1, I think the most important thing is to let mm see your self-motivated.
The greatest charm of a man lies in his successful career. Young people can't be "successful" if they don't work long hours. At this time, you should make mm feel that you are a self-motivated person.
Others can talk nonsense, but this question cannot be vague. You must tell mm that you are full of confidence in the future, that you are not satisfied with the status quo, and that you have a long-term plan. In a word, your future is not a dream.
2. Be confident and responsible.
Don't be a child. Girls are lazy and want to find someone to rely on. You should show your confidence and sense of responsibility.
It's better to have a wrong choice than no choice at all.
Not too formal, but not too casual.
Be serious where you should be serious, and ridicule when you should be ridiculed.
Girls like men who are a little cynical, so it seems that they don't care about anything, which is too dull.
Step 4 look mature
A leisurely man has fatal attraction to mm.
Second, how to further contact mm (time: the stage of starting to chase)
1, the most important thing at this stage is not to worry, not to make things so clear that people can see at a glance that you are chasing others.
Think about it. Most people don't like you at first sight, but they don't hate you at first sight. They are all children of ordinary people (unless you look like Chow Yun Fat, Andy Lau or kevin costner). Good feelings need to be realized through constant understanding, so the key to the problem is the opportunity for further development you want.
Think about it from the girl's point of view: if you rush directly to have sex, the girl must be under psychological pressure. If I find that I don't like you after a while, it won't be a lie, will it? So if you come out resolutely from the beginning, you will basically be bored back immediately.
Step 2 start with a low profile
First of all, we should position the relationship as a "friend", which is originally an "ordinary friend". You want to be a "good friend". Those with taste can also ask the other party to be a "confidante" or something. In short, don't say "chasing you".
Think about it, if you don't mention "chasing" at all, then there is less chance for a girl to "refuse" you-how can you refuse if you don't chase her? !
This can relieve the psychological pressure of girls and let you have a smooth relationship. Don't fantasize about agreeing to marry you after three days. You should communicate fully and understand that feelings don't come out of thin air.
Don't be too impatient in the process of communication.
Relax and don't pester others all day. Anyone who does this to you will get tired of it. A good friend of mine told me that the key to chasing girls is eight words-"hot and cold, playing hard to get" (this is the crystallization of my classmates' efforts for many years).
Staying with people all day, naturally you won't think you are good. If you are indifferent for a day or two, girls will remember the benefits of your existence.
Also, don't take out the ambition of "you don't want to marry" It is not good for the price to drop too low. Sometimes you can play a little trick.
4. Create opportunities appropriately.
I said before, don't turn things into "you are chasing others" right away, you need to get close to girls. At this time, it depends on your creativity.
You can collect information and find ways to turn waiting for rabbits into encounters; You can also pretend to be casual and find the best reason to invite someone to do something with you.
In short, this is the most technical place. If it is really not feasible, you can consult your predecessors.
5. Never: It is impolite to give gifts to others casually.
Some people are eager to chase girls and like to buy things for others often, but they don't know that chasing girls is the most taboo.
As the saying goes, "something for nothing". You are putting pressure on others by giving them something like this. People will feel indebted to you, so they will find ways to repay you. If they can't, they will find a way not to associate with you, so they won't always owe you a favor.
If you want to show your sincerity, please invite girls to spend money together, such as finding a good restaurant to eat or an expensive place to play together. Girls can naturally see that you spent a lot of money, but after all, the money was spent by two people, not taken home.
Third, what is a "girlfriend"?
1, "girlfriend" is a fact, not a promise.
You start dating girls, from "ordinary friends" to "good friends" to "very, very good friends who talk about everything". On a sunny afternoon, you "accidentally" held her hand; In "Willow Shoot on the Moon", you suddenly attack and kiss her. At this time, she is already your girlfriend. Whether she admits it or not, she already thinks you are her boyfriend.
I know the best. It was not until * * * that I asked "Would you like to be my girlfriend?". Finally, the girl was anxious: "Why don't you ask me to be your girlfriend!" "
So, don't rush to pierce enough paper, the more hazy the situation, the better for you.
2. What is "confession"?
As I said before, confession is actually just a form, and the correct order should be: in fact, you have become your girlfriend, and you can confess to others. Many people don't understand this problem. They always feel that people promise to be their girlfriends first, and then what? I can only say that he is very, very "simple" and very, very "stupid".
