What about children stealing? We all know that stealing is certainly wrong. This kind of behavior violates the principle of being a man. It is illegal to steal when you grow up, which will make children develop the habit of getting something for nothing. But as parents, we should know how to guide our children to solve this problem. Now let's learn more about how children steal!
How do children steal things? 1 Stealing is a common phenomenon in early childhood. Many parents will be surprised and depressed when they first find their children stealing, and they will be severely educated for fear that their children will develop this bad habit and harm others and themselves when they grow up. However, some drastic measures taken by parents will have adverse effects. Children steal things, you should learn to educate them like this:
After you find out that your child is stealing, angry anger often comes out and you can't get a good result at all. We hope that parents should first ensure that they are not in a state of anger, disappointment and surprise, control their emotions, don't label their children as "thieves" casually, and don't be negligent. Let nature take its course and settle down to start your teaching work. After all, childhood theft rarely has serious problems. You should first consider what the child's intention is to steal.
Some children steal money from their parents when they see other children buying candy or going to the movies and their pocket money is not enough. Parents should first reflect on whether they often unreasonably refuse some legitimate demands of their children. If so, they should try their best to provide appropriate pocket money. If the child is unreasonable, it is necessary to transfer the child's interest to something that the economic conditions allow. Some only children often can't tell the moral bottom line. They are self-centered, and think that any demands of themselves should be met immediately. They don't have a plan, they don't consider the consequences, and they don't know the difference between borrowing and stealing. We can understand this mentality, but parents should correct the theft in time. In this case, parents should explain the consequences of their actions to their children and instill correct moral concepts. And some children who are often neglected by their families are more likely to develop the habit of stealing. Most of these children steal because their parents neglect to take care of them, in order to attract their parents' attention and fill the void of losing their parents' love. At this time, parents should pay more attention to their children and try to understand them. Of course, there are also some adventurous children who try to prove their ability by stealing. What parents should do most is to correct this childish idea. Children live with their parents. If parents can't behave themselves and covet petty advantages, children will actively steal and imitate.
It is a bad habit for children to steal. Parents should give full care and understanding to these children, give appropriate subsidies economically, instill correct concepts in their children on the moral level, and give their children the warmth of family affection psychologically. Parents must review themselves and set a good example. In the face of children's childish behavior, you should return the things stolen by children to their original owners in time, let them apologize on their own initiative, and let them know from their hearts that stealing is incorrect and immoral behavior will naturally be corrected.
How do children steal things? There are many reasons why children steal things.
First, children can't control their behavior.
Younger children have some difficulties in self-control. Even if he knows that stealing is wrong, he may take something, just because he can't control himself. Parents must train their children to acquire the required abilities in an honest way. At the same time, parents should also try to reduce material temptations.
Second, children's basic needs have not been met.
For a child who has no financial ability, food, clothing, housing and transportation depend entirely on his parents. If children feel that their needs are not met, they will eventually choose to do it themselves. The simplest solution is to "get what you need".
People's needs come from subjective thoughts. Although parents may think that children will not pursue material things, it does not mean that children really have no requirements. For example, all his friends at school have pocket money, and he definitely wants it himself. If a child has no pocket money, he will feel lost even if he has everything else. If you can't resist the temptation, this type of child is likely to steal money. Only in this way can he have pocket money like everyone else.
Third, children need more care.
Children feel that there is a lack of affection and care in their lives-this may be the reason why children steal more often. If children's emotional needs are ignored, they will feel empty inside, and stealing may fill this gap. Children who have the habit of stealing are usually lonely, popular at school and have problems getting along with friends. They lack channels and opportunities to express their feelings.
Many children don't get the kind of care they want. They feel that no one loves them or that their parents don't care about them. This may be true, or it may be the child's imagination. In How to Improve Children's Behavior, the author once mentioned that how children perceive this concern is more important than how much parents care. Children who can't perceive the care of their parents may turn emotional needs into material desires. Stealing has become a way for them to express their dissatisfaction and meet their needs.
Fourth, children want to be masters of their own lives.
Children have a very strong feeling about their weaknesses. They lack the ability to control their own lives. Some children do have difficulties in this respect. If there is something wrong with the child's sense of dependence, he may steal something. Only in this way can they gain a sense of control or resistance.
Fifth, peer pressure.
