When you see this question, I think what you should express is: "What level of friendship can be achieved between opposite sexes who are not in a romantic relationship?" I have a say in this question, because I once had an unusual relationship with a person of the opposite sex, and there was really no distracting thoughts in this relationship. The relationship between me and her can be described as a "confidante". How good is it exactly? I use several things to explain our relationship.

1. No sexual fantasies when lying on the same bed

I often call her brother, and she sometimes calls me bestie. It should be said that we talked about everything, including interests, the past, and even sex without any taboos. Sometimes when the conversation was late, we would stay overnight at the other party's house. At that time, we rented single rooms and could only fit one bed in the room. So the two of us sometimes squeezed into the same bed, but strangely enough, we were both normal people with emotions and desires, but we didn't have any sexual fantasies. We once communicated about this matter, and her conclusion was: My ex-girlfriend is her good friend, so if there is any unclear relationship with me, she will feel sorry for my ex-girlfriend. But I can't say why. Maybe I really regard her as a close friend deep down in my heart.

2. A pack of instant noodles can be split into two portions to eat.

After graduating from college in 2002, I found a job with a monthly salary of 800 yuan. Living in a first-tier city, 800 yuan was really not enough. At that time, the rent was 400 yuan, the phone bill was 100 yuan, the transportation fee was 100 yuan, and there were other expenses such as water, electricity, coal, Internet cafe fees, etc. The money for food every month was sometimes less than 100 yuan. My confidante works at the front desk of a hotel and her income is not high. At the end of the month, we are so poor that we can only eat instant noodles. Sometimes, if one of the two people has no money to eat, he will go to the other person for food. I remember one time, I ran out of instant noodles and was so hungry that I went to the other person’s house to eat. But she only had one pack of instant noodles. Seeing that I was asking for something from her, she shared half of it with each other without saying a word. . A friend in need is a friend indeed. This kind of love can only be experienced by lovers, relatives or close friends.

3. When we are depressed, we will hold each other to comfort each other

I remember that less than three months after I fell out of love, she also broke up with her boyfriend. At that time, I saw that she was in a very low mood. , just wanted to accompany her. Unexpectedly, the moment she saw me, she threw herself into my chest and started sobbing. I didn’t think much about it at this time, I just held her until she finished crying. I felt like I was taking care of a lovelorn person that day. Like her brothers, he helps her buy food and drinks with her.

4. There is no shyness when buying a bra

After all, she is a woman, and sometimes it is inconvenient for boys to be around her. But one day she asked me to go shopping, and we went shopping like lovers. When the interest was getting stronger, she dragged me into a bra shop. I felt very embarrassed at the time. After all, I had just graduated from college at that time. , she was still relatively young, but she did not shy away from asking me to give her some advice. What advice can I give? He kept standing stupidly with a red face. She looked at my expression, put her hands on her hips and laughed. At that time, all I could think of was "embarrassed", and I can still understand how I felt at that time.

Only by experiencing it can you believe those "unbelievable things". There are many stories between me and her, but at that time it was really very simple and there were no distracting thoughts. Therefore, I have always believed that there is true friendship between men and women. After reading these stories, I wonder if you are satisfied with my answers.

He and she were college classmates.

During her freshman year, she participated in a school singing competition and he was attracted by her beautiful singing voice. Since she was the first to appear, the equipment was not properly adjusted at the time, which seriously affected her performance. During the final scoring, she was rated last. He felt unfair for her and sent her a message to comfort her afterwards, and they became good friends from then on.

Life in college is very leisurely. In addition to studying, he likes to go to the library. He has always had a literary dream. She supported him very much and often came out to comfort him and encourage him when he was frustrated. As time passed, they became dependent on each other and would talk for a long time before falling asleep every night. But the strange thing is that they have endless conversations on their mobile phones every day, but when they meet, they just look at each other and smile, as if there is nothing wrong with them.

In his junior year, he heard that a boy was pursuing her. At this time, his family was experiencing changes, and he began to deliberately alienate her. Since he focused most of his energy on literature in the first few years of college, although he barely passed the professional courses, he understood mentally that he actually learned nothing. Faced with the upcoming internship and family pressure, he decided to give up literature and get back on track.

