The foundation for establishing good interpersonal relationships is to first acknowledge your "true self" and show it in front of everyone.

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It is normal and smooth for colleagues to establish good interpersonal relationships. Basic guarantee, therefore, we need to pay attention to the following points:

1. Keep promises on time and keep promises

A person who does not keep promises on time and keep promises is often not trusted by others.

2. Respect your superiors and old colleagues

When speaking to your superiors and old colleagues, you should be measured and not too casual.

3. Distinguish between public and private matters

Private phone calls are strictly prohibited while at work, and public property is not allowed to be appropriated or taken home for use.

4. Strengthen communication and communication

Work must be proactive, and colleagues must communicate with each other and cooperate with each other.

5. Don’t avoid responsibility

When you make mistakes, you should take the initiative to admit them and actively correct them. You should not avoid responsibilities and blame each other.

6. Have a serious attitude

Mistakes are often caused by insufficient preparation and thinking. If there are any areas that are difficult to grasp, they should be reconfirmed and checked again.

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Don’t do to others what you don’t want others to do to you. This is the most fundamental requirement of empathy. The prophets of Islam taught their children that they must meet three standards when speaking, that is, every sentence they say must meet these three standards, otherwise they should not be said. The first hurdle is to ask yourself: Is what I said true? The second question is, do I have to say this? The third question is, are my words kind enough? I don’t need to explain the meaning of these three levels. They refer to speaking methods, skills and attitudes. The third level is for empathy. When you do something wrong or encounter setbacks, do you expect your friends to say some words of comfort and encouragement, or do you expect them to pour cold water on you? Maybe you will say: Isn’t this nonsense? Who would want others to pour cold water on it? However, when you pour cold water on others, have you ever paid attention to the same thoughts of others? In fact many people don't pay attention. Let's see what people are saying:

You're such an idiot, why do you deserve so many points? Did a dog eat your brain? Why are you so stupid?

What are you doing? You always keep a straight face all day long, as if someone owes you a lot of money!

Don’t you have eyes? The road is so wide, why do you want to step on other people’s feet? ...

Almost everyone has been hurt by such unloving words, but they use the same words to hurt others. This shows how urgent it is for everyone to pay attention to empathy.

Empathy comes from a broad mind, a deep understanding of human nature, and a broad love.

55 Tips for Interpersonal Relationships

Top 1: Recognize the meaning of life and the goal of your whole life

Why do you have to work so hard? Because you must be worthy of your own conscience.

If you want to become a master of interpersonal relationships, the first step is to confirm your values; if you can't even figure this out

it will be difficult to see through the meaning of life. , not to mention any sense of accomplishment.

Step 2: List five major achievements so far

He who knows the enemy is wise; he who knows himself is great wisdom.

Tip 3: Understand what expertise and resources you have that others urgently need

I am born to be useful.

Whether your expertise comes from professional training or amateur exploration, it can be transformed into a strong "interpersonal relationship

kinetic energy", so don't belittle yourself.

Step 4: Say goodbye to the days of being a lone ranger

Do you still want to compete for first place in all subjects like a primary school student? Don't be stupid, there are only team results in this world, not individual results, so there is no so-called "first place".

Say goodbye to your career as a lone ranger. Your life will change from black and white to color and start a new journey.

Tip 5: Build confidence in yourself, help yourself and help others

Everyone has the ability to change the world, and you are no exception.

Participate in more activities, help others, and help yourself.

Step 6: Develop short-term and long-term goals, review and revise them regularly

Is the work plan book useful? Yes, it can allow a person to develop heat for at least three minutes.

Set goals not only to push yourself, but also to let others know what you need. As long as you are diligent in communicating with others

then your friends will naturally know what difficulties you have, and then use the network of interpersonal relationships to help you

realize your goals as soon as possible Dream.

The seventh step draws a "network diagram" of interpersonal relationships, showing the diversity and depth of one's involvement in this resource

The characteristic of the interpersonal network is that every member is the boss.

If you can keep the latest version of the interpersonal relationship map, it will not be difficult to know how to use yourself

as the protagonist at this moment to make good use of your interpersonal resources.

Tip 8: Introduce yourself in a very professional way

In many situations, the external image you present is far more powerful than your true ability. important.

Tip 9: Introduce yourself in a concise, decent and original way

No matter what social situation you are in, the first lesson to expand your interpersonal relationships is to learn to introduce yourself.

We must try to win by surprise. Let the other person remember you firmly, and remember a positive image.

Top 10: Open the conversation skillfully

Why do we often miss many opportunities to make connections with others? It's because we often spend those prime time hours racking our brains, but still can't come up with a suitable opening line.

You can open the conversation easily whether actively or passively. Once you can reach this state, no matter what situation you are thrown into, you will be able to quickly get into the situation, expand your popularity as you wish, and work for yourself. Create one excellent development opportunity after another in life and career.

Tip 11: If necessary, take the initiative to introduce yourself again

If someone takes the initiative to come over and say hello to you, then this must be a big shot.

