The second is the heart-to-heart method. This is a way of talking, especially a way to guide the conversation. Some people are very approachable before becoming leaders. When I became a leader, my tone of voice changed greatly and my walking posture changed greatly. They spoke three times, and they spoke fluently, and they had to pause several times before they finished. An excellent leader speaks without bureaucratic jargon and treats people kindly. Talking with people is a kind of heart-to-heart style, which not only gives people education, but also gives people care and conviction.
Heart-to-heart talk focuses on the word "heart", that is, talking from the heart, exchanging opinions, transmitting information, and discussing problems in a negotiated tone. The tone of this discussion contains intimate feelings and respect and equality for each other. Heart-to-heart method is not only a method to deal with the relationship between superiors and subordinates, but also a method to deal with general interpersonal relationships.
The third is to seek common ground while reserving differences. This is a way to seek mutual understanding and understanding through various activities, especially interest activities. One way for leaders to establish close and harmonious interpersonal relationship with the masses is to participate in various activities with the masses. In the activity, leaders participate as ordinary people, and in a relaxed and lively atmosphere, the relationship between cadres and the masses is harmonious.
The law of seeking common ground is particularly effective for people of different social status to reach equal exchanges. For example, when Marshal Chen Yi and Marshal He Long were alive, they were usually dignified, but they loved playing basketball. As soon as they arrived at the basketball court, the distance between them and the soldiers was shortened. For general interpersonal communication, the method of seeking common ground while reserving differences is also applicable.
The fourth is the method of making friends. This is a common method in equal communication. The method of making friends means treating people as friends on an equal footing, caring, helping, understanding, understanding and respecting others, and making friends with the masses, because friends are equal, and equal relationships are easy to communicate on an equal footing.
Equality is the expression of social progress. In a hierarchical society, equal communication between people is impossible. With the requirements of social division of labor and socialization of production, equal communication becomes inevitable. From the perspective of commodity production and exchange, it is necessary to cooperate on an equal footing and exchange on an equal footing. Because collaboration and communication are voluntary, its premise is to recognize the autonomy and independence of collaborators and communicators, and people have their own choices in communication. Therefore, communication must be equal. In terms of commodity exchange, equivalent exchange is the principle of exchange between the two parties. As long as both sides are willing, exchange is equal.
Psychological research shows that everyone needs friendship and respect. Young people have a strong desire to make friends and be respected. They are eager to be independent with their parents and become equal members of the family and society. Old people no longer work because of their age, but they have made contributions to the family and society, and they also hope to be treated equally by others, enjoy the fruits of social progress materially and be respected spiritually. In short, as long as they are normal people, they all want to be treated equally by others. Therefore, communication must be equal, and equality can make deep friends.