They went to the same city for internship in their senior year. At first, because he had no income and was too embarrassed to talk to his family, he once fell into a situation where he had no money to eat. After she learned about his situation, she called him and told him that she could lend him some money. That Saturday, she worked overtime and he took a break. She asked him to wait for her to get off work at the subway station. It was after 6 o'clock, it was already dark, and she had just come out of the subway station. She was wearing the goose-yellow down jacket that she often wore in college. He recognized her from a distance. They looked at each other and smiled as usual. After exchanging pleasantries, he took the money from her hand. When she was about to leave, she suddenly said to him: "I live not far from here, please take me back." He walked her to the gate of the community, stopped and left.

When she was about to graduate, she told him that she was with the boy who had been pursuing her for a long time. He asked her when it happened and she said: "I thought you already knew". After graduation, they went to their respective cities and later had their own families, but they always kept in touch and gave each other friendly blessings. Some members of the opposite sex may be destined to be lifelong friends.

Let me tell you what the best relationship between the opposite sex I have ever seen is like! In fact, I have never met, but I have a very good friend of the opposite sex. As for how good we are, I will tell you below and you can judge!

I remember it was several years ago. I like to travel more. I just pick up my suitcase and go. I didn’t have much money in the past, so I basically traveled on green trains. , and no matter how far it is, the seats are hard, so I have nothing to do because I am young, and I don’t feel tired anymore because of traveling!

That time I took a train from home to go for a walk on the Hulunbuir Prairie. It took more than 40 hours of train ride. It’s terrible to think about it now, but at that time I basically didn’t feel anything, and I could sleep sitting up without any problem. , maybe it was fate. The big boy opposite me actually went for a walk on the grassland by himself. We chatted together. He was very talkative and knew a lot. I knew nothing about the grassland, but he seemed to know everything. Understand, naturally I got off the car and he took me to the grassland! It took me to many interesting places and I was really happy.

Later we became best friends, and we would meet up to travel together if nothing happened. He was more willing to go, and so was I. How good we are is to the extent that we can eat and live together. , because many hotels in scenic spots are relatively expensive. In order to save money, we just rent a room. It’s not as easy as you think. We travel together, eat together, and drink together when the mood strikes. To be honest, it’s nice to have such a good place. My friend, my best friend is really good! You may meet many people in your life, but how many will remain in your heart?

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We can put our arms around each other, go shopping hand in hand, chat until dawn, and smile happily while eating. Under the watchful eyes of everyone, it’s like being in a deserted place. It’s totally... A world of two.

Is there really such a thing as a blank slate between friends of the opposite sex? In the eyes of others, the behavior of these two people has obviously exceeded the relationship of "ordinary friends". However, they just advertise that they are the most "confidant and ordinary friends". Do you believe it?

For example, a former male colleague is already married and has children! The wife takes care of the children at home while he works outside. This is a typical happy life for a couple. But what? My colleague prefers to hook up with girls.

That day, a beautiful girl came to our workshop. My colleague went directly to strike up a conversation with her and asked for her contact information.

From then on, the two began to make friends of the opposite sex. Their enthusiasm was completely beyond your imagination. Whether they went to the park together, walked on the street, ate or went shopping, they never left for a moment. But when we asked him if he wanted to be a virgin and have a boyfriend, he said, you are all overthinking it! We are just ordinary friends of the opposite sex. We just chat and talk together when we have nothing to do. It is not as you imagined, let alone! I am a man with a family, how could I have other ideas?

Ha! Who was he speaking to? Who will write the letter?

Of course, this is just his personal opinion, but his matter does not affect everyone's interests, so it doesn't matter to others! At the same time, we are also doubting, is there really a pure friendship in this world?

That day was Sunday, everyone got up early and went shopping! But my colleague didn't come out of the room for a long time. It happened to be that my colleague's brother-in-law came to him to do some things that day, so what? Came here early! After all, everyone knew each other, so he directly asked my brother-in-law if he had gone out to play?