Practice more about "lowering the noble" and taking the trouble to introduce yourself frequently, and your interpersonal relationships will

become wider and smoother.

Tip 12: See their faces clearly and remember their names

People actually don’t care how much you know about them, but they do care whether you listened carefully.

Tip 13: Be good at being a competent host in social situations

As long as there are humans on the earth, you will not have to worry about not having the opportunity to express your kindness.

Tip 14: Be willing to stand up and gain visibility for yourself

Wanting to gain visibility for yourself does not require unscrupulous means; on the contrary, this will help you realize your ideas as soon as possible.

Recommend yourself appropriately so that people know when they can ask you for help or advice, so as not to render your hero

useless.

Tip 15: Always treat everyone with courtesy when dealing with them

Even if life is short, it is more than enough to learn etiquette.

If you want to win by surprise and become the master, don’t sacrifice the near and seek the far. Practice your lines first and then speak them.

Tip 16: The business card must be a carefully designed work

The function of the business card is to remind others that you are a person in the world.

When others want to use interpersonal relationships to recruit reinforcements, your business card is a very important clue, so

Don’t be hasty in the design.

Tip 17: Carry a sufficient number of business cards at any time and at any time

Before going into battle, first check whether you are "fully armed".

Tip 18: Only hand over your business card when the situation is appropriate

When you are sure that you have something to say with the other person, when the time is right, you should respectfully hand over your business card and make an agreement. Only the interpersonal relationships established on this solid foundation can withstand the test of future contact and cooperation.

The 19th tip is to record the date and related matters on each business card received so that it can be sorted and checked in the future

Check

When others have not yet Knowing that when you don’t care about them, it’s naturally impossible to care about you.

Tip 20: Don’t be stingy in expressing gratitude

One characteristic of successful people is that they are always grateful.

Treat all the friends who have supported you with a grateful heart, and take the initiative to express your sincere gratitude. Slowly

Slowly, you will find that not only your interpersonal relationships The more solid you become, the more others will follow your example.

Tip 21: No matter you know someone or not, as long as they can motivate or inspire you, you should sincerely thank them

Thank you

Praise them It does take a lot of courage to replace jealousy.

How does it feel when you are praised by others for coming up with a brilliant idea? Compare your feelings to others.

Whether it is a friend you know or do not know, as long as you can provide clear words Or those whose words and deeds are worthy of reference, don’t forget to say thank you to them with a smile.

Once you make this a habit, not only your career prospects, but also your outlook on life will be rewritten.

Tip 22: Express your gratitude to the other person by making phone calls, sending small cards, and giving small gifts at the right time

As long as you are willing to praise Others, you will be the biggest winner.

To irrigate a tree requires sufficient sunlight, water and nutrients, but to cultivate your evergreen tree of interpersonal relationships

relies on your continuous care, through phone calls Take care of the tree with small steps such as sending cards and gifts. But don't let it wither and die due to malnutrition.

Tip 23: Have your own dedicated letters, cards and notes

Handwritten letters are more intimate and give people a different feeling.

Want to build your own golden brand? Want to project a good professional image? Make a small investment and print some special stationery paper. It will feel more dignified when you want to send it to clients, colleagues or friends.

Tip 24: Gladly accept the thanks and assistance from others

From whether a person is willing to accept the thanks from others, you can get a glimpse of his skill in interpersonal relationships.

Tip 25: Establish a systematic and effective interpersonal network

This will more effectively improve your operational efficiency in interpersonal relationships.

Why do some people get twice the result with half the effort, while others get twice the result with half the effort? It's because there is no order in doing things.

No. 26: There is no outdated information on your business card

If you don’t have time to record new information every day, log in at least once a week to ensure the information

Tip 27: Set up an effective time management system

Time is not forgiving. We cannot ask for time to be suspended to match our pace, we can only try to catch up...

If you can control time, you can control everything.

Just to remind you, as long as you are willing to respect the work schedule you have set, others will not dare to take you on a business trip.

Once time and resources are completely in your hands, it will be more than enough to govern the country and bring peace to the world.

Tip 28: Review the day’s work schedule in detail every day

How to know whether you are getting closer to the road to success or whether you are spinning in circles? ...The best way is to "check out" every day to see how well the work schedule is being implemented.

If you check out once a day, your psychological burden will not be so heavy. Even if this is a huge project,

You can still feel the steady pace of progress.

Tip 29: Finish today’s work

Actually, time is nothing to manage, because there are 24 hours every day, what you should worry about is how to manage it

Thousands of plans to get a piece of this pie.

Never follow the example of a slow doctor and "pay debts to support debts", otherwise you will end up working overtime until midnight and still not be able to pay it off

Don't abuse your notepad, and don't put it off if you can solve it on the spot. Invisibly, your work efficiency will naturally increase.

The 30th tip must be to respond to all calls within 24 hours

If your business philosophy is "If you can postpone it until tomorrow, there is no need to rush to do it today", then you will probably be in trouble for the rest of your life.

It’s hard to get ahead.

