Because of children's different interests and abilities, children will feel lonely in an environment where they can't give full play to their talents:
For example, extracurricular activities in school, playing ball, skipping rope, games and so on. Children who don't like sports can't participate and become lonely bystanders;
Children are not interested in their classmates' hobbies, because they feel lonely because they have nothing in common with their classmates.
Children are self-centered, do not know how to compromise, be humble, and do not know how to care about their friends, which is also a reason for being unsociable;
In addition, students who are always lagging behind in academic performance can't hear praise, and always feel that they are dragging the collective back, afraid to associate with good classmates, easily isolating themselves, being attacked by loneliness, and even leading to weariness of learning.
Children have no friends, and living at home should solve the problem from two aspects. First, help children make good friends; The second is to guide children to treat temporary loneliness correctly.
At the same time, parents should also guide their children to do some reflection. First, we should find reasons from ourselves, for example, our behavior makes others hate and we don't know it, our classmates can't accept it because they are too straightforward, and our classmates don't like it because they are stingy and selfish. After finding the reason, parents can guide the child to correct it, and he will communicate with his classmates more easily.
Method 1: Guide children to find friends.
You can give some specific guidance to your child's friends. For example, making friends can start with classmates near the seat and find those who are more cheerful and easy-going to talk to them on their own initiative. Tell your child some communication skills, such as being warm and generous to your classmates and trying to talk about topics that are of interest to everyone. Don't gossip, don't belittle any classmates Participate in more group activities, help your classmates, and gradually deepen your understanding so that more students can know themselves. The most important thing is to tell children that even if their academic performance is not very good, they can make friends as long as they are kind and enthusiastic.
It is worth noting that it is necessary for parents to give their children specific guidance on making friends, but don't specify who their children will play with and who they won't play with. Some parents are afraid that their children will make friends carelessly, so they subjectively decide that their children should play with children who study well in the class, or children with good family background, and are not allowed to play with children with unsatisfactory academic performance or poor families. In fact, there are good children and many problem students among children with good academic performance and good family background, and some problems are still very serious. Therefore, it is unwise to take these as the criteria for making friends. Children's friends are often simple and play together when they get along. What adults have to do is to get a general idea, as long as the quality of children's contacts is good and the foundation will do.
Method 2: Teach children to face loneliness.
Some people have few friends, some people have different friends at different stages, some people will be lonely at one stage and gather friends at another stage, which means that many people are lonely at times. We are dealing with a child who has no friends for a while for various reasons. On the one hand, we should try our best to help him find friends, on the other hand, we should help him learn to deal with the loneliness in front of him.
If a person has his own pursuit, he may be lonely, but he will not be lonely. He will pursue loneliness, and loneliness may become the driving force of learning. If parents guide their children to think, find their hobbies and study in their spare time when they have no friends for the time being, the children will find that they are not lonely, but full, and they will hope to learn more at school.
Method 3: Find friends in reading.
There are many channels for reading now. In addition to the original, you can also read through the internet, read other people's blogs and browse books on your mobile phone. In reading, children can make friends with the owner of the book and the author, and they can also leave messages to their favorite authors through the Internet and become pen pals.
Most importantly, when you are in full bloom, the breeze will come.