Another colleague of mine said that he hasn’t gone out yet and seems to be still carrying the bed in his room.

After that, a few of us went to knock on the door of my colleague’s room. When we opened the door, we discovered that the girl in the workshop was still sleeping sleepily, haha! He looked like he wasn't awake and said, "Who knocked on the door so early!" Don't you know today is Sunday?

Ha! What do you think this is? You have been claiming that the two of you are just friends of the opposite sex. Don’t make any random guesses. But at this moment, I want to ask, who would believe that a man and a woman who are just friends can live together in the same house? Room? Even a three-year-old wouldn’t believe it! What an ordinary friend does is so unlikeable!

First, if you want to become ordinary friends of the opposite sex, it is actually very simple. Sometimes, after all, we work together and there are not so many serious things to talk about. As long as both men and women keep a certain distance, there is no need to deliberately arrange it. Meet and chat with her. In this case, colleagues are even ordinary friends.

Second, pure friends of the opposite sex do not need to hang out with each other too much, chatting, playing, shopping, etc., because if this continues, ordinary friends will become real boyfriends and girlfriends. !

Third, since we are ordinary friends, don’t think about others everywhere. There is an old saying that goes like this: People don’t care for themselves? What's more, you are just ordinary friends, why do you take each other's affairs so seriously? It will be misunderstood by others.

Fourth, do your own thing normally, retreat in a moderate manner during the conversation, don’t go too far in everything, and keep a proper distance. This is the standard for ordinary friends of the opposite sex.

Based on the above points, my personal opinion is

It is easy for women to have misunderstandings. There is a saying, those who are close to ink are black, and those who are close to pigs are crazy. If you spend less time hanging out with the opposite sex, there will be less gossip, and there will be less words like "love".

Friends need to move around and relationships need to communicate, but the simple standard is to keep a distance between people of the opposite sex.

1?, we can divide a bowl of noodles into two people.

I remember that it was when I just graduated from college. I had just found a job. Basically, except for room charges, phone calls, water, electricity, transportation and other expenses, I didn’t have much money every month. And I My opposite-sex friend is similar to me. Basically, at the end of the month, we all have no money. I remember one time when we went out to eat, we only had money for a bowl of noodles in our pockets, and only one of us shared half of it. This kind of true love in adversity can only be experienced by lovers or themselves.

2. Have someone to talk to when you are in a bad mood.

I remember when I just fell out of love, she also broke up with her boyfriend. I saw that she was in a low mood, so I went to find her and wanted to spend time with her. Unexpectedly, when she saw me, she jumped on me. I cried loudly in my arms, and I didn't think much about it. I just held her in my arms and drank and chatted with her like a caring brother.

3?, there is no deviant behavior in sleeping together.

We talk about everything together, including career, love, the future, hobbies, and also sexual issues. Sometimes we stay at my place after the discussion is late, because The rentals were all single rooms with just one bed, and we slept together. I didn’t know about her, but I didn’t dare to turn over, because you know what. But I don't dare to behave deviantly towards her!

Only those who have experienced it will believe it. There are many more stories between us. In fact, I also know that we cannot do deviant things. If we do, we will not have pure friendship. We must understand our relationship. Otherwise, if we cannot be lovers, we may not even be friends. Nothing can be done!

“There is no real friendship between men and women.” This sentence makes Xiuyuan feel a little tangled. As for why I think so? When I write out my previous experiences, everyone should understand the meaning of entanglement!

"I was 18 years old that year. I got engaged to the girl I liked because I had a good family and was good at talking. Hehe!

When I was 19 years old, we in rural areas started to work in the south. "Call", Xiuyuan signed up and came to "Kunshan Electronics Factory, Jiangsu Province" to find my future.

What happened next made me believe that "fate" is "love at first sight". It even made me deny my "love" for my girlfriend at home!

Her name is Xiaomeng, and she is two years older than me. Speaking of my acquaintance with Xiaomeng, there was an interesting incident! < /p>

“I was assigned to the circuit board maintenance department of the factory. This kind of work is very boring. I hold a welder and operate with my head down all day long. Because of the importance of this kind of work, I need to be very focused.