3. Have you ever had to confess?
Yes, for example, there is a third party, or your relationship with a girl is immature, but two people may be separated for a while.
At this time, confession is an immature confession, which is very risky. It is similar to the grim situation when playing Go. The backward side was forced to release the "winning hand". If you win, you win. If you lose, you can only say that you are born with bad luck.
4. Don't export the word "love" easily.
I often see a "bold confession" in the forum. To be honest, I really think this is a very immature performance. "Love" is a sacred word, which means pursuit, commitment and even a responsibility.
A man who casually says "love" is irresponsible.
Fourth, civilized love cannot be forced.
1, not every mm can catch up.
A good girl will always be chased by many people, and it is impossible to satisfy everyone's wishes. There will always be losers. For example, even if you study hard and master the principle of chasing mm, you can't catch up with either twin.
Look at the problem from another angle. Even if a rural nanny who has never graduated from primary school is kind to you, earning 600 yuan a month and buying you 700 yuan as a gift (overdraft), and willing to be a cow and a horse for you, you will not fall in love with her. If she cries and pesters you every day, you must feel bored.
So love needs a material foundation, at least a balance.
2. Chasing mm is a serious social activity.
Don't bother others, leave yourself a way out. Why don't men have wives? Some MMS are snobs (few). If you are not convinced, you can prove with facts that "she was blind at that time". Never mistake others for yourself.
Finally, don't be cynical in front of MM, cynicism sometimes means "you are a loser"
From a girl's point of view, most girls will not take the initiative to pursue the boys they like, unless they really like them too much or are the kind of girls who are very individual and brave. So, if you like a girl very much and think she is a little interested in you, take the initiative and don't engage in a tug-of-war with her, you will feel uncomfortable. Maybe the person you like will also suffer. ?
When girls are being chased, their psychology is very complicated. She may be happy, but she is a little scared. She has ambivalence towards the boy who intruded into her quiet life. She didn't mean to. Don't think she is testing you, but she is actually fighting herself. She is afraid of getting hurt. ?
Don't be afraid that your initiative will bring her disgust. If you don't take the initiative, she won't take the initiative, and it will fade slowly. It's normal if your initial confession is rejected by her. Don't be discouraged, who knows what this girl is thinking? ?
Maybe if you confess twice, she will be moved by you. A good girl with a kind heart is easily moved. ?
If you encounter setbacks, leave immediately, never reply to this girl again, protect yourself tightly and lick the wound silently. And when you are in pain, as everyone knows, that girl may be regretting, regretting! Maybe she will secretly cry and regret rejecting you, and then she will be sad to see your indifferent eyes, but she won't tell you, and she will never let you come back to chase her. Your excessive self-esteem may hurt a girl's sensitive heart. ?
She will think that you don't really like him, otherwise how could you just give her up? ?
Some people say that it is really difficult for boys and it is not easy to chase girls. But my feeling is that this phenomenon is inseparable from the social role orientation of men and women. From a physiological and social point of view, women are always passive. If, on the other hand, men are ashamed and women are brave, the world will be in a mess! Women's shyness is always beautiful ~ ~ ~ I always hear that a brave man overcame many difficulties and finally won the heart of a beautiful woman. There are few examples to the contrary. ?
Some boys are afraid that others will say that they are dead and pester them to fight, leaving a bad reputation. But I think boys pursue the girl they like and continue to be nice to this girl after encountering some setbacks, which shows that people really like it and are sincere. If it doesn't work, there's nothing to regret. It's nothing. Who makes people like it? I hate people blindly following me, and I hate boys who have no opinions and care too much about what others think of them. They deserve not to find a girlfriend.
Although you work hard, once your heart touches her, you will get more and more love. Such examples abound around us. Girls are gentle and considerate to their boyfriends. What was the sweetness of the original hard work? And most good girls are devoted and single-minded. ?
Therefore, it is suggested that some boys be brave and pursue the girls they like, instead of being so timid. On the one hand, people feel that you are unmanly, on the other hand, people feel uncomfortable. However, the most important thing is that happiness is always earned by yourself. Don't expect others.
