On this day, my sister called and invited my brother and sister-in-law to have a meal (a banquet to celebrate the housewarming). On this day, the eldest brother was at home, and the other three sisters-in-law were at home.
Four brothers and sisters each drove a battery car and went to their sister's house happily. Their parents are highly respected, and their eldest brother is of course the most important. The chairman added the head of the table, and many people came to propose a toast, but they were disrespectful and gradually became slightly drunk.
After dinner, relatives and friends left one by one and went home. My eldest brother told the three girls to go first, and I'll follow right away. Actually, my eldest brother wants to calm down and is a little unsure about driving. My sister asked him to stay, but he refused. The road is not far, and besides, there are not many cars on the country roads. Drive slowly, it's okay.
Three sisters-in-law drove off, talking and laughing all the way. When they passed a crossroads, a man rushed out of the sloping road to help them. There were two teenagers sitting in the car, driving so fast that the second sister-in-law in the middle couldn't dodge, and even the people and the car fell to the ground.
The most irritating thing is that when they saw that the other party were all women, they not only didn't apologize, but also argued irrationally and made rude remarks, scolding them for not being knowledgeable, so they didn't walk on the wide road and hit Lao Tzu's car.
Second sister-in-law is nothing. Seeing each other's arrogance, she just wanted to scare the two little guys. She simply couldn't sit up on the ground, stretched out a leg and pretended that her leg hurt and she couldn't move. She may have been injured and had to be taken to the hospital.
The two smelly boys tried to escape as soon as they saw this, but they were stopped by their eldest sister and younger sister. If they want to leave, my eldest brother will arrive soon. Don't think that we are easy to bully because we are women. Big brother is here, and you two are more than one bargained for. Let my big brother teach you two what rules are. I hit someone and tried to run away. I can't even apologize. My head is full of unknown addresses. You two just need to clean up?
When he was pestering him, eldest brother drove his car and his eyes came dimly. The car was driving very slowly, and his mind was in a fog at this time. He just saw a figure shaking in front of his eyes and didn't care about the person sitting on the ground.
Second sister-in-law saw him driving slowly and thought she saw her, her legs still stretched out in the middle of the road. Who knows, the car didn't mean to stop at all, but it was still moving forward. It's too late to take back his leg.
Boy, they have been looking forward to reinforcements, looking forward to the backer, looking forward to taking it out on their good brother. Even the man and the car slowly drove past the second sister-in-law's leg. Sister-in-law shouted, the front wheel ran over, and then the rear wheel was crushed. It's over. This calf is really fractured and comminuted.
A few years ago, a boy and a girl fell in love for many years. She is an only child, a doctor and very beautiful. Once, a boy had a whim and wanted to play a joke on her and test her. He thought he would be scolded by her, so he introduced his cousin, who is two years older than him, to her under the pretence that he could trick her into drinking. This eldest brother hasn't read many books, and he doesn't look very good. His parents are old and poor, and he doesn't even have a house. He was very happy when he was introduced by his cousin. If it doesn't happen, it's not a shame that he can't pass it on. My cousin wrote a short courtship letter for her to copy and took the clothes she bought. She thought it was a joke that she couldn't promise, so she wrapped her clothes and gave the letter to her parents while she was away. Unexpectedly, things turned around. Cousin secretly wrote in the letter that she could be a door-to-door son-in-law. Her parents hope that their daughter will not get married, find a reliable person to support the scene and be filial to them in the future. It is also possible to have a child with the man's surname. That poor guy's condition is the best, and that cousin is just what they want. For this male classmate, they have no hope that he will not submit because the conditions are too good. When she learned that those clothes and letters were sent by her male classmates, she was very sad and angry. She thought he was disloyal and looked down on her, so she ignored him and looked down on her cousin. Cousin is also cunning. She lied to the woman and her family that she told him many times that she didn't want to marry her at all, otherwise she wouldn't be a "toad trying to eat swan meat". Under the pressure of parents crying and hanging, two years later, she compromised and married her cousin. She became a boy's cousin. This boy is really self-defeating and remorseful. His cousin did not give him money to buy clothes. [Cute]
199 1 year, Wang Shuangxi was sentenced to three years in prison for burglary. In order to get rid of the prison disaster as soon as possible, the self-defeating Wang Shuangxi finally showed another tail!