Older teenagers like to imitate the behavior of their friends. If he hangs out with a group of children who seek excitement by stealing, he will join in stealing in order to become a member of the group. Sometimes, children may steal things to show their so-called bravery to their partners. Parents need to take many concrete measures if their children are entangled with a group of delinquent teenagers. In this regard, you can refer to the article "How to deal with young people's casual friends".
(2) What should parents do if they suspect that their children are stealing?
First of all, stay calm.
Don't overreact. Although a child commits theft, it doesn't mean that he becomes a thief or turns to a criminal career, running all the way. Stealing is actually no different from other mistakes made by children.
Second, don't think that children are deliberately opposed.
Being taken care of is one of the motives for children to steal. If parents think that children steal from themselves deliberately, then the chances of children stealing will be further strengthened.
Third, don't scold children, and don't face them face to face.
This point needs special emphasis-parents must catch their children stealing on the spot. Only in this way can the truth speak for itself.
Never expose children to circumstantial evidence. There are only two results: one is that the child cheats his parents or is forced to lie, and the other is that he admits to stealing. If the child admits his mistake, but the parents punish him, the parents instill in the child the idea that lying is worth it. In both cases, parents will be deadlocked in solving problems, so indirect evidence is useless.
It's no help to hear that children are stealing. If the child denies this, parents will have to believe him. If parents question it, it means showing their children that they don't trust him.
There is nothing like knowing that parents don't believe in themselves to make children dishonest. Parents can't punish a child if he admits his mistake.
Even if parents are completely sure that their children are stealing, it is unwise to scold them. For example, when parents checked their wallets, they found that the 50 yuan money they had just taken from the bank yesterday was gone, and when they packed their children's clothes, they found that there was brand-new money hidden in it. However, parents didn't catch their children stealing on the spot. It is very likely that someone else lost a brand-new 50 yuan and the child happened to find it. It is also possible that the parents accidentally lost the money and the children just picked it up. Parents can't find the theft unless they witness their children dig out their wallets and take 50 yuan away.
Fourth, make sure that children know what they are doing is wrong. This is especially important for young children.
(3) What should parents do if they catch their children stealing?
Don't let the child explain, just tell him not to take other people's things casually. Tired and trite preaching is not good, just give a few simple examples.
For example, "stealing is wrong. Of course you don't want others to take away your toys. So you are doing something wrong by taking away other people's toys. "
Never use words to hint at a child's misconduct. Stealing is a bad behavior, but children themselves are lovely. Never use words like "thief", "liar" and "liar" to describe your child. You never want him to be like this. When you label a child with a certain type, he will gradually develop in this direction.
(4) How to correct the wrong behavior of stealing?
First, if children steal things outside: children must return their own things to others.
If a child steals from a store or a neighbor's house, parents must supervise him to return the goods after the incident. Asking the child to apologize shows that he will never make such a mistake again. When apologizing, parents should accompany their children to make it easier for them to correct their mistakes.
Second, if a child steals money from his parents, estimate how much money he has taken and make it clear to him that the money must be returned.
Children can pay back their money by helping with housework. The "salary" parents give their children should be enough for him to pay off the money within one month. Tell the child's parents that he needs more pocket money, give him some money or increase the amount of pocket money.
Third, hide material temptation: don't put money where children can easily find it.
Tell your children's brothers and sisters that you should keep their pocket money temporarily, but don't explain to them the specific reasons. Don't let your child go to the store with large bills to buy things for you, because the clerk will give him a lot of change.
Fourth, let bygones be bygones: find out the root cause of children's theft.
If a child needs more attention, parents should pay more attention to him. If children are eager to control their own lives, parents need to give them more pocket money and more control. If a child needs something to integrate with his peers around him, buy it for him.
Fifth, trust children as always: stealing does not mean that children are of poor quality or misbehavior.
Parents don't want their children to overreact to things and go to extremes. Children will meet the expectations of their families when they grow up. If parents regard their children as people who like petty theft, misbehave or often lie, then children are likely to become the people described by their parents.
Sixth, parents should set an honest example: children learn to be human by observing their parents' every move.
Parents should pay attention to protecting other people's property ownership. If parents always take office supplies home for private use, or are often complacent because of the miscalculation of the supermarket checkout counter, children will feel that honesty is not important.
(5) Conclusion
Child theft is a common problem. Like other mistakes made by children, parents should treat this problem with a normal heart. This wrong behavior must be corrected, but it must never be overcorrected. If parents can take appropriate measures, it can be said that it is easy to solve the problem of children being stolen quickly.