Wen Zhangma

Editor Zhang Ma

As the old saying goes, "Many friends lead many roads, but few enemies block the wall", it is natural for parents to hope that their children can make many intimate friends when they are young, so that their children can have a "good relationship".

However, not every child can have such a "good relationship". Some children have many good friends since childhood, and they are also willing to help others. People around them will lend a helping hand when they are in trouble. Some children are withdrawn from childhood and don't know how to share happiness with others, let alone care about others' emotions. They have no friends and are unpopular. The reason why these two kinds of children are so polarized depends entirely on their parents' education.

Harvard University, a world-famous university, once selected nearly a thousand kindergarten children to make a follow-up survey. The survey results show that children's social performance as children will directly affect their future social circle.

In fact, it is not difficult to see in our life that every time a child with good popularity gathers friends for a party or dinner, many people often express their willingness to participate, and many people will respond when chatting with friends, but a child with poor popularity is not satisfactory.

Generally speaking, when children are -3 years old, the most important social interaction is still based on parent-child relationship, but after children are three years old, the social circle is changed to classmates and partnership is the main one.

Normally, when children are 1-2 years old, they will begin to be willing to contact other children, and they already have the initial social skills. At this time, parents should pay attention to it and begin to cultivate their children's social skills.

When children are in kindergarten, there may be many problems: they are bullied by their classmates and are unwilling to communicate with each other; It is even possible that children bully their classmates and don't like to communicate with them.

Parents must guide their children well, and must not underestimate the problems their children encounter in social interaction. Only by cultivating their children's correct social skills from an early age can they get through the "social difficulties".

Social competence is actually composed of many factors. Parents can focus on cultivating children's four qualities to enhance their social competence.

as we all know, a person who is willing to share happiness with others is always the most popular.

As parents, we should cultivate the quality that children are willing to share from an early age, so that children can understand that sharing is a virtue from an early age. When children share with others or with themselves, they should express their gratitude to their children and let them know that sharing can be appreciated by others and that children will be willing to share.

If a child wants to become a social leader in the social circle, he must learn how to "win people's hearts". The best way to win people's hearts is to help others and lend them a helping hand when they are in danger. The other person will naturally think that this person is worth making friends.

"Helpfulness" is a fine virtue of the Chinese nation. Helpful children are definitely representatives of "brave, reliable and true friends" among their partners, and will be more popular.

Do we often meet people who can't talk in our daily life? They can often silence the people who had been chatting with each other in one sentence. We commonly call these people "ice kings".

Language expression is a very important ability. Parents should train their children to use some polite expressions at an early age, and let them learn how to praise others. How to praise others without exaggeration and deliberate? Children who can express themselves in language can often make a friend through a few conversations.

But if children can't express their inner thoughts perfectly, they should learn not to talk. Listening more and interrupting less is also a kind of wisdom. When you see others willing to talk to you, you should summon up courage to talk to them.

It is not difficult for children to learn sincerity. We prefer to believe that every child has a pure heart since childhood, and they are ready to help others and treat others sincerely.

What parents should do is to set a good example for their children from an early age, to train them to be sincere and reliable people, to seek truth from facts in everything, and to make them be sincere and reliable people.

As the saying goes, "When you get the word, you can get more help, but when you get the word, you can't get much help." This wise saying is very popular in our country. If parents want their children to have a better life in the future, they should cultivate their social skills from the age of 3 and let them make more friends.