It had only been a month since I started working. On that day, I was concentrating on my job. Suddenly, a suitably sized box hit me on the head. It really made me realize what "surprise" means.

Due to his aggressive nature, he was just about to get angry when a burst of gentle words came to him, "I'm sorry, I accidentally hurt you because I had too many boxes in my hand."

What a sweet voice!

I took away my left hand that was covering my cheek and looked back. Wow, this beauty is so stunning:

“She has a peach-shaped face and a slim and tall figure, even though she is wearing work clothes. Still can't hide that elegant temperament..."

Facing herself in a daze, the beauty smiled shyly and said, "How about going to the infirmary?" He immediately woke up and said incoherently: "Of course I am willing to serve you, come and give me the things." "Haha, you heard me wrong. I told you to go to the infirmary and take a look."

I was so embarrassed that I said, "Nothing happened. By the way, which department are you in? What's your name? How old are you?"

After hearing this, she smiled even wider, revealing a cute little tiger tooth and said:

"My name is Xiaomeng, I am from the operation department. As for my age, This is a girl's secret, you hurry up and work, if we continue chatting, you will be here as substitute." At that time, I didn’t know where I got the courage to ask for Xiaomeng’s contact information.

On the first weekend I met her, I couldn’t hold back my “adolescent impulse” and made an appointment with Xiaomeng. The first time I saw me, I was attracted by my handsomeness and fun. "If you are willing to be friends with me, please don't misunderstand me. We are just good friends of the opposite sex."

In the following days, Xiuyuan no longer felt empty because his girlfriend did not come to Jiangsu with him, but instead lived a happier and more fulfilling life.

"Women may be more likely to be carried away by the opposite sex they like." Xiaomeng called me as soon as she got off work, and then the two of us would go for a walk, eat together, or drink together in the park. Sipping drinks and talking about life.

Every time my salary is paid, Xiaomeng gives me a surprise! She also objected to buying things for her, saying that I had just started working and couldn't spend money randomly, so she asked me to mail it home. She was really a sensible girl.

Although our relationship was so close, we never "stepped too far" in the first few months because Xiu Yuan knew that we had a girlfriend at home.

One night half a year later, the two of them were walking in the park and talking. Suddenly Xiaomeng stopped leaving and asked her what was wrong. She didn't answer either.

I said again, "Little one, did I say something wrong that made you angry?"

"Women are really emotional animals," Xiaomeng choked up. Out of the complex psychology of love and friendship, he walked closer and wiped her tears. Suddenly she hugged me and said to me. :

"I really love you, don't you have feelings for me? We've been in contact for more than half a year, but you haven't confessed to me. Are you worried about your girlfriend at home?"

"Facing this situation, I am both happy and upset. I am happy that the beauty has fallen in love with me, but I am upset that I still have a girlfriend at home. If I really accept it, how will I face it?"

"You are better than her in every way, except that I have a hard time with my conscience. Besides, wouldn't it be nice for us to be friends? We have been very happy these past six months, right?"

"No, no, I really can't live without you. What do you want me to do when we are separated one day?"

After hearing this, I was "speechless".

At this time, something unexpected happened to me. Xiaomeng stood up on tiptoes and kissed me, and said unclearly, "You are mine, no one can take it away from you."

Xiu Yuan really loved her and cooperated with her...

But in the end, "reason defeated impulse" and it did not develop further.

He said to Xiaomeng:

"You are the most beautiful scenery in my life, but people cannot be without conscience. It is indeed wonderful to be a couple with you. Then the daughter of my family What will my friends think? If an accident happens, I will feel uncomfortable for the rest of my life."

She asked again, "Do we really have no chance? I am willing to follow you home and explain to that girl, don't miss the fate between the two of us, okay?"

I thought for a while and said to Xiaomeng, "It's really impossible. I wish you find a better boyfriend."