Making it a habit to reply to all calls within 24 hours will ensure the smooth flow of information on your network.

Tip 31: Before picking up the microphone, think about what you are going to say later. There are four paths to success

Steps: act carefully and be prepared. Come, move forward and follow through.

Tip 32: Refuse unnecessary social interactions

If you waste time now, time will waste you in the future.

Tip 33: Plan properly before participating in social activities

As long as you are prepared for everything, even if your ancestors have no virtue, they can still prosper.

Tip 34: Take the initiative to seek support from others

You are in a harmonious society where all things exist, so fighting alone will not work.

Most people are willing to help, so as long as you think they won't be a hindrance, give them a chance

to show off.

Tip 35: When speaking, you should state your requirements simply and clearly, and it is not appropriate to show an aggressive attitude

How is the interpersonal network involved? Got up? It's very simple, just be willing to fight. When the other person is willing to endure it, this marriage is formed.

Tip 36: Whenever you get the chance, never forget to say this: "By the way, who among the people you know?

Who..."

Ask and it will be given to you.

Next time you hit a wall, take stock of your speaking skills to see if there is room for improvement. In fact, most people are willing to help others, so don't close the door of opportunity rashly.

Tip 37: You should act on the suggestions made by others as soon as you know them

Otherwise, after the three minutes of heat wears off, everything will be back to where it started. Talking without practice will not help.

Tip 38: Every time you talk to a friend, you will feel that you have benefited a lot

For those who know how to go with the flow, it may be difficult for them not to get ahead.

No. 39: Actively participate in various civil society organizations

By integrating into this big family, you not only build your own career, but also fulfill the dreams of many of your companions.

The merits are immeasurable.

When a group of people gather together for the same purpose, interpersonal relationships germinate.

Tip 40: Try to hold a position of real power within the association

Once you are promoted to a cadre, it means that you are a respected senior, rather than someone who just wants to come over

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Mediocre people who divide resources.

The 41st tip is to use your interpersonal network to handle other people’s requests

The most praised thing in the circle is that everyone is a winner, because the fruit of victory belongs to everyone. Personal.

If you want friends to lend a helping hand to you when you are down, the best way to deal with it is to invest more

more.

Tip 42: God is there when you raise your head three feet high, and there are people when you are three feet above your head

How to cultivate self-confidence? It's very simple, just pick those things that you are not good at... As long as you can break through your own defenses, attack boldly, and hold on for a while, you will definitely feel like eating sugar cane, and gradually Beautiful scene.

No. 43: Frequently evaluate your interpersonal network and continuously expand it

The establishment of interpersonal network requires persistence and is not something that can be done once and for all.

Tip 44: Trust your intuition

Listen to the cry of your heart and you will get all the answers.

Unless you think you are insensitive, there is no reason to ignore this voice from the depths of your soul; let

let it lead you, and you will be able to grasp the situation as soon as possible and understand the surroundings All the troubles.

Tip 45: For every ally in the interpersonal network, we will do our best to help them rise step by step

Maintaining the interpersonal network requires sincerity and patience.

You should cultivate your strength by supporting allies and build a building on this solid foundation. It will only be a matter of time before a "win-win" situation is created

Just a problem.

Tip 46: Provide first-class service to your friends

Even if you are not involved in the service industry, there are still many opportunities to serve others.

You must first establish your own brand and let people in your interpersonal circle know that you are a reliable person.

In this way, they will be happy to make this kind of investment. , because they know you’ll give back even more in the future.

Tip 47: Like to listen to friends

Having normal hearing does not mean knowing how to listen.

The art of listening is: listen patiently to what others are saying, and don’t get it wrong!

Tip 48: Have noble integrity and professionalism

If you speak without hesitation, there will be endless troubles.

Interpersonal relationships are indeed very useful, but they must not be abused. As long as you show high moral integrity and professionalism in your dealings with others, even your enemies will be convinced of you and respect you to the fullest.

Tip 49: Face every opportunity of "making connections" with an open mind

The difference between great men and ordinary people is that the former can respect everyone, including those who don't have enough to eat. tramp.

Top 50: Laying out a watertight and huge "intelligence network"

A benevolent person who can bring fame to others will surely go down in history forever.

When you become a jingle person, it means you have more resources to invite others to share, and this "virtuous cycle" continues.

Isn't this great!

Tip 51: Use your interpersonal network to develop yourself, benefit others, achieve your career, and change your life

If you need a bridge to communicate between your public and private life areas Whether you have it or not, that’s your network.

Tip 52: Think about interpersonal relationships at all times

A sword will become rusty and dull if it is not used. If everyone can make the use of interpersonal relationships a habit, Then

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And encourage them to do the same.

Tip 54: Use a network of interpersonal relationships to cover the whole world

There are so many interpersonal networks in this world that almost everyone is connected by an umbilical cord.

Tip 55: Integrate interpersonal relationships into an indispensable part of life

You are in a harmonious society where all things exist, so it is okay to go it alone. It doesn’t make sense.

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