1993, Wang Shuangxi will serve his sentence in one year, but think about it, there are still more than 300 days, and Wang Shuangxi always wants to go out early. One day at work, I heard that Liu from the village died in a car accident. This Liu is really unlucky. His wife disappeared five years ago and has not been heard from since. The speaker was careless and the listener was interested, but Wang Shuangxi pretended not to hear anything and slipped away quietly. Wang Shuangxi not only knows Liu, but also is a very close brother. During his imprisonment, Liu visited the prison three times, brought food and drinks, and even quietly stuffed money. When I heard that Liu died, I was not sad, but secretly pleased. He felt that his chance to reduce his sentence had come.
The next night, he found the supervisor on duty and said that he wanted to see the warden and had something important to report. The discipline on duty soon took him to the warden's office. Wang Shuangxi said that after more than two years of reflection and reform, he has made great progress. He wants to help the government solve the case, or he can make meritorious deeds and reduce his sentence. He told the warden that five years ago, his good friend Liu killed his wife, buried her in an abandoned landfill in the east of the village, and fell ill after drinking. I asked Liu with a grain of salt about it, but he denied it, so I didn't take it seriously. The warden felt that the case was serious and reported it immediately. Unfortunately, Liu died in a car accident two months ago! But in any case, we should also search the landfill to confirm the truth of what Wang Shuangxi said.
The landfill is located on one side of Liushan, with a small area. In the early 1980s, villagers threw stones here, but later found that the traffic here was not as convenient as the opposite mountain, so they gave up, leaving a pit seven or eight meters deep and more than 20 square meters. Later, the garbage was illegally dumped and filled up two years later. In order to cover up the bad smell, someone built a thin loess house on it and planted a few trees sparsely.
Because of the small area, the public security personnel quickly found and dug up the remains that had become bones. The body was scattered all over the floor, and the skull was wrapped in a basically intact plastic bag. Obviously, this is a murder case! Further cleaning up, the public security personnel were surprised. In the plastic bag wrapped around the skull, there is an ID card with Wang Shuangxi's head and name clearly printed on it!
It turns out that Liu and his wife Du Minzhen have always had a bad relationship. Liu is a butcher with a bad temper and often quarrels with his wife. Du Minzhen filed for divorce several times, but every time Liu knelt down to admit his mistake, Du Minzhen had to give up for two underage children. 1988 On the ninth day of the ninth lunar month in winter, Liu actually slapped Du Minzhen. Du Minzhen was very angry. She packed her soft clothes and slipped out of the house with 3,000 yuan from home. She wants to go out to work to punish her husband. Du Minzhen came to Wang Shuangxi's home for the first time. Shuangxi and her husband are butchers. Private slaughter in rural areas has been abolished in recent years, so they have to find another job. Wang Shuangxi and her husband are sworn brothers, and Du Minzhen hopes that he will often visit the children at home. After all, being a mother cannot give up.
Who knows, Wang Shuangxi's wife took her son back to her family that day, and Wang Shuangxi was the only one at home. Du Minzhen was inconvenient to spend the night, so she took out 500 yuan to buy clothes for her two children according to the season, and then sent him some back when she earned money outside. Wang Shuangxi saw that Du Minzhen still had a lot of money in his bag, so he had evil intentions and strangled Du Minzhen with a rope! Du Minzhen just died, and Liu and her husband found the Wangs. He knew that whenever his wife was angry, he would always find Wang Shuangxi's wife to entertain himself. But this time, there was no one. Wang Shuangxi heard the door shouting, and quickly stuffed the body into the foot of the bed. Then he pretended to be calm to comfort Liu and let him calm down. He said that Du Minzhen just ran away in anger, and more than once. The implication is that it's okay this time. I heard that Du Min really wanted to go out to work with money, so he pretended to panic and pushed his bicycle to chase after Liu. Unlucky Liu didn't know that his wife was lying under the devil's bed with her body.