When Xiaomeng heard this, she said loudly with a cry:

"What did I do to you? You are so cruel, white-eyed wolf", and then turned and left.

This was the first time I saw her getting angry, and it was also the first time I saw Xiaomeng’s upright figure and walking listlessly. Out of concern, I followed her back to the dormitory before returning to my own place.

I thought that Xiaomeng would get over his anger in two days, but since that day, Xiaomeng stopped answering my calls, let alone playing with me, and even couldn’t help it later. When I miss her, Xiaomeng will say she doesn’t know me!

A month later, when I went to see Xiaomeng again, her department manager told me, "She has resigned."

"I suddenly felt like the sky was falling. Although I ignored her, I could at least take a look at her secretly when I missed her. Now...but it's okay, I don't have so many worries anymore.

However, as time goes by, the longing in my heart has not diminished, but has become more serious."

Two years later, I went to her hometown of Ningxia once and learned that she had hastily married an Anhui man last year...

"Perhaps in her heart she felt bad about herself Is there really hatred? Otherwise, why would you be so anxious about "marriage"?

How can there be pure friendship between men and women? If Xiaomeng and I didn't have a good impression of each other, would it last so long? < /p>

After deciding that we can’t be together, why can’t we be friends as before? The deeper the love, the deeper the hurt.

“I don’t know, I just look at it according to my own ideas. , Xiaomeng may really know the answer to this topic."

I hope she "lives a happier life than me"!

I met a girl in school, just because at that time She was relatively innocent and didn't do anything, but she was married by my buddy. She was a bit emotional!

When we first entered the campus, I didn't know her. Just because she had a lot of luggage, I A schoolbag. I carried his luggage to the dormitory very lovingly. Before leaving, I also left a QQ message. QQ was quite popular when we were young. (We are now 25 years old, but as we grow up, we use WeChat more.) , we chatted on the first day...and then unknowingly, three years later, there was a sign on QQ, and we chatted continuously for more than a thousand days, from shy chatting at the beginning to sex later. It’s no surprise that we joke around a lot, we hang out a lot, and we look like a couple in the eyes of others.

One year we agreed to go on a trip together, so we lived frugally when we were in school, worked part-time on weekends, and put all the extra money in a bank card. The card belonged to her for a year. We saved more than 5,000 yuan and traveled to Yunnan. In order to save money, we rented a room without any physical contact. She was very open when taking a shower. We were naked in the same room. We didn't do anything. We even joked with each other about whether it was okay and talked about each other's figure. This has been like this for a week (I feel a little regretful to this day). , I’m still not a man).

After graduation, I went out to work. We still worked in the same company (we found each other together). I also met a male colleague and we are now good friends. Yes, he married her.

During her pregnancy, her husband (my brother) sometimes didn’t have time to take care of her, so he called me to help her get groceries. At the market, people thought we were husband and wife, and ended up talking to her. Eating together as a family (I don’t have a girlfriend yet...).

Does it count if we eat together, go shopping together, and go to get off work together? I am a grown man, and my friends of the opposite sex can be even better than my friends of the same sex. Do you believe me?

I share a house with three bedrooms and two living rooms with my buddy and his wife. We don't work in the same company. My brother and his wife have different working hours. My brother goes to work at eight o'clock, and his wife and I go to work at nine o'clock. The four of us have a very good relationship. Strangely enough, my buddy and his wife like to go shopping, while my buddy likes to stay at home and play Honor of Kings, and my wife likes to play cards. Everyone has different hobbies, but we are the same.

We all know each other well and are very at ease with each other. Every time we go shopping together, do people think I am her husband? We help her carry things, go to dinner together, sing and skate, it's almost like a couple. Our friendship is very simple. Our relationship is like that of buddies. No one believes it.

I am really happy to have such a friend of the opposite sex. Does anyone have one? Don't think wrongly!

I think the best opposite-sex relationships are "confidantes" and "confidants". Maintaining such pure friendship is the best time for a relationship.