The first key to chasing girls is sincerity, and insincerity can only cause bitter results for yourself and others. Second, don't be too reluctant. The third is to be smart. Generally speaking, you can't say "I love you" on Lulu's first date-girls will be shocked ... the means of chasing different types of girls are different. There are the following methods:
(1) Go after that silent and arrogant girl.
There are many such girls, and friends often meet them. At first glance, it seems quite difficult. In fact, such girls are indifferent in appearance and often fanatical in heart. They generally like boys who are a little wild. If you are a gentle boy with poor looks and less possibility, you'd better choose another beautiful woman. If others say you are "so cool!" Then you hope big! If your first invitation is not rejected, then you must not miss the opportunity! They may be extremely careless about you at first. At this time, we must not be discouraged. You must persist, even be stubborn. It's a good idea to watch movies, dance, skate and go to her usual study room. Be sure to find more opportunities to express yourself, a lot (of course, I love you until the last time, hehe) ... For this type of girl, your true feelings are very attractive. This kind of girl usually takes a long time to pursue. If you are about to graduate or leave school now, it seems best not to start, so as not to waste ... hehe. But after catching up, she will generally be dead set, and you will be on cloud nine and feel that you are the happiest BF in the world! Ha ha.
(2) Girls who pursue romantic fantasies
If you really like such a girl, let me remind you first-you are going to taste the ups and downs! It seems that this kind of girl pursues spirit more than material things. Actually, it's just the opposite. Romance needs money to build. If you don't have enough financial resources, I hope you'd better reconsider. Because she likes romantic things, flowers and chocolates, you'd better send more gifts to touch her heartstrings. If you want to catch up with this kind of girl, don't be stingy with your little money. Except the moon in the sky and ... (What? I don't remember. //Shy) As long as she wants it, you should try your best to get it. Ordinary roses and snacks are even more subtle ... In short, if you want to chase such a girl, you must cultivate the ability to read the girl's mind. Don't forget to bribe her roommate and classmates. They will tell you a lot of useful information. You should consider your own skirt. Don't be rustic all day. After catching up with a girl, you can safely show your true colors, because you are no longer rustic in her eyes. Haha) you should go to romantic places to play with her, such as spring outing, dance and reading love stories ... she will gradually be inseparable from your care, haha! Although such a girl costs you a lot of money, it will also bring you a lot of wonderful fun. As long as you really like it, you can still live happily.
(3) Chasing a gentle and considerate girl
This kind of girl is very devoted. Once she becomes your GF, she will take care of you, be gentle and amiable, and let you feel the warmth and reliability of love. If you can catch up with this kind of girl, theoretically you will become the most comfortable man. This kind of girl should be easy to chase (also suitable for all kinds of boys), as long as she doesn't hate you, you are worthy of her. Now let's talk about maids? First of all, you should pay more attention to her in life and study. You don't need any material things, but you need a heartfelt concern to show up when she needs help. (Here is a reminder: you must observe more at ordinary times and find a good opportunity to start. Of course, if you are a romantic, it is foolproof to send flowers and gifts on holidays. At first, you can give something of a friendly nature until you think it can be expressed (for example, when she looks at it). If you are not going to be so extravagant, you can reveal something in the chat after self-study on weekdays. When the time is right, you will suddenly say something like "It feels good to be with you". If she doesn't shy away, you can strike while the iron is hot and say what you have long wanted to say. The best time is at night: people's defense ability is weak at night. If she starts to avoid it, don't force it, you can care silently again. Until she was moved. BTW: If you don't have much contact with her at ordinary times, you'll have your eyes on her without her knowing you. You can pretend to meet her through friends like her, and then deepen your impression through several "encounters" in the same study room, and then you can start. Don't think that this kind of girl is honest and safe to catch up with. Actually, it depends on someone. Once you meet some girls,
(4) the cute girl who chases the fire.
This kind of girls seem to like a lot of people, and they are often the first to have BF in the new environment, not because they are easy to chase, but because they are.
