequent self-reflection. Maturity does not exclude innocence. True maturity is the unity of rational wisdom, innocence and morality. Maturity is not vulgarity and philistinism, but it often becomes the standard for China people to judge maturity and take it as the goal to imitate and pursue it. Compromise and obey, drag out an ignoble existence, succumb to the trend, and be mercenary. This vulgar servility maturity is not to be envied, it is only the wisdom of a villain. Getting the dog's wisdom is only a small profit, and it can't achieve anything.
■ Second, the sign of maturity, a person's words and deeds, even through a small matter, can often reflect a person's mentality and cultivation. Moreover, maturity is interpreted from different angles, and maturity has different signs. Maybe people in love can't stay awake as they should, but in daily life, they can often see people gaffes in front of the opposite sex. Not taking the opposite sex seriously is not to make you lose your enthusiasm for life, but to be less disappointed and hurt, and naturally calm. 2. Denying yourself and constantly denying yourself is a necessary condition and an important symbol of maturity. Denying oneself is a profound ideological activity, based on the understanding of truth and self, rather than belittling oneself. Denying yourself is the result of thinking, not touching the scene. As long as you keep reflecting and facing yourself, you will always deny yourself. It is not easy to know yourself, nor is it easy to deny yourself. People are most likely to be self-righteous and opinionated. In reality, almost all people think they are jealous. In the face of truth, no one is qualified to be conceited. There is a good saying that what we need to change most may be what we insist on most. However, people often think that they are always right, regard arrogance as maturity, regard stubbornness as personality, and finally only regret it. People's understanding is shallow, and everything is constantly changing. How can you not change? Things are changing, the situation is changing, and the truth is changing. This requires you to constantly change your original understanding and deny what you once insisted on ... >>
Question 9: What is the sign of a man's maturity? What is the sign of a man's maturity?
A symbol of a mature man;
1, contempt for the opposite sex can "despise" the opposite sex and not take it seriously, which is a sign of maturity;
So put it in the first place, because this is the first step towards maturity in life. It is difficult for people, especially teenagers, not to take the opposite sex seriously, which is why it has become a symbol of maturity. Boys are naive and pure, full of curiosity and mystery about the opposite sex, which are all immature performances. One day you will understand that women do the same. We can have a good impression on the opposite sex without being curious or mysterious. This mystery and curiosity will lead to ups and downs of people's emotions, make them happy, make them miserable, make them happy and make them miserable. Maybe people in love can't stay awake as they should, but in daily life, they can often see people gaffes in front of the opposite sex. Not taking the opposite sex seriously is not to make you lose your enthusiasm for life, but to be less disappointed and hurt, and naturally calm.
2. Denying yourself and constantly denying yourself is a necessary condition and an important symbol of maturity;
Denying oneself is a profound ideological activity, based on the understanding of truth and self, rather than belittling oneself. Denying yourself is the result of thinking, not "touching the scene." As long as you keep reflecting and facing yourself, you will always deny yourself.
It is not easy to know yourself, nor is it easy to deny yourself. People are most likely to be self-righteous and opinionated. In reality, almost all people think they are jealous.
In the face of truth, no one is qualified to be conceited. There is a good saying that what we need to change most may be what we insist on most. But people often think that they are always right, regard arrogance as maturity, regard stubbornness as personality, and finally can only "regret". In fact, people's understanding is shallow, and everything is constantly changing. How can you not change? Things are changing, the situation is changing, and the truth is changing, which requires you to constantly change your original understanding and deny what you once insisted on.
3. Learning to be tolerant is not only a symbol of maturity, but also a state of tolerance;
A naive heart will never be tolerant. They are extreme, furious and blind, and they are "as evil as enemies", but they have repeatedly made intolerable mistakes. They pursue perfection, but they don't understand their own shortcomings. Tolerance is not tolerance, because tolerance is still a negative resistance, and this unwise emotion is actually secretly embarrassing itself. Life experience and understanding of life constitute the premise and foundation of tolerance. Tolerance of others is also tolerance of oneself, which embodies tolerance and understanding of human defects. Therefore, tolerance is not only a kind of maturity, but also a kind of wisdom.
4. Pay attention to simplicity. From the perspective of thinking ability, the sign of maturity is to have a new understanding and understanding of "simplicity", and no longer regard simplicity as simplicity, or to say, no longer despise simplicity;
The reason is very simple, and this simple reason lies in ordinary and simple daily life. If you can find and discover the truth from a simple place, you will get the deepest truth. Don't despise the simple things you despise, but be good at understanding and obtaining extraordinary truth from ordinary life and ordinary events.
Question 10: What is the sign of a man's maturity? Maturity is the impulse to abandon childhood naivety and leave young people! Every girl likes mature and steady men, but how many mature and steady men are there in their twenties? Very few! I also like mature girls! Looking around Internet cafes, the streets are full of decadent young people, throwing away their youth! Those young people who wear colorful clothes and dye various hairstyles do not mean that they are immature. Maturity depends on temperament, personality and style! Maturity requires maturity. I read a book that maturity means losing enthusiasm for the opposite sex! This sentence is very good, yes, not to say that there is no desire to seek differences, but to stop looking for the opposite sex casually, but to find a real life. When you look for it, you don't look at the appearance, but at whether the future is suitable! It is what people often say is practical, yes, it is not romantic, but more warm and tacit understanding! Maturity means shouldering pressure, life, family and career. When you shoulder these pressures, you will not take frivolous steps, but step on a deep pit every step! Some people are self-righteous and say that they are mature, otherwise mature people will not easily talk about their success, show off themselves, or scoff, but patiently tell their failures! People who care can feel sadness, vicissitudes and warmth from the words! Yes, it's warm, so when you are a mature man in your twenties, what you are looking for is not the ordinary opposite sex, but someone who understands your heart! A mature person doesn't think about himself in everything. On the contrary, his first consideration is his family! Mature people are hesitant and indecisive? Wrong, mature and decisive, and * * *! Just because you are mature doesn't mean you have to lose your stubbornness and decisiveness! Maturity depends on your heart, not your style! When you can consider your family in everything, you will no longer have unrealistic dreams and do things with a purpose every day. Then I congratulate you, you are mature! Maybe I am not qualified to comment on maturity, but at least it is not easy for you to do so! Although you are not allowed to earn a lot of money, you are not allowed to have a stable job, and you are not allowed to talk as if you have experienced many things, Kan Kan! There is also a classic saying, it is always you who look at yourself. Only when others look at you can you show it on the stage of life! Maybe some of my words are incoherent and difficult to understand in some places, but it's true! I believe there is someone who can understand what I said.