Have a small family, warm, considerate and romantic. Teacher Yu Fan talks to you about the marriage agency-
More than 2, years ago, there were many poems about love in The Book of Songs, the earliest collection of poems in China. Among them, there was a saying, "I was robbed of my time, and my son had no good media" (it was not that I was delaying time, but that you didn't let a good matchmaker deliver the message), which really expressed people's kindness to the good matchmaker at that time. The matchmaker, the individual who brokered the marriage and matched the bridge, also known as the matchmaker or the elder-is the predecessor of the current matchmaking agency.
we don't have exact data to verify when the matchmaker originated. However, it can be imagined that no matter in the past, present and future, as long as she or he in our dream is still on the water side, as long as she and his lovesickness are separated by a delicate embarrassed or impenetrable paper, the "media" will accompany us.
In fact, in the long feudal society of ancient China, the ultra-stable structure of ordinary families in China (most of them were harmonious) was inseparable from the great role of matchmakers at that time. After liberation, the party and government organizations at all levels (women's federations, trade unions, * * * youth groups, streets, etc.) have also played the role of matchmakers to a considerable extent and done matchmaking work. However, as a formal working organization, matchmaking in China originated in the late 197s and early 198s. At that time, a large number of educated youth who went to the countryside returned to the city, and the average age was around 3, so marriage became difficult for a while. Therefore, initiated by the All-China Women's Federation, provincial and municipal women's federations set up marriage service offices to focus on solving this social problem. However, with the gradual deepening of reform and opening up, the continuous adjustment of social structure and the renewal of people's concepts, new professional matchmaking agencies have been set up in Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou first, and then in various places, and gradually formed a universal social intermediary service industry today.
If the previous matchmaking agencies had few members, and most of them were old, old and difficult, the current matchmaking agencies are a different landscape, with more members and a trend of youthfulness and superiority. According to the statistics of Love Bridge, a famous marriage and love center in Anhui Province and Hefei City, more than 55% of its members are young and unmarried, and more than 7% of them have bachelor's degree or above (many masters and doctors), and those who are engaged in white-collar jobs (entrepreneurs, professional managers, civil servants, military officers, medical students, teachers, engineers, lawyers, accountants, journalists, editors, translators, returned overseas Chinese and so on).
why is this happening? There are three main points: first, contemporary people have a high evaluation of the meaning of love, and think that a beautiful marriage is the most important symbol of life quality and success, so they need to participate in a wide range of choices to achieve the perfect positioning of their other half as much as possible; Secondly, the lifestyle of contemporary people has undergone fundamental changes, and they must adapt to the fast pace of the information age to accept the challenges of individual survival and development, so they have little leisure to "meet" slowly or interpret classic romance, and they need simple, lively and symmetrical blind date (but not unemotional); Thirdly, the number of enthusiastic people among contemporary relatives and friends has been greatly reduced, and lifelong events are troublesome, and people's emotional world is gradually regarded as privacy like the West, so it is inconvenient to ask more questions. Therefore, a large-scale matchmaking agency will certainly win their approval because of its standardized and mature operation.
in fact, western countries have long had special matchmaking agencies. According to the data, since Mr. Robinson, an Englishman, founded the matchmaking agency in London in 165, which may be the first officially listed matchmaking agency in the world, western countries have set up matchmaking agencies one after another, which have spread and passed down to this day. In new york, the United States, there is a lady with a good temperament named Helena, who is known as the super matchmaker in the United States. She has been commended by government departments for her enthusiastic success in matchmaking for many men and women. Even in today's France, which pays attention to love at first sight and romantic stories, matchmaking agencies have considerable social recognition. Contemporary Japanese youth are sexually liberated, but they are very cautious when they get married. Dating through matchmakers is still the main way for Japanese people to choose their spouses. According to the survey of All-Japan Media Federation, about 5% of Japanese people get married through matchmaking agencies. Interestingly, when the head of the largest marriage network center in contemporary Britain died of a sudden heart attack, many famous people all over the world expressed their condolences. He had fulfilled countless people's love dreams before his death, and I don't know why he was still a bachelor. Similarly, in Singapore, Taiwan Province, Hongkong, and Southeast Asia, matchmaking agencies and their various networking activities are also colorful. It can be said that most countries in the world now have matchmaking agencies, which is not only a commercial service with a market, but also a good wish for the beauty of adults. It is also difficult to talk about stability and unity if there are too many widowed and lonely people in a society. So the matchmaking industry has always been supported and encouraged by governments all over the world. In old China, the rulers of past dynasties also affirmed the media, and there were also official media with legal provisions and state funding. Now, the China government's tax exemption policy for the matchmaking industry is also an example.
However, the rapid and successful development of the market economy has brought about a mixture of good and evil, and it is inevitable that all walks of life are no exception. The same is true of the matchmaking industry. Then, a question that everyone is very concerned about has also been raised, that is, in the face of numerous matchmaking agencies, how should we choose if necessary?
the following points can be used for reference by marriage seekers-① at present, the state has clearly stipulated that local market supervision departments are the directors of the matchmaking industry and the units that accept complaints. Therefore, we must first look at all the selected matchmaking agencies without a business license, whether there are any matchmaking items in the business scope of the business license, and whether they have passed the annual inspection as required. (2) to investigate whether there is a fixed office space, and the comprehensive environment of the office space. The inconvenience of office space is too simple or gives people a temporary feeling. Because the matchmaking industry is still a public service industry, it is difficult to maintain it, and in the end, it is registered in Baideng. The matchmaking industry is also a highly specific industry, and it is not appropriate to mix other intermediary information businesses such as real estate, labor services and nannies. Because only majors can do well, specialization has become the general trend of all intermediary industries. ④ It depends on the quality of the staff. This is very important. The ultimate success of any entity depends on the quality of its workers. In view of the fact that matchmaking work is essentially a special field of public relations work, the requirements of emotional consultants are not low for the matchmaker to become an excellent public relations manager. Its qualities include personality, cultivation, appearance, knowledge, connotation, ability and psychological service consciousness of practitioners, etc. It can be predicted that in the near future, the education of matchmaker can not be lower than that of undergraduate course. ⑤ The goods provided by the matchmaking industry are information services. Due to various reasons, some unscrupulous matchmaking agencies publish false information to deceive customers, so it is necessary to identify and prevent them. Marriage seekers should carefully examine whether their information has three characteristics: authenticity, directness and richness. The so-called authenticity is to have real information about the registrant, rather than fabricating simulations out of thin air or exaggerating infinitely, and finally not seeing the real person; The so-called directness is to be able to contact directly and in time, without having to go through other media to mediate again, beating around the bush, and finally go away; The so-called richness means accumulating more information, having a relatively complete database, which can provide a larger choice for marriage seekers, thus improving the success rate. In this respect, the longer it takes and the matchmaking companies that have formed scale and brand will undoubtedly have great advantages.
there are still some things to pay attention to. However, we can fully believe in the increasingly mature market concept of the majority of single friends and find the happy other half with the help of beautiful "media".