Always in the active position. Don't take risks? If she likes you, too, it will be easy. Contact her more, show love occasionally, and she will be close to your goal in sync with you. If she doesn't like you (worse, she likes another person), don't lose heart. As long as you still have a chance, you must fight for it (of course, you are just ordinary to her, so it is not necessary). You can exist with her in the form of friendship first. Your humor and open-mindedness are very important, so that she can still think of you on her way back. If the person she likes is not interested in her, you can take your time until she compares you with him. At this time, you can take obvious strategies to make her really become your GF. If she and he like each other, there may be some unsuspecting people after F, so you should tell "Please! She belongs to me! " The result should be optimistic.
(5) Chasing hysterical girls
The typical feature of this kind of girl is that her feelings are exposed, and she can cry if she wants to. smile happily often makes people feel a little ridiculous. This kind of girl is also pursued.
Old friends feel strange, but I heard that love is often blind. After seeing the emotional experience of friends around him, oldfriend understands the meaning of this sentence better. Crazy girls are like wild horses. If you don't think you have enough ability to control them, you don't have to consider chasing them. Choose another one. If you feel good about yourself, it's an attempt. First of all, you should give her the impression that you are awesome (whether it is T or F, haha). If you think she deserves to be accused of stealing people's love, you can make a final blow before they confide in each other. At this time, opportunities are very important. You should observe carefully and make good use of them when they have contradictions and misunderstandings (it doesn't seem too ... haha). (Generally, girls don't have other ideas when they catch up, haha) This kind of girl has B). Let her worship you. Before catching up with the past, you'd better sum up your expertise and design the time of the exhibition so that she can look at you with new eyes unconsciously. After a good start, we can launch an all-round attack. You don't have to be embarrassed at all. Just ask her out more (you can choose a friend who is not handsome but not stronger than you) and show your manners more, and her heart will slowly move closer to you. Don't catch her at once, or it will come and go quickly. You should try to get her into a trap. Your task is to create as many opportunities as possible to contact and show your talents. Wait until her heart suits you completely, and then make it clear slowly-oh, you like her, too. Ha ha!
(6) Chasing girls older than themselves
It is a common problem for college students to like girls older than themselves, and it is a fine tradition for couples to like women older than men.
Novice, there is no need to panic in this situation. Go! But in the process of pursuing, we must pay attention to the following points:
Never act like a little boy. Even a truly mature woman wants to be spoiled rather than spoiled. When you encounter difficulties or problems, you must take the lead and don't ask her to protect you. Your subjective judgment is very important. Don't act like a parrot in front of the girl you like.
B: "I am mentally older than you" should be your mantra when she has an idea. Let her feel that this is really more realistic than her biological age.
C: You must never have the idea that "she is older than me" in your heart, and you should forget this when chasing her.
A wonderful way to chase women.
The first trick-cheating:
Chasing girls doesn't mean you shouldn't be sincere. In fact, some deception is inevitable. I don't know what to say. Women are sometimes stupid animals. I'm not slandering women. Men are sometimes stupid. ) Some lies often make her believe that others will find it ridiculous, but don't forget that if you tell the truth, she will be unhappy, even hate you or stay away from you, so it will be difficult for you to pursue her. For example, this girl doesn't like you to linger in some places. If you had gone yesterday, today she asked you what happened yesterday. Can you tell her? (However, it depends. You can tell her from the beginning that you are "honest" with her. Therefore, in this case, sweet talk is an inevitable weapon. What matters is how you express it. For example, I would like to spend every minute of my life with you if I can. The content of this paragraph really cannot be carefully considered. I had to tell her because it was impossible. It's not completely unrealistic for me to teach you. It's time to talk.
The second trick-NO+6
Psychologists have verified that robbing someone else's boyfriend (or girlfriend) is more attractive than chasing one yourself. Although everyone says verbally that they don't want to be a third party, they subconsciously want to try the predatory feeling of the third party. Therefore, at the beginning, you can tell the girl you want to chase that you are already taken. On the one hand, you can be sure of your value to her, indicating that you are not redundant; On the other hand, you can relax her vigilance. After all, if a girl is wary of you, it is even harder for you to chase her. At that time, you can tell the other person that you broke up, or tell her that you can't help liking her, and you have lost your previous feelings for your girlfriend. I believe she can feel it. But it should be noted that girls will not like to be substitutes, which should be remembered. The third measure-a diversion:
Sometimes, when you don't know how to start after seeing the ideal object, my suggestion is that you can pretend to tell her that you want to chase a girl, but you don't know how to chase her, and let her be your strategist or staff officer. Of course, at first, you must never show off silk's interesting behavior towards her. She will think about how you should chase her according to her own experience or thoughts, because a person's thinking mode often alludes to herself, so she is equivalent to revealing a good way of "how to chase her". Later, you can slowly "unconsciously" like her, which depends on yourself. As the saying goes, "the master leads the door, and the practice is in the individual." If you don't think it's appropriate for you to go out alone, otherwise you can ask a friend who she knows and pretend to ask her and tell you the result.
