Discuss the topic of mental health of middle school students with your classmates. Health includes three aspects:
First, good health;
Second, mental health;
Third, it has good social adaptability.
In real life, mental health is often more important than physical health. In recent years, many domestic middle school students' mental health surveys show that there are different degrees of mental illness among middle school students, and the proportion is about 10~20%. Among them, 3%-6% students have serious mental illness. Eventually lead to some campus malignant events. Now, let's review some typical cases that happened on campus in recent years due to students' psychological problems: (Please note)
1.In August, 2005, Xu Li, a junior high school student in Shenyang 14, was too strict with her mother and beat her biological mother to death in a rage.
2. In May 2007, a boy from Grade One and Grade Three in Jinhua City, Zhejiang Province killed his biological father because of a quarrel between his parents;
3. In June 2008, 1 1, a girl from Hongshi Middle School in Dongfeng County, Jilin Province committed suicide by cutting her neck because of emotional problems.
4. In April 2009, a boy and a girl from China Communication University both jumped from the 13 building and died because of emotional problems. Happened around us:
5.20 10, Sanxingkou junior high school, wooden stool junior high school, because I can't stand being bullied by others, I feel resentful and kill people;
6. A few days ago, a girl in a vocational school and a class in Grade Two committed suicide by taking poison because of emotional problems; ? In addition to the cases I just listed, there are many phenomena that middle school students often report on TV, such as jumping off buildings, taking drugs and self-mutilation. What does this mean? This shows that it is particularly important for students to have a healthy psychology. Next, I will discuss the mental health problems of middle school students with my classmates from six aspects:
First, how to be a "beautiful" middle school student (beautiful in quotation marks)
For the appearance of middle school students, the Ministry of Education has regulations: no perm, no makeup, no jewelry and no high heels. (The new "Code of Daily Behavior for Middle School Students" also specifically added the content of not dyeing hair. Perm, makeup and jewelry are not unsightly, but what age, occasion and status they belong to. From the point of view of physical development, perm, hair dyeing and makeup are not suitable for you in the growth and development period. However, many of our classmates still dyed colorful hair. I don't know about you. Anyway, I didn't feel beautiful after reading it. I just thought of the word "alternative", which is more associated with the red hairy monster in ghost stories. It is human nature to love beauty. There is nothing wrong with dressing up with personality, but as a middle school student, you should have a positive aesthetic view. Personality is beautiful, but morbid, special and unusual. There is nothing wrong with loving beauty, and there is nothing wrong with pursuing beauty. The key is to understand what the beauty in your heart is. If a person has no knowledge, culture, self-restraint, morality and quality, the more enchanting his appearance is, the more disgusting he is. So inner beauty is the most important thing. Therefore, I would like to make the following suggestions to my classmates:
1. Dressing cleanly, neatly and appropriately will make you look youthful and bright.
2. gfd should be decent, dignified and generous, so as to show your elegant temperament.
3. Pay attention to your manners and grasp the details in order to gain the respect and love of others. For example, in our campus, there will always be such a group of people: they look alike, but they swear and spit everywhere; Shouting in the corridor during class, boys and girls chasing slap in the face, get carried away; Running around like a rabbit; In public places, smoking, smoking and so on? Students, is this beautiful? Personally, I think this is a "psychopath"
4. Have noble personality and knowledge? Noble personality is the natural expression of noble temperament from the heart. This temperament has nothing to do with your birth class, with the rich and the poor, with the height of your figure and the beauty and ugliness of your appearance. It is characterized by kindness, morality, love and sympathy; Don't bow to power, don't betray your conscience for profit; Have the ability to distinguish right from wrong, be consistent in words and deeds and be honest. Maybe we can't do all this, and we can't do it well, but at least we must have the desire to be close to noble personality and work hard. You didn't see the shortcomings of others, and you didn't lose anything; If you don't learn the advantages of others, you will lose an opportunity to improve yourself. At present, some of our classmates are not strong enough in distinguishing right from wrong. When they see that others eat well, dress fashionably and spend generously, they learn from others and compare with others, regardless of their parents' hard work and family's financial situation. Some students can't uphold justice, knowing that it is wrong, just because others have done it, they will follow suit. In other words, in the face of mistakes and violations of school rules and regulations, it is none of my business, and I will not stop, criticize or report to the teacher; Either because she is my good friend, I know that she has violated the discipline, and I have sheltered her. This is all a sign of not distinguishing right from wrong. ? Self-cultivation and knowledge are promoted together. People who lack self-cultivation are narrow-minded, selfish and can't stand any injustice. If they are unhappy, they will have endless complaints and get along with others and feel uncomfortable. Therefore, we should cherish such good study and research conditions today. Learning more is your own wealth; Learning less is your own loss, and you are giving up the opportunity to become beautiful and attractive. ? Therefore, noble personality, rich knowledge and good cultivation make people have elegant temperament. This is the beauty that will not change when you are old. This is the real beauty.