Wang Shuangxi pretends to dismember Du Minzhen as soon as he comes back. For a butcher, he has tools to answer, and it is easy to dismember the body! At about three o'clock in the morning, they were hastily buried in a landfill less than 200 meters away from Liu Ling's rich family. After dawn, Wang Shuangxi came to a rich family in Liu Ling after a bath, pretending that if he needed help, he would look for it again. Liu thinks it is unnecessary. He has already told his parents-in-law, and they said it doesn't seem to matter if we talk in a few days. I thought Liu's father-in-law must know his whereabouts, or he just hid in his home and deliberately worried himself for a while. Who knows, a month passed and no one was seen. The two families began to blame each other and later reported the case, but they had no clue and could only handle it as a case of disappearance.
And Liu still keep close contact. Even after he went to prison, Liu visited the prison several times, saying that they would contract the dam in the village and raise chickens and fish in the dam after they got out of prison. No one would have thought that he would kill his wife Liu! At that time, just issued an ID card, Wang Shuangxi took it from the village cadres and put it in a black plastic bag, which he soon forgot. This plastic came in handy later! Because it was rarely used at that time, it was more than two months after the crime that Wang Shuangxi discovered that his ID card was gone, but he never imagined that the ID card had become Du Minzhen's funerary object!
Self-defeating Wang Shuangxi wanted to kill someone. Du Minzhen can die in the grave, but her husband Liu doesn't understand that he will have such a "good friend"!
Or about my being an educated youth.
I remember it was 1976. I 18 years old, and transferred to the commune forest farm with dozens of city high school graduates in the same year. At that time, there was a female educated youth with fine features and slim figure, which made me feel loved. Moreover, she usually gets along well with me and shows some intimacy to me. But I have never been in love, and I don't know how to chase girls.
Looking at her lively and lovely appearance every day, love fills my heart, but I don't know whether she likes me or not. In order to test her, I decided to test her in the name of introducing her boyfriend. I think if he agrees to make friends with the person I introduced, it means that she doesn't like me. If you don't agree, you like me.
So, when we were alone, I said I would introduce her to a young man named Weizi as her boyfriend. It turns out that this Wei Zi is the most naughty among the educated youth. I don't think she will like it, but Weizi likes her. In fact, almost all male educated youth from other places like her, but they are afraid that they are not worthy and dare not confess.
Unexpectedly, she turned red when she heard this, but she actually agreed. This time, my regret, plus embarrassment, can be described with mixed feelings. I don't know how uncomfortable it is. But there is no way out. As soon as the words come out, I have to be a good person and help her bridge the gap with Weizi.
From then on, she and Weizi became boyfriend and girlfriend. Looking at the figure of her and Weizi walking together, I have unspeakable bitterness. I can only hate myself for being stupid and self-defeating.
Many years later, we educated youths got together. At this time, everyone is over 40 years old and already married. Later, she and Weizi didn't get along well. She broke up and married another man after she came back to work in the city. At that time, I asked her how she felt about me when she was an educated youth. She said it was good, and she liked it a little. But I am a grade head and monitor at school. I study hard and dare not climb high. So, when I introduced Wei Zi to her as a boyfriend, she felt that I didn't like her and was very upset, so she agreed to make friends with Wei Zi.
Her words almost broke me down. At that time, I really didn't understand love and women. One word: stupid!
