I refused.
First of all, Ajie is just my college classmate. I haven't been in touch for a long time, and I'm not very close friends.
Secondly, even if I have a big coffee friend, others don't know him. Why should I introduce him to work?
My advice to him is: don't make friends in a hurry. Think about your future and spend more time to improve your ability.
After all, this society is very realistic, and the essence of communication is "interest exchange". When you haven't used your value, others won't look at you at all.
Only you are capable and valuable. Even if you don't make friends, someone will come to you.
Networking is the result of success, not a prerequisite.
You know, few people in this society really want you to succeed except parents and lovers.
So don't make some fair-weather friends when you are frustrated in life.
When we are poor, our life is quite embarrassing.
First of all, we don't have extra money on us, so we should spend it on self-improvement, instead of getting together with friends every night and drowning our sorrows in wine.
Secondly, fair-weather friends are waiting to see your jokes on the surface. Just like the heartfelt words, "there are many brothers with wine and meat, and you have never seen them in an emergency."
Friendship maintained by wine and meat is hard to last. When we are in crisis, these people run faster than anyone else.
More importantly, making fair-weather friends is a waste of your time, and you will only waste time doing nothing every day.
Friendship maintained by wine and meat is hard to last. When we are in crisis, these people run faster than anyone else.
Therefore, fair-weather friends are not real friends. When we are poor, we should make fewer or no fair-weather friends to avoid unnecessary troubles and disasters.
A friend of mine never attends any meaningless parties. She thinks that low-quality socialization is not as good as high-quality solitude.
Instead of blindly socializing unnecessarily, it is better to improve yourself, read more books, study more and improve your skills in loneliness. Only when you are excellent will your circle of friends be excellent.
Otherwise, if you spend time and energy, you will not be able to speak even if you are integrated into high-end circles.
We all say that the best marriage is "the right match", but in fact, social interaction in the workplace also requires equality between you and me.
Therefore, instead of wasting time hanging out at various parties, others may not know your name. It is better to spend time on self-study and improvement. If you are in full bloom, the breeze will come.
For the poor, it is a fact that there is no money. Don't think about losing money in the sky, and don't think about making friends at this time. At this time, you are not accumulating contacts, but fair-weather friends.
The most important thing for you is to learn to use your time and use it on the cutting edge, which is far more reliable than socializing.
So what you should do is:
(1) Discover business opportunities from skills, passion and knowledge.
The first question we have to ask is: What am I good at and can make money from it?
List your skills. For example, if you are good at reading, you can rely on the media to make money by reading and writing; If you know photography, you can make money by taking pictures or teaching people to take pictures in class; If you paint well, you can start a painting class; You are a fitness expert, you can be a fitness instructor and so on.
(2) Clear objectives and start action.
The goal is not the general direction, but the accumulation of small things. Don't think you can do everything at once. The best way is to do one thing at a time, step by step.
For example, if you want to make money by writing, all you have to do is read more books, output (writing) and force input (reading). Only by accumulating more books can we output with high quality.
Every small goal should be: how much reading to complete every day, how many articles to write every day, and how much reading to achieve every day. Write down specific figures and force yourself to complete them, so that you have a chance of success.
(3) Step out of the comfort zone
Don't be afraid of difficulties and come out bravely.
Ask yourself, "How bad can it be? The worst is now. "
If you stay in the comfort zone and are not satisfied with your present life, change your life and work style. The comfort zone is comfortable, but there are opportunities outside the comfort zone.
Life has no end and potential has no upper limit. Don't indulge in the comfort zone, and don't set an upper limit for yourself.
Life is not always smooth sailing. When we are at the bottom of our lives, don't complain, and don't try to take shortcuts through the help of others. Only you are the most reliable.
Less low-quality social interaction, more high-quality solitude, and attention to self-improvement will give you a chance to turn over.