Everyone especially misses his student days, because they recorded the purest side of life at the beginning, pure and beautiful. Not as complicated as the adult world, so deceptive, so tired. At that time, making friends only needed to care about whether the relationship was good enough or not. However, adult friendship is always accompanied by various interests. Without interests, there will be no friends.
It is precisely because I miss the precious feelings of my school days that all kinds of students get together. Of course, it is not excluded that some people want to see how miserable their classmates were in those days to comfort their unhappy lives. So sometimes, the reunion is an emotional exchange, but sometimes, it is more like a comparison.
Especially when people reach middle age, the party to exchange feelings suddenly becomes a large-scale show off: the little boy in that class has become a small boss with dozens of people; Once that beautiful class flower, now she is not happy at all, and has become a travel-stained housewife; The study committee members who used to do well in their studies now earn 1000 yuan a month before tax, barely able to support their families. Of course, there are also middle-aged people who have had a secret crush and rekindled their old feelings in an instant. They all came to the party with their own purposes.
I once read such a sentence in Haruki Murakami's "Colorless Duoqi Works and His Year of Tour": Everyone has become an adult and has different life circles, which is helpless to some extent. We are no longer naive high school students. But even so, it's sad to see what was once significant fade and disappear. After all, we spent a vigorous time together and grew up together.
Recently, a fan sent such a private letter. She said: Teacher, I ended my marriage with my husband 10 after attending the class reunion in1month. I regret it. Can you help me? ?
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Her name is Zhang Ni, and she is 35 years old. She and her husband have been married for 65,438+00 years. Whether it is long or short, it really tests their love.
Zhang Ni said that before her husband, she had just ended a three-year relationship with her college classmate and first love. She left herself to her predecessor without reservation, leaving only a broken heart. ? I was in great pain during that time. That was the first time I really fell in love with someone. ? She said lonely.
She thought she would not love, but now she has met her husband. She met her husband Li Ping at an academic exchange meeting. That day, he was dressed in a fit suit, and the way he talked to Kan Kan was particularly dazzling in the crowd. ? She said. There is no doubt that this is a beautiful encounter, two young people, between the crackle, met in each other's hearts.
Why do you like me? ? Zhang Ni asked Li Ping, and he said? Because you are beautiful and quiet, and you are my dream wife. ? Listening to Ping Li's sweet words, Zhang Ni smiled from ear to ear.
Married life is dull and warm, a typical model family. There is no trivial matter, no contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and no betrayal of marriage. Everything seems so dull, it seems that something is missing. She often thinks so, which makes people feel unreal and not delicate.
There is nothing particularly bad about my husband. He cares about his family and is calm, but Zhang Ni always feels that their relationship has a sense of alienation. I can't say why. Maybe what he said was too official. Maybe he is too stable, so you can't see any mood swings. People who can't see through are terrible ? She thinks so.
After the marriage entered the first 10 year, Zhang Ni gradually became numb. She thinks Li Ping is becoming more and more like a dummy. Although there is a flesh-and-blood man lying beside her, it is always strange and will never make her feel excited again. So they haven't had children since the first year of 10, because she doesn't want to be a mother when love is not perfect, and she wants to enjoy a girlish life.
Haruki Murakami said that if we are only attacked and don't resist, we can only stop. Chronic powerlessness can corrode people.
Zhang Ni chose the wrong path. The last thing she should do is to treat marriage negatively, indulge herself and defile herself.
Zhang Ni felt that Ping Li was like a chronic poison, eroding her soul, so that she could never find the freshness of her heart. She is tired.
1 month ago, the former monitor called Zhang Ni and invited her to a class reunion, which gave her a special hint. Nan is also here. ? Hearing this name, her heart beat half a beat slower. 10 years later, she will still be moved when she hears a familiar name. Zhang Nan is her first boyfriend.
She looked at herself in the mirror, and years left wrinkles on her face. I can't make a good impression on him, she thought sadly. I, alas, just want to see how he is doing. I never miss him and I never expect anything to happen. ? Zhang Ni lied to himself.
On the day of the party, Zhang Ni dressed herself up and had a facial. At the place, Zhang Ni saw the south at a glance. He hasn't changed much. Oh, no, he has changed. He looks more mature. The older a man is, the better he tastes. Like me. Well, after 25, I'm not anti-aging at all. ? She thought silently.
Hi, long time no see? ? Nan took the initiative to come and greet her. Looking at this close face, Zhang Ni had a heart attack for a while. First love, how can you forget it? More importantly, she is in love. That day, they talked a lot. She learned that after he got married, his wife was like a tigress, and she didn't care about him at all, and she had to pay her salary in full. He knows her, too. Her husband is like a machine without feelings, polite and strange.
After dinner, the best fat man in the class organized everyone to sing karaoke. They walk together tacitly, just like a couple who haven't seen each other for years, but they are not very explicit. After all, they are all married middle-aged people, but their eyes are flowing and many feelings get the message. At KTV, with everyone's input, Zhang Nan took the lead in ordering some love songs with memories, and the students also made fun of them.
In the middle of the party, Zhang Nan ordered a song "Love in Hiroshima". The lyrics are sung like this: Crossing the moral boundary, we have crossed the forbidden zone of love, enjoyed the illusion of happiness and misunderstood the meaning of happiness.
I didn't know what I liked at first, but then I listened. Catalyzed by alcohol and desire, they really crossed the moral boundary and stepped into a forbidden area. Zhang Ni knew that she had fallen and there was no turning back, but she didn't regret it at this moment.
This is why most of the people injured in extramarital affairs are women. I think Zhang Ni is holding it at the moment. Drink today, get drunk today? Attitude to face this wrong impulse.
But after all, paper can't wrap the fire, and snow can't bury the body. How can there be no clues about what has been done? After all, this matter was known by Li Ping. He was very angry. He got out of hand on Zhang Ni. Two people tear, Zhang Ni heart more cold. She really thinks: If you didn't make me feel unloved, would I cheat? You forced it. ?
They rushed to get a divorce certificate, Li Ping said. I can't stand a woman like you, and your future will not be good, because you played with your marriage. ?
Knowing the news of Zhang Ni's divorce, fearing to implicate herself, Nan also selectively disappeared without leaving her a word. At this time, Zhang Cai knew what a heavy price she had paid for it. She regrets it very much, but there is nothing she can do! This extramarital affair ruined her 10 marriage!
As the British writer Bernard Shaw said, a lover will always treat an unfaithful woman as a plaything.
Finally, I want to tell these women that men's mouths are deceptive ghosts. Don't be fooled by his gentle eyes and a few sweet words. Men have dreams of three wives and four concubines. The more women there are, the more attractive they feel. Even if this woman is not good-looking, they still think it is a show-off capital, because they value quantity more.
There is a saying on the internet: men are affectionate for a long time, and women are single-minded and heartless. At first glance, these two descriptions are contradictory, but if you think about it carefully, you will find it makes sense. We seldom see women showing off their men. That's because women and men cheat for different purposes. Born to love, a woman, must be the object of her infidelity. Because they always think about their wives at home, as for lovers, they are just having fun. Why take them seriously?
Because the third party is always worthless and disrespectful in the eyes of men, women only believe what they hear with their ears, and men only believe what they see with their eyes, so women will be defeated by rhetoric. I have to say that a man is a clever creature, and he can always get rid of these feelings and become a delicate egoist.