I have a friend with whom I have been friends for more than ten years. After work, as a translator, he would come to my city every time he returned to China. We would cross the street together, sit in a restaurant, eat exquisite snacks, and chat about his current situation. He wanted to say that he was fat and dark, so there was no need to worry. When you don’t want to talk, An Jingjing will feel particularly cordial. After getting married, every time he came to our city, he would ask my husband and I to have a little get-together. This is his philosophy of doing things, which is just right.

We were tablemates in high school. In his words: You are my tablemate. At that time, he had good grades, was humorous and smart, was very good at basketball, and was very handsome. It is a relatively obvious goal wherever you go, which is in line with the aesthetic vision of most girls in their youth. When most girls liked him, I was playing tricks on him and hiding his books. In the first ten minutes of each class, he must be looking for books everywhere. One time I said, you left your books in the dormitory and didn't get them back. He really believed it; or he would occupy his time after class and tell me math problems, even though I couldn't understand them at all... When girls chased him, he would ask me: What do you think? I would always say: You are so dark, lazy, and stupid, it would be great if someone likes you!

After the college entrance examination, we are much closer than when we were in school. We have been in constant contact. We are the kind of people who understand each other very well, and we have such a tacit understanding that we can understand each other with just one glance. By chance, he sent me a screenshot of our chat, and I saw that the background picture was me. At that moment, I felt that such a careless person also has a careful side.

Sometimes when my mood is ups and downs, he will chat with me until late at night, and every time there will be a brighter future. I helped him chase girls and stayed with him through some difficult times when he was falling out of love.

The last time he came to Shenyang was the second day after he returned to China, and it was the third year since my husband and I got married. After dinner, in the waiting area of ??the escape room, he handed me a big red envelope, which was heavy in my hand. He said: I couldn’t attend your wedding when I got married, so my blessings must be given to you in person.

Some people say that the so-called "confidant" and "confidant" are pretending to be stupid to the end, and will not admit it even if they are beaten to death.

I think there is pure friendship between opposite sexes. Beyond the distance of friendship, beyond the boundaries of friends, is ambiguity, and ambiguity will change the definition of "friend".

Do you believe that the best time between opposite sexes is like brothers and sisters, like lovers? There are two of them beside me. They are both my classmates. The best time was the first year when I got out of school to work. They all called me brothers.

I remember that the year I graduated and left school was the most serious year of layoffs and unemployment. The two of them lived in a large rental house with other fellow villagers. They looked for jobs together, talking and laughing while holding hands. Sometimes while walking, the man suddenly pushes away the woman and runs away, but the woman immediately rushes up, jumps, holds his head with both hands, laughs and continues walking. Sometimes while walking, a woman suddenly jumps on a man's back, pulls her ears and screams, pretending to be riding a horse. When we get tired from walking, we hold hands and go into the store to buy drinks without distinguishing between you and me. You take a bite and I take a bite. This kind of scene is difficult to see if you are not a couple. Once during the application process, the woman was hired by a foreign-owned factory to do warehouse management, which was considered a pretty good job at the time. Since the number of places was limited, the men couldn't get in, so the women decisively gave up. You must know that at that time, no matter which factory posted a job sign, it would be crowded with people looking for work. It was very difficult to find a job.

Money is not everything, but you can’t do it without money. Everyone knows very well what it was like just leaving school, let alone eating and having fun. It’s very good to be able to keep three meals a day. If you are born in the 1970s or 1980s in rural areas, this will be even more clear. At that time, the two of them ate out for fast food for 2 yuan a meal and breakfast for 1 yuan. When paying, it doesn't matter whether it's a man or a woman. Once I heard a man say that he didn't know that the woman had no money. When we were paying for the meal, we pointed at each other and smiled knowingly. Needless to say, we knew we were out of money. So the man felt in his pocket and only had two yuan left, so he had to return one portion and the two of them had a meal together. After eating and walking out of the restaurant, both of them burst into laughter and ran away immediately.

During those days, they all told me one after another and admitted that they really lived a tacit, fulfilling and happy life with each other. Better than real siblings, but without the solemnity between siblings. It's better than Lovers, but it doesn't have the love in Lovers. In fact, they never really loved each other when they were together.