The fourth trick-stealing dragons and turning them into phoenixes:
Chasing girls is not smooth sailing. The biggest fear is that girls will be more or less wary of you when both sides are unfamiliar at first. Therefore, if this happens, my personal suggestion is to take a back seat and have a "sworn" relationship with the other party, that is, the relationship between a dry sister and a dry brother. Surely this relationship will not be rejected by the other party? In this case, it is much more convenient to find someone to go out, and it is not easy for them to escape, is it? "Cultivate feelings!" Don't you think so? The next words are up to you! The fifth trick-playing hard to get:
Personally, I'm not against stalking, but sometimes it's good to give each other some breathing space. Some girls don't have to put too much pressure on her, or the other person may be afraid, because when people get along with each other, if they are bored together, they won't see the importance of each other, and only after losing them will they know whether the other person is valuable to them. For example, when chasing a girl encounters a bottleneck, or after you have missed, you can stop first, and during this time, try to restrain yourself from disturbing her. Remember, I don't mean a year or two. I think she might forget you, and then you try to get close to her and observe her reaction. If she is cold to you (maybe she wants you to stay away from her because you ignore her or she is not interested in you at all), if it is the latter, you may have to ask for help yourself. If not, congratulations, the other party will not lose feelings for you. If you say you can't see how she treats you, don't worry, some clues will be found. Be careful, I believe you can find them.
The sixth trick-distant breeding and attack:
In fact, in the process of chasing girls, the woman's friends are often the key to winning. Sometimes it is obvious that she is catching up, but it is only a small step. Isn't it irritating? So! The advice of the other friend is often more credible and effective than what you say. So, you should at least work hard on each other's girlfriends. I'm not asking you to please them, but to make them feel good about you, so that they won't hold you back or even put in a good word for you in your pursuit. Don't underestimate it, it is more effective than what you say! Come on! The seventh measure-take drastic measures:
In fact, this passage should be written in the front, and you will understand after reading it. There are usually two reasons why a girl will refuse you. One is that you are not sincere enough. In other words, she doubts whether you have the heart to be with her after all. Second, there is no feeling. What do you mean, no feeling? If you haven't known each other for a long time and neither of you knows each other well enough, it may be that your appearance can't satisfy her. She was afraid of stabbing you, so she said she didn't feel anything. After all, when people meet for the first time, the first impression of appearance is the most important. If you are already friends who are familiar with each other, the meaning of not feeling will include the factors that the other party thinks you two can't get along.
Therefore, if you feel that your exterior can't attract each other, you should impress her with your sincerity and show your other advantages in time to attract each other. After all, appearance can't completely determine everything, and everything else must be supplemented by yourself. It's best to find out your interests. Even if you don't know, at least you should know this information. You can look through the books or ask others. Your chat talk is also more topical, right? She won't refuse you.
If you think your external conditions are not bad, you might as well give her a sense of security. When I say security, I don't mean that she will think that you will protect her, but I am afraid that you will be taken away by others or that you will dislike her. After all, it is difficult for a handsome boy to make a girl feel safe, so you should make her believe in you, win her trust, and make her believe that you are sincere to her, even if other girls try to approach you, you will not be moved by it. After all, there is no room for a grain of sand in your emotional eyes.
I forgot to mention a very important point. Before choosing the other half, some people tend to pursue it blindly. Actually, this is not right. Don't go after her just because you are satisfied with her appearance. Before chasing each other, you might as well stop and see if your personalities match. Maybe you don't know her yet, but if it's easy to see the difference, do you think you should chase her? Not that she is bad, but that you will regret it later. Because, even if you catch up, it's hard to divide your personality, right? My personal suggestion is "if the other person is a boy, you won't choose her as your friend, so don't chase her." . 』