I have two older brothers. Big brother is honest and loyal, and also very filial. The second brother is not my own brother, but my third uncle on the farm. He has many children and has a difficult life. My second brother is very smart, and he has done well in school since he was a child. He jumped several grades from elementary school to junior high school, and then jumped one grade from junior high school to senior high school. In the year of college entrance examination, he was admitted to the juvenile class of a famous university. At that time, it was catching up with the fever of going abroad. My second brother asked my parents for money and said that he would study abroad. At that time, the living conditions at home were not very good, and my parents took out all the money, but it was still not enough for my second brother to study abroad. So, the second brother ran back to the farm to find his parents and said that he wanted them to pay some money for him to study abroad. Third cousin's family's economic conditions are worse than ours, and food and clothing are all problems. Where can I get extra money for my second brother? In addition, the second brother left his parents at an early age, and the feelings of the third cousin's family for the second brother have been indifferent for so many years, so the second brother has never taken a penny from the third cousin's family. At that time, his parents advised his second brother to let him study hard in domestic universities and strive for places to study abroad at public expense. Although the second brother is young, he is a person with superior IQ. He thought about it and turned his eyes to my eldest brother. At that time, my eldest brother had been demobilized, and he was a worker in a steel plant. He had found a good target, my later sister-in-law. Second brother borrowed money from my eldest brother. Big brother is a loving person. He not only took out all his savings, but also borrowed money from several workers around him to help his second brother pay his tuition. Finally, the second brother's goal was finally achieved. He took the money from my parents' family and chipped in with my eldest brother to study abroad. In my impression, the second brother left like a mud cow into the sea, without any information. Because of this, whenever there is a holiday, when my mother talks about my second brother, her eyes will turn red, she will cry and my father will sigh. I know they are disappointed in my second brother. Later, with the development of the country, going abroad is not out of reach. Many friends and colleagues around me have children who have studied abroad. Suddenly one year, on the eve of Chinese New Year, my father received a letter sent back from abroad, which we thought was sent back by my second brother. But when I opened it, it turned out to be a letter from an overseas Chinese organization similar to the civil mutual aid association, which really said something about my second brother. Said that my second brother had passed away, and he left one last wish to find his roots. The letter asked if any of our relatives would like to go abroad to bring back the ashes of our second brother. Although we are sad, no one wants to do it, because the image of the second brother has long faded in our minds. Later, the family wrote a letter to the mutual aid association, entrusted them to take care of the second brother's funeral, promised us to bear all the expenses, and asked about his death. The reply came soon, and it said: overdose.
On a blind date that year, I took the girl directly to their house, and then I ate and drank, and it was over.
On a blind date that year, the other girl was a teacher and knew a lot about books. It was love at first sight, and the conversation was speculative. At a local tea shop, I was going to send her home after the chat. After all, people are polite.
We strolled on the way to their door, but she didn't wait, didn't say goodbye to me, and I was embarrassed myself! What should I do? What does this mean?
I misinterpreted it at that time and followed her into their house.
Their family is preparing to cook and her mother is carrying water. I went up to help, which attracted her mother's praise. She also smiled, saw my psychological ripples, and turned into the house.
Without saying hello to me, I went into the house again and saw her father sitting on a stool smoking and watching TV. I quickly handed in a cigarette, introduced myself, and then chatted about the situation at home.
Then when they cooked at home, I was worried. I left, didn't, didn't leave, and finally stayed.
When I was drinking with my future father-in-law, the more I drank, the higher I got. Finally, my father-in-law hit it off and took my hand.
Tell me when you are drunk.
"The young man is thick-skinned. Yes, I like it. I agree with this marriage."
Her mother also likes me very much and gives me more food, but she has no objection. I am happy to drink with my father-in-law and hold his hand. "Dad, I will take care of the good voice!"
After dinner, I fell asleep drunk and felt that she was tucking me in.
Then I fell in love, and then I got engaged and married.
Afterwards, my wife said, "I didn't expect you to follow me in the door so shamelessly and stay for dinner."
If it weren't for that self-defeating, how could I have a wife?
My cousin was a little sister when she was young. She doesn't study well, but her emotional intelligence is high. She is a sports student. She wears shorts and practices with a group of men on the school playground every day. Everyone else is tanned and black, but my cousin is white. Coupled with my cousin's lively and cheerful personality, she is simply a heartthrob type.
My cousin has many suitors at school, but my cousin just likes a gangster who does nothing. His parents provided for his cousin to go to college, and his cousin took money to travel, eat, drink and be merry. The money is gone, and the school also expelled my cousin.
Cousin's parents were very angry, so they broke up with the gangster and locked her up. My cousin fled over the wall in the middle of the night, and as a result, my cousin was hit by a car on the expressway.
Cousin Fu was lucky. The collision was not very serious and her leg was broken. The driver goes to the hospital to see her every day and serves her meticulously. My cousin's heart and the driver's heart are getting closer and closer. The key is that the driver is a handsome guy, who is very famous in our place and is really doing it.
Soon the driver proposed to my cousin. At that time, I wrote hundreds of love letters on stationery and bought 99 roses and a diamond ring. My cousin just got married at the legal age.
After marriage, my cousin became a good wife and mother, and devoted herself to taking care of the children at home. When children are older, they go to work in factories, which has changed a lot.
The gangster my cousin liked in those days never lacked women, but he never got married. He did something a few years ago and went in.