Second, correctly understand the relationship between discipline and personality.
We live in a collective, and no one can exist independently from the social environment. The general environment has established a rule of life for us, and that is discipline. Discipline is not personality, but the kind of lazy and lax habits in us. Discipline is not to bind freedom, but to better protect the freedom of most people. Schools are not allowed to litter and trample on lawns, so that more people can have a beautiful environment; In order to ensure the rest freedom of other students, students are not allowed to disturb or play with their mobile phones at night. For example, I read on the Internet that there is a sign on the street in Changchun that says: Without the restriction of red light, how can the green light be unblocked? This sentence is worth pondering. You can't just publicize your own personality and ignore the rights of people around you. ? Discipline is also a kind of cultivation. Some students, alone, are not enthusiastic about group activities, do not participate, or cope with, confront or disobey discipline. This is not personality, not detachment, but laissez-faire, shallow and vulgar. In fact, discipline is not to punish anyone. All subjects are for the good of everyone and create a good environment and atmosphere for everyone's study, exercise and life.
Third, treat and deal with the communication between boys and girls correctly, and don't fall into the whirlpool of feelings prematurely.
At our age, it's normal to get a little emotional. However, just because this is a normal psychological change, it should not be allowed to develop naturally; Not to mention blindly pursuing this hazy consciousness as love. The "intimacy" between boys and girls may be intoxicated by the parties themselves, but in fact this is not what we usually call love, but mostly belongs to friendship and goodwill. Our age is full of energy, active thinking and strong memory, which is the best time to learn knowledge and improve various abilities. Entanglement with emotional problems during this period will definitely distract your study energy and waste your good time. It may even cause serious consequences (the former case), so it is not worth the loss. Therefore, in the face of emotional fluctuations, students must be rational, learn to control their emotions, and be brave in correcting mistakes on the basis of distinguishing right from wrong. Take active measures, concentrate on learning, and reassure parents and teachers.
Fourth, keep a positive and optimistic mood and be a self-reliant middle school student.
As a middle school student, don't regard yourself as a weak person and don't expect others' love; Self-confidence and self-improvement first will win the respect and love of others. Li Bai, a great poet in the Tang Dynasty, wrote a poem well: "Since God has given talent, let him go to work!" . Since God gave birth to us, he will certainly be useful to us. In this era of competition and development, the weak will only be eliminated. A bright tomorrow and a happy life need our own efforts to create. I told my classmates a story: in a small town in England, there was a small grocer. The grocer has a daughter named Margaret. Margaret was educated by her father from childhood: always strive for the first place. The father told his daughter that even if she took the bus, she should take the front row. My daughter remembers her father's teaching. From primary school to university, her academic performance has always been among the best, and her activities such as speech, literature, art and sports have always been among the best. The headmaster commented: "She is the best student in the school and does everything well." This excellent girl later became the first female prime minister in Britain, namely Margaret Thatcher.
