Friends are the most comfortable way to get along. Lincoln said that friends can enrich life; Einstein said that the best thing in the world is to have a few solemn friends with upright minds and hearts; Next, I will share with you the most comfortable way to get along with friends.
The most comfortable mode for friends to get along with each other is 1 1, presumptuous+speechless (with appropriate restrictions).
I remember when I was a child, you loved talking and I loved laughing, sitting side by side under the peach tree, and the wind whistling in the treetops. With the passage of time, the purity and innocence of childhood gradually disappeared from us. When we grow up, our friends know how to get along, and we need to grasp each other.
Xiaoling cried to me. Her long-time friend ignored her for three months because of her jokes. The whole thing is this:
Xiaoling and her good friend Xiao Jia have been friends for many years. At that time, they met in a dance class, and because they shared the same interests, they spent their whole youth in such a lively way. Xiaoling has always been outspoken and often casually says to Xiao Jia, "This skirt of yours is really rustic and looks like a village girl." "You should stop wearing jeans and make your figure look fifty-fifty."
Maybe this is the way Xiaoling talks. Xiaoling wanted to give advice to Xiao Jia, in order to make Xiao Jia look better, but this critical and disgusting language hurt Xiao Jia at that time, but Xiao Jia always endured it.
Until one day, Xiaoling kept saying that Xiao Jia's idol was not good in public on the premise of knowing who Xiao Jia liked. When Xiao Jia retorted, Xiaoling directly shut Xiao Jia up. It is conceivable that Xiao Jia really never talked to Xiaoling again.
San Mao said: "No matter how close friends are, they should be measured and think they are familiar. As a result, they were isolated. "
No matter how close your friends are, you should keep a good sense of proportion and not talk recklessly. Appropriate restrictions are a sign of maturity. When you get along with friends, you should consider the problem from the other side's point of view. You can't say everything. Keeping a proper distance and respecting each other is the correct way to make friends.
2. Deliberately please+strongly suggest (inequality)
As I said in my previous article, love is a game of Go. The closer the two sides are, the longer they will learn from each other. This sentence is also true in friendship. Friendship needs mutual benefit to play this game of Go well.
Everyone has a different personality and different ways of expression. In friendship, people with inferiority tend to please each other deliberately, while strong people tend to be self-centered and teach others at will. Neither of these ways is desirable, and the unequal relationship will break the game of friendship in advance.
Some netizens said that when he gets along with his friends, he always feels that he is not as good as his friends. All his preferences need to be done according to the requirements of the other party, otherwise he will turn his face. He may have low self-esteem and feel that friends are hard to come by, so he has been enduring it, but this improper relationship has been bothering him and has always made him suspect that the other party did not regard him as a friend at all.
Obviously, this relationship is an abnormal friendship. This netizen is flattering, and the other party is a strong one. No matter how good the character is, it will be unbearable in the end. One day, no matter how strong that person is, you can't control the wandering heart of the other person.
The long-term inequality between the two players, whether it is deliberately pleasing or strong advice, is not desirable. In chess, only diamond cut diamond can be even. When friends get along, they need more understanding and communication. Only by standing on an equal footing can friendship last.
3, be honest with each other+a friend of a gentleman (most comfortable)
It is said that a friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, but a true friendship is actually very dull.
In this materialistic era, the friendship between gentlemen is more appropriate, more comfortable, more frank and more lasting.
Every day is either work or family, and your personal world is very fulfilling. In your spare time, you want to take the opportunity to recharge and improve yourself, and you don't have much time for your friends. Don't disturb each other's schedule at will, this is the best communication.
What I see is that today I let you go shopping with me, and tomorrow I will let you travel with me. If everyone just wants to do it, that's understandable, but time is really precious now. If I go shopping with you, I must put down my original plan and rearrange my other arrangements. Long-term random interruptions can be annoying.
Friends get along in comfort, and the nature of being as light as water is gentle. Although it is not so strong, it is indeed the most lasting.
The most comfortable way for friends to get along II. First, between friends, there is nothing to remember if there is a connection.
Frequent contact and infrequent contact do not actually represent others' sincerity to you.
People who are really sincere to you will miss you even if they don't contact you.
The most comfortable state between friends is that if you contact me, I will try my best to help you. Nothing, you talk to me, I will be happy to chat with you, carefree, even if I don't contact, I won't forget.
Friends are the fate of a lifetime, and getting along well is a very valuable asset.
In this life, it is actually very happy to have some friends who treat each other sincerely. Friends who walk together all their lives can add icing on the cake, help each other, remember each other and be closer than relatives.
Second, the three views fit together and understand each other.
Someone said, "If you share happiness with the wrong person, it will be a show." : Sad to share the wrong person becomes melodramatic. "
The most comfortable state between people is that you know me and I know you.
After marriage, Shen Fu and Yun get along with each other, sharing similar interests and having a deep tacit understanding. Eyebrows move, eyes flash, an expression and an action, and the other party gets the message and handles it properly.
As Zhang Ailing said, because you know, you know, because you know, you are merciful.
People who know you will understand your feelings, understand empathy and tolerate each other.
People who understand your joys and sorrows, know your warmth and coldness, agree with your three views and take care of your feelings will be comfortable to get along with you.
You should cherish it when you meet it.
Third, pay sincerely and go both ways.
Any emotion, whether it is affection, friendship or love, is two-way, not unilateral. It only makes sense if both sides echo each other.
When people get along with each other, if one party turns a blind eye, doesn't even care, or just enjoys it and won't respond, then the paying party will feel very tired. When a person's heart is tired, he will be disappointed in this relationship.
If you want to get along comfortably, don't just ask for it, but also know how to pay, so as to exchange on an equal footing and achieve balance.
When some friends get along, one just wants to take advantage of the other, and is unwilling to do anything, pay or suffer. So it is very tiring to get along with such selfish friends. One day, someone will feel cold and choose to stay away from them.
Some friends get along, you are good to me and I am good to you. This kind of two-way travel will always be very comfortable to get along with.
The most comfortable mode for friends to get along with 3 high-frequency bands.
Being together often means that I really like you.
Some people are like this. Born with enthusiasm, I haven't seen Sanqiu for a day. For them, liking means being together all the time. Is there such a group of friends around you?
As long as one of them appears, you must see the other one. In a week's time, there are five days in a state of being together, which will be introduced to everyone around you and open a circle of friends. They are each other's shadows. Obviously, they are not sisters/brothers, but they are often misunderstood whether they are related by blood. Both parents, even because of their feelings, have become good friends who talk about everything.
But they don't do this to everyone. This practice is only for people you like, and you are willing to pour all your feelings. Can adapt to this mode of getting along, provided that both sides are keen to keep in touch at any time or are not disgusted.
Intermediate frequency band
I hate each other for a long time, and I miss you for a long time.
Some people want intimacy, but they also want distance. For them, distance produces beauty, too close contact will lead to "suffocation", but long-term non-contact will lead to loneliness. Therefore, it is very important to master the sense of distance, which is the point that only as friends can get close to each other.
This kind of friend cp is best described as "chic". Their emotions often come and go quickly, and they are often spontaneous when they get along with others. When you want to get together with friends, you can get together for a few days in a row, and when you want to be alone, you can not contact for a month. They may be the most lively people in the party, or they may be the first people to leave the party. They come when they are happy and leave when they are happy. Friends who get along with each other have long been accustomed to this, and both sides maintain maximum trust and tolerance, as well as maximum respect and understanding.
Perhaps at first glance, such friends seem too casual and a little absent-minded. But there are such people in the world. When they are together, they show absolute sincerity. Even though they may not take the initiative to contact for a long time afterwards, that's all. This relationship between you happens to be his most relaxed appearance. There is no burden, no flattery, and no deliberate disguise.
low-frequency band
The best companionship is to have you in my heart without disturbing each other.
Some people are not natural social experts. Not necessarily introverted, but they prefer the feeling of being alone to being with a group of people. But that doesn't mean they don't have friends, just that their feelings for friends are not as strong as those of the above two. For them, no contact means nothing, and frequent contact is nothing special.