My brother-in-law came back from the army that year and was assigned to work in a pharmacy under a pharmaceutical company in the county. After working for several years, the pharmaceutical factory closed down, and the pharmacy where my brother-in-law worked became yellow, so he was laid off. In order to make a living, he works everywhere and pays his own pension insurance.
Because of the difficult life at home, the two sons have to go to school, and the expenses are quite large. He paid enough pension insurance for 15 years and didn't pay it again. Later, his comrades-in-arms knew about it and paid him 50 thousand yuan pension insurance at one time.
Unexpectedly, a few years ago the country had a new policy, and veterans were not allowed to be laid off. Those who leave their jobs have to arrange a second job. My brother-in-law was arranged to work in the local police station, and the state finance of the old-age insurance paid off before was also made up.
Because my brother-in-law's old-age insurance is paid by his comrades-in-arms, he can't enjoy state financial subsidies. When the living conditions are good, the brother-in-law will return this 50,000 yuan to his comrades. Although my brother-in-law spent an extra 50 thousand, this friendship of comrades-in-arms can't be bought with any money.
I once passed the interview by virtue of my cleverness, and got a job with a monthly salary of 15000 yuan, including room and board, but because of my cleverness in the interview, I was fired just three days after I went to work.
20 16 I resigned and went back to my hometown to be a substitute teacher. I thought I would have a chance to become a formal teacher, but I never got a formal job and had to go back to Guangzhou to look for a job. In line with the idea of casting a wide net to catch more fish, I submitted my resume on major recruitment websites. To my surprise, many companies replied to me and asked me to interview in the past.
Among the numerous interview invitations, I chose five that I was satisfied with. After repeated comparison, I chose a company with a high degree of relevance to my major, and the salary was also good. After I become a regular employee, I can get 15000 yuan a month. The key is to include food and shelter.
In order to successfully pass the interview, I did my homework for this company and cleaned myself up from head to toe and from the inside out. At that moment, I was full of confidence and felt that this job belonged to me.
On the day of the interview, I went to that company and found that I was not the only one who came for the interview, and I saw that other people's gas field was so strong. I was full of confidence and suddenly became nervous.
I have a bad habit. When I am nervous, my palm will keep sweating, so I have to hold a piece of paper in my palm.
When it was my turn, the interviewer saw that I was so nervous, so he let me relax and asked me some questions. After I answered them, they asked me if I had any questions or suggestions to tell them.
I thought about all these questions when I was preparing for work, but I was too nervous to speak at that time.
The interviewer saw my embarrassment and returned my information to me, saying that the interview was over and told me to go back and wait for the notice.
After listening to it, I thought, isn't this a polite way to refuse others at ordinary times? No, I must do something to impress them.
So, when I got up, I quietly threw the paper towel in my hand to the ground, and then pretended to go out as if nothing had happened. When I reached the door, I hurried back. The interviewer saw me coming back and asked me if there was anything else. I didn't say anything, but I forgot to take the garbage away.
When I finished, I picked up the paper towel on the floor, saluted the interviewer, said "I'm sorry" and strode away.
Unexpectedly, I received a phone call from the personnel department of that company the next day, saying that I had passed their interview and asked me to work on Monday, with a probation period of one month.
After hanging up the phone, I immediately went out and bought two suits and a pair of leather shoes. In the evening, I invited some close friends and had a meal together.
At dinner, I also told them about the interview process. After listening to this, they all said that my cleverness was really well used, and I was secretly pleased. If I hadn't been clever, the good job with a monthly salary of 15000 wouldn't have belonged to me.
But what I didn't expect was that on the third day of work, the personnel department suddenly informed me that I was fired and asked me to pack my things and leave.
I'm at a loss. I've only been working for less than three days, and I haven't made any mistakes. Even the supervisor praised me for my ability. How can I be fired at once?
I asked the person who came to inform me in fear and trembling, can you tell me the reason? He asked me to follow him and then took me to the interviewer who interviewed me that day.
When they saw me come in, they didn't say anything. They just showed me a surveillance video, which I interviewed that day. It is obvious that I threw the paper ball on the ground on purpose.
I finally realized that my cleverness was discovered by them. I knew it was useless to say anything, so I apologized to them and was ready to leave.
As soon as I turned around, they stopped me and told me that in fact, they didn't admit me because I went back to pick up garbage, but they really recognized my ability. Although I was very nervous at that time, it would not affect my work.
When I left, they also told me not to use so-called cleverness on things I shouldn't use in the future. This is actually a kind of deception, which is essentially different from those so-called white lies.
Later, I sent a message asking the supervisor who took me at that time. I just know that during the interview, a person went back and found that his ID card was lost and could not be found. He suspected that he took it out when he got the information during the interview, so he called the front desk and asked them to help him find it.
They didn't find their ID cards when they watched the surveillance, but they found my cleverness and tricks when I deliberately threw a paper ball back to pick it up.
Although it has been nearly five years, I am smart and self-righteous. In the end, I outsmarted myself and shot myself in the foot, which led to the loss of a rare good job. I still remember it clearly.
Of course, what is more rare than losing a rare good job is that I have learned some truth about being a man through this incident. Here, I would like to share my feelings and thoughts with you:
1. Don't be clever with people or things, otherwise it's easy to be self-defeating and counterproductive. It's ridiculous to gild the lily, and it's sad to be self-defeating
In the Northern Song Dynasty, there was a famous painter named Sun Zhiwei, and many people asked him to paint. On one occasion, he painted a "Nine Yao Star Map" for Shouning Temple in Chengdu. He drew the outline of the character and was invited to a friend's house for dinner. Before he left, he told his disciples to draw this picture.
Sun Zhiwei had a clever apprentice. Seeing that the vase in the boy's hand was empty, he cleverly added a red lotus to the vase. Sun Zhiwei tore up the painting when he came back, and then cursed his apprentice for being clever and self-defeating. It turns out that an empty bottle is Xing Jun's magic weapon. After adding flowers, it becomes an ordinary vase.
Both this story and my interview have proved a truth, that is, you are not allowed to be smart, otherwise it will only be self-defeating, counterproductive, gilding the lily is just ridiculous, and self-defeating is pathetic.
Be confident and don't sell yourself short. If I had been more confident in the interview, I wouldn't have stage fright, and I wouldn't have made stupid things that were self-defeating for fear of failing the exam. Maybe up to now, my job is still a good job with a monthly salary of 15000 yuan, including food and accommodation.
Don't get carried away, but don't be happy because of things, don't be sad because of yourself. After the interview was successful, I bought a suit and shoes and invited my good friends out for dinner to show off. This was my ecstasy, and it also led to my sadness for a long time after I was fired, because the contrast was too great. Therefore, don't get carried away, don't be happy with things, and don't feel sorry for yourself.
The above is my experience and understanding of the self-defeating incident in the interview five years ago, and I was encouraged by you. Or, you have had the experience of self-defeating, so you might as well share it with everyone to learn and grow together.
There was a driver in my previous unit, and her daughter-in-law was from the countryside. Some people say that she is a "village flower" and was chased to death by the driver. But after more than two years of marriage and no children, the driver began to resent it. One is that she can't have children, and the other is that she is vulgar, so she has a good relationship with a divorced woman at work.
After two people were together for more than half a year, the woman became pregnant. The driver was so happy that he divorced his wife at once. This daughter-in-law is also cruel enough. Without saying a word, she took the clothes and left.
The driver and his lover Zheng Erba arranged a wedding and gave birth to a daughter a few months later. The three of them live a happy life.
It is said that the driver's original daughter-in-law went to work in the city after divorce and sold clothes to a boss. Because she was good-looking and capable, she later became a proprietress and gave birth to twins.
The incident reached the driver's ears, and the driver felt something was wrong. He went home to look at his daughter and suddenly found that he was nothing like himself. So I hesitated for a long time and went to the hospital for an examination, only to know that I was the one who couldn't give birth to a child. ...
No wonder this woman pursues herself without asking for anything in return, and she doesn't want anything from herself. I regret that I didn't listen to my daughter-in-law and refused to go to the hospital for examination. What's hateful is that I'm cuckolded and I didn't know all these years. ...
-in this way, I gave a beautiful and virtuous daughter-in-law to someone else, married a daughter-in-law who didn't know who it was, and raised a child who didn't know whose child it was ... Isn't it a self-defeating thing! [Cover your face] [Cover your face] [Cover your face]