A person can not climb mountains all his life, but he must have a mountain in his heart. This is the goal. This mountain keeps you climbing high, keeps you in the direction of struggle, and allows you to look up and see your hope at any time. To realize hopes and longings, we must have a good attitude, challenge difficulties and challenge ourselves. British writer Dickens said, "A healthy mind is more powerful than a hundred kinds of wisdom."
Fifth, correctly handle interpersonal problems and be a healthy and happy middle school student.
Dealing with interpersonal relationships badly is a very annoying thing. Most students have a strong need to make friends, but some students often don't know how to deal with contradictions, frictions, misunderstandings and suspicions among classmates. How can we establish a harmonious interpersonal relationship? We know that the word "person" is written in one stroke, and the writing of herringbone includes three meanings: first, everyone has strengths and weaknesses; Second, everyone's life has uphill and adversity, as well as downhill and prosperity; Third, people help and support each other. If you take some of it away from me, I'll take some of it away from you to make you an adult. These three meanings can tell the true meaning of being a man. Students, if you want to deal with the relationship between good people, you should first put yourself in a correct position, treat your friends with a frank attitude and a broad mind, communicate with each other, learn from each other's strengths and make progress together. ? Secondly, learn to express yourself and respect others in communication. "Respect others, people also respect", respect others' living habits, and do not explore others' privacy; Express gratitude to others for their help and sincerely help others when they are in trouble; Give someone a rose, but leave the fragrance in your hand. On time at the appointed time; Pay attention to each other's feelings in communication. Don't underestimate a sentence, an action and other details. You may lose a friend because of an inappropriate remark. There is a good saying: a good word warms three winters, and a bad word hurts people in June. ? Moreover, in communication, students should overcome the cognitive biases such as "generalizing the whole by one side", "judging people by appearances", "sticking to their own opinions" and "pretending to be lofty", and strive to find similarities between the two sides, so as to fully and objectively understand themselves and others.
Sixth, learn to adapt and learn to be grateful.
Change yourself more and complain less about the environment? People can't ask the environment to adapt themselves, they can only adapt themselves to the environment. For example, it rains heavily today and you are in a bad mood. It's no use complaining about the bad weather. Without an umbrella and raincoat, heavy rain can only catch a cold. In your class, teachers are no longer satisfied and students are no longer satisfied. Anger won't have any effect, and passive resistance will only intensify. Only adaptation is a positive attitude. It is easy to become a successful person by thinking from different angles and choosing positive roles to enter life. For example, there is a little boy named Ike who often plays poker with his family in his spare time. One night, he caught several broken cards in succession, so he was unhappy and kept complaining. Mother said seriously, "If you want to play, you must play your cards well." God dealt the cards. What you can do is to play your cards well. Playing cards is like this, especially in study and life. "Later, when Ike encountered difficulties in life, he always remembered his mother's words and always tried his best to adjust his mentality to adapt to the environment and face challenges. He came from a civilian family, from a noncommissioned officer to a colonel, and later became the commander-in-chief of the allied forces in World War II, and finally became the president of the United States. He is Eisenhower.
2. learn to be grateful? I once read a report on the internet that a mother accompanied her son to take the college entrance examination, while his son was taking the exam in the classroom and his mother was waiting outside. Because it was too hot and the temperature was too high, my mother quickly fell to the ground with heatstroke and was taken to the hospital by passers-by. In the hospital, my mother never woke up, which made many doctors very helpless. Finally, a nurse had a good idea and whispered in her mother's ear that "the college entrance examination is over". Before the words were finished, the mother sat up and said loudly, "I have to ask my son how he did in the exam." ! "In this do or die, the mother is still worried about her son who is taking the exam. What a great maternal love this is! She always puts her son first, because she cares about her son and ignores everything about herself, even her life. ? I believe your classmates' parents will also pay for you in this situation, but classmates, how many of you put parents first? Many students always complain that their parents are too bad and wrong, find fault with their parents' behaviors and practices, and even directly contradict their parents! Some students don't know their parents' health, don't remember their parents' birthdays, and some don't even know where their parents work. Think about it, your parents have put so much energy and effort into you. Ask yourself, have you ever cared about them?