I heard my mom and dad quarreling yesterday. The quarrel lasted for half an hour over a very small matter, but it was basically my mom who was doing the talking. When my dad came home from socializing at around ten o'clock in the evening, my mom was asleep, but my dad really wanted to talk to my mom about something, so he woke her up, and she was scolded by my mom as a matter of course. Next door, I listened to my dad constantly admitting his mistakes and explaining, and laughed secretly. My dad was becoming more and more gentle.

But in the past, as soon as there was any friction between the two of them, I had to flee the scene quickly. There was no way, the fire was too fierce.

When I was a child, my father and my mother always quarreled. Sometimes they would say all the unpleasant things and get tired of the quarreling. They would smash pots and bowls, occasionally pull their hair and kick them, but no one would let the other go.

Then I sat down and thought about it, why was there such a fuss just now?

I always thought that my parents had a bad relationship and were incompatible with each other. I even thought that my mother would really not be able to bear my father divorcing him.

But later, after my mother had an operation, my father suddenly seemed to be a different person. It can be said that he had a completely different personality. He used to have a temper that was like gunpowder, but now he is like a submissive little daughter-in-law of my mother. .

Once I secretly asked my dad if my mom had caught some pigtails and he was so weak now. My dad said with a playful smile: "Before your mom entered the operating room, she told me whether she was going to get out." Come and ask me to find another one, and treat them well. I said that’s not possible. I won’t be able to fight with others.”

“Then I thought, I won’t do it again.” I quarreled with your mother. Actually, there are so many things that I can't get over. I just quarreled and couldn't control myself. From now on, I will think more about her kindness and admit my mistakes more, and then I will get over it. I still like you very much. Damn it, your grandma didn’t let your mother marry me because she thought I was poor. Your mother was so angry that she didn’t eat for several days, and then your grandma agreed. ”

Falling in love is easy, but getting along is difficult. Life seems to be a long time. From toddlerhood to gray-haired old age, no one can calculate clearly how many people we will meet, how many days we will spend with the people we meet, and how many quarrels we will have in those days.

It is inevitable that everyone will have a little emotion when bumping into each other. Jose once said to Sanmao: "I know you have a bad temper, and quarrels and fights may happen, but I know you have a good heart. The more you control, the more tolerant I will be, because we still want to get married."

Looking at Sanmao's prose, she wrote that she loved to torment José, and would quarrel and lose temper with him when she was in a bad mood. José always tolerated her like a doting child.

Because I love her, I know how to be considerate, understanding and tolerant.

Lao Hu had a cold war with her girlfriend Lingling some time ago because of a mobile dating app.

One night a bunch of us were gathering at a KTV. Lao Hu was playing Werewolf with a group of boys. Lingling was sitting in the corner holding the mobile phone that Lao Hu just bought.

After a while, I saw Lingling walking towards Lao Hu with her mobile phone. Without saying a few words, the two of them started to quarrel. It seemed that Lao Hu had installed a popular dating software on his mobile phone. Lingling said Why do you have this on your phone? Lao Hu said impatiently: I don’t know, it must have come with the phone.

Lingling didn’t know whether it was because she was a little drunk or something, but she refused to give up. To save face, Lao Hu took the phone away and put it in his pocket, saying that we should go home and talk. Lingling said that it would be over if you uninstall it. Lao Hu also got excited and said that I have never played it, so I won’t uninstall it.

Lingling slapped Lao Hu on the face.

Lao Hu later asked us: "Why does she habitually ignore what I say? I told you that I have never played and that I am not interested in those things at all. Doesn't she know?"

What Lingling said to me was: "I don't want to argue with him, but if I want to talk, I have to say it nicely. What kind of attitude is that?"

Later we brought the two together. , Lao Hu promised to talk nicely and stop quarreling in the future. Lingling punched him with a blushing face, saying that she was wrong too and was too unreasonable.

The two of them continued to work diligently to feed us single dogs.

Sometimes two people quarrel, and I won’t let you if you don’t let me. I get red-eyed and scratch my face, and all I think about is that I don’t want this broken relationship anymore. You don't care about me, right? Well, whatever you care about, I will torture you with.

I find that sometimes men and women in love tend to end up in dead ends. Occasionally, they feel that love is a competition. In the process of getting along, the two sides are like tug-of-war, and the two people are calculating "who of us is responsible for it" "Sacrifice more", "Who bows down first every time there is an argument" or "Who has the worse attitude". So that later it will evolve into thinking about who loves more and who gives more.

Because of these things, I started to quarrel, and then I began to doubt the nature of love and lover, started to act step by step, and even tried to test, and finally ruined the relationship.

Everyone is impulsive sometimes, but there is no such thing as a loser or a winner in a relationship. It is often the case that you win the quarrel but lose the relationship, which is not worth the gain.

Don’t make the boundaries between two people too obvious. Nothing in the world is unshakable. When disagreements arise, it is best for two people to communicate, exchange, give in, and compromise with each other.

Think more about the good things about the other person, and don’t deny everything just because of something trivial.