1. Full but not covered

Confucius visited a temple and saw a vessel that was tilted and easily covered. The temple guards said it was a vessel for sitting.

Confucius said: "I heard that when the sitting utensil is empty, it is leaning (tilted), when it is in the middle, it is upright, and when it is full, it is overturned. Mingjun always places it on the right side of his seat."

Confucius asked his disciples to pour water, and it was true.

Confucius sighed: How can everything be full but not full?"

The disciple asked: "Is there a way to keep full but not full?"

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Confucius said: "If you are wise and wise, keep it with foolishness; if your merit is popular in the world, keep it with humility; if you are brave enough to inspire the world, keep it with timidity; if you are rich all over the world, keep it with humility." This is the so-called way of losing again and again. ”

2. Be good at communicating with others

Yan Ying was a politician who was a contemporary of Confucius and was respected by Confucius. One day, after Yan Ying’s coachman came home, his wife Asking for a divorce, the coachman was puzzled.

His wife said, "I saw you driving past the door today. Yan Ying is so short. He has become the prime minister and is famous among the princes, but he is still so simple and unpretentious. You think you are inferior to others; but you are eight feet tall and just his servant, but you are so high-spirited and arrogant. You have no future like this, so I want a divorce. "

After hearing these words, the coachman became modest, prudent and diligent. After Yan Ying learned about it, he also worked hard to train him. Later, the coachman became a doctor.

Confucius especially admired Yan Zi The way to make friends is Yanzi. The longer the friendship lasts, the more respectful and courteous he will be, and the more respected he will be by others, so that he can do it from beginning to end. So Confucius said sincerely: "Yan Pingzhong is good at making friends with people, and respects them over time." ”

3. The attitude of a gentleman

When Gongsun Chi, a disciple of Confucius, was on an envoy to the state of Qi, Ran Qiu asked Confucius for some grain subsidies on behalf of his mother.

Confucius said: "Give her six measures and four liters. "

Ran Qiu asked for more.

Confucius said, "Give her two more buckets and four liters." "

Ran Qiu thought it was too little, so he gave Gongsun Chi's mother more.

Confucius said: "Gongsun Chi went to Qi State with fat horses and light fur, and he was majestic. I have heard that a gentleman only provides help in times of need, not the icing on the cake. ”

Helping others in need does not help the rich, and helping young people in need does not help the poor. This is the